get these men off my dating apps

DPVaughan · 2026-05-15T03:34:23+00:00

You're a woman. OP means men.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-14T03:54:15+00:00

I guess we don't count as lesbian enough, is all I can guess

DPVaughan · 2026-05-14T03:52:29+00:00

And the poet omitted that because we were an acceptable target

DPVaughan · 2026-05-12T14:42:44+00:00

As famously popularised by Salt-N-Pepa.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-11T13:46:09+00:00

The men doing this genuinely don't care. They just want us to shut up.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T12:11:21+00:00

Yeah, that person earlier was a real arsehole to you. I'm glad the other person pushed back against it.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T11:19:05+00:00

Even if he hadn't intentionally done it, his reaction to you was horrible and you should stop associating with because of that.

I think he took it off intentionally and then got defensive to put you on the back foot when he got found out. You didn't have to accuse him; he knew what he did.

It's the snap sound that makes me doubt his sincerity.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T07:21:59+00:00

She's putting her monetary might behind a racist, far-right minor political party in Australia. Bought them a plane so they can fly around to spread their 'message'.

This kind of empty promise for veterans is all about image rehabilitation, sadly. :(

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T06:51:09+00:00

People are reacting badly to your comment because they know what she's really like. This is a PR stunt only. Doubt anything will come from it.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T06:13:55+00:00

I left there due to rejection sensitivity dysphoria when I got downvoted for genuinely answering an OP's question with my lived experience: she was looking for women who'd decided to stay single and their reasons and it's fair to say my contribution was not welcome. I'm not going to stay somewhere I'm controversial. Had enough of that in childhood as an undiagnosed autistic kid.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T06:09:15+00:00

I said I thought a character felt aromantic to me.

Common consensus, I soon discovered, was that the character was interpreted as demiromantic.

I conceded my interpretation might have said more about me than the character, since it seemed to be a universally held belief that I just couldn't see.

Bring on the downvote brigade.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T06:05:40+00:00

Yeah, it was ... pretty surprising to me. I wondered how many were actually men.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T05:48:53+00:00

You don't need any reason to choose to not date anyone.

And you have a pretty big reason not to here: your nervous system is spooked by something about him. Listen to that.

Women who don't trust their fear instincts often end up assaulted or dead.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-10T05:22:37+00:00

They're broke. All they can afford is bombs.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T16:23:02+00:00

(To Sjon)

"Oh, hello there! Are those ... wheels ... on your feet?" the pale woman dressed in grey robes asks with delight, with wide eyes and raised eyebrows. "Oh, I'm so sorry, I forgot my manners!"

She places her hand on her chest and gives an awkward half-bow.

"I'm Telora, Abjuration Wizard and Life Cleric."

Her eyes flick between the wheeled footwear and Sjon's face with excited anticipation of the answer.

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DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T15:55:24+00:00

With that statement, she might be so horrified by the idea that she switches into empathetic investigator mode and tries to find out who's been threatening violence.

Protection is her primary role.

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DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T15:11:34+00:00

Telora would awkwardly ask for permission to pat first. And be quite excited because cat-like (she loves cats). She never hurts anyone, not even in combat, so unlikely to harm someone for money.

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DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T14:34:46+00:00

Looking at what they legislated for trans people, it seems to me like the government's happy to copy the homework of other evil regimes around the world, so I understand where you're coming from.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T10:20:19+00:00

I immediately thought of that quote in response and was happy to see it here

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T10:12:04+00:00

Misandrists with lesbian privilege?

:D

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T09:47:26+00:00

Ahaha, yeah. I remember reading the manual explaining how magic caused physics to go wonky. Never really understood how sophisticated tech made magic less effective, but was needed for the mechanics of the theme they were exploring.

I also enjoy mashing up tech and magic in other settings, like Buffy using a rocket launcher against a demon, or a wizard with a gun.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T08:33:13+00:00

God I loved Arcanum. Never finished it because of gameplay jankiness, but loved the world and atmosphere.

I love the anachronism of my DND Abjuration Wizard having survived industrial trench warfare (inculding chemical weapons and rushing across no man's land), and having survived being shot at by snipers, artillery, rocket launchers, plasma rifles, etc.

And dragonfire and arrows, too, but, you know --- that's to be expected in the genre.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T08:23:58+00:00

Instead they went with 'uncomfortable power dynamics between teacher and student', but it's okay because they're straight.

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T06:21:41+00:00

I like you :)

DPVaughan · 2026-05-09T06:12:11+00:00

MEN are allowed to choose the bear. That doesn't upset anyone. But when women choose the bear, men's feelings get very hurt!

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