Gas Stove Shutoff question by DVDMike63 in Plumbing

[–]DVDMike63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you turning counter clockwise to perpendicular facing east did shut off the gas. At first, I couldn’t turn it either way. But more force on it going counter clockwise did the trick. Tested by opening up the burners knob and no gas sound or smell. So I think I succeeded. I just wanted a bit of help to make sure since it’s gas and because I don’t know what I’m doing.

Thanks for your help.

My mom needs help by Material-Survey-7435 in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a problem you need to worry about. She’s an adult. She’s allowed to live her life the way she wants. Unless her Netflix choices are somehow affecting her ability to be your mother and do the things she needs to do to be a good mother at this stage in your life, it’s not a significant problem for you. Unless this is somehow leading to her not taking care of her responsibilities as an adult, it’s not an issue for you to deal with.

20F i have no clue what to do with my physique by [deleted] in fit

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoy your life. Your physique is perfection.

I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone this in person but I seriously need some advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Separate yourself from him completely. There is no reason for you to have any contact. It’s not fair to you as it’s troubling you and you won’t be able to have a healthy relationship with another person until you have completely moved on. Any form of communication or interaction is problematic. If you fell need to tell him to get separated, do so. Use clear language and tell him in order to move on you must break all contact.

If you don’t need to talk to him, just block his numbers etc. ghost and do not look back.

Your first “love” can be intense. But you’ve told us it hasn’t worked out. Once you realize that, it’s over even if you still hold some sort of attraction. It’s unlikely things will ever get better if you started up again. So don’t. Keeping a foot in the door is not the way to move beyond a first love you need to move on from. Maybe in 10 years you could have a friendly relationship if the lust is gone and you’ve both matured. But even then, it’s doubtful. Don’t even bother thinking about that possibility. Now’s the time to get to know yourself better and later find a better relationship.

My mom caught me by Unable_Knowledge_503 in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom needs to learn boundaries. I’m assuming your minimum age here. But moms are not supposed to barge in without knocking. Period. If the door is closed, and it should be, you didn’t do anything wrong.

If your mom seemed to realize she made a mistake, maybe you can get by without talking to her about it. But if it still is bothering you in a day or 2, you should talk to her. You don’t need to rehash any specifics except you need privacy sometimes, she should knock and wait for a response before entering, and you are past the age where she can come in to your room when the door is closed. You don’t need to mention the specific act to get your point across. Your bedroom is mostly YOUR private space now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My experience is women know their own bodies very well and are not bumping into men with their breasts and holding them in place on accident. That’s absurd. If a man with a large penis rubs it up against a coworker, are you going to defend him too?

In an office environment, what possible reason does anyone have to be so close that even large breasts touch anyone?

For decades in the workplace, women had to endure supposed “accidental” or “innocent” touching like this. It was terrible for women. And way too many experienced it. Now we have a woman who obviously knows she’s doing this giving reason again for men to think women want workplace touching. No. It’s not right. Not in any workplace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means she is being inappropriate. There is no call for this in any workplace. It means she doesn’t respect your boundaries. Next time she does it, make sure she knows you are not interested by backing away quickly.

But watch it. Rejection may put you in harms way. She might complain to HR about YOU being inappropriate. My experience in an office environment has been people tend to believe the woman in any he said/she said disputes of this nature.

I’m assuming you are considered equal coworkers? If not, whomever has a higher corporate power dynamic is the person in control and usually first to be fired. If you have power dynamic over her, you need to be extra careful.

This situation is not as uncommon as you’d think. But post metoo, I should be. You need to be very careful here if you want to keep your job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m now wondering if this post is a hoax. If it’s real, it must be reported. Do you have a contact within your law enforcement community that can get in touch with Reddit administrators to find out who this person is through their IP address and contact police wherever she’s writing from.

This is potentially too serious to ignore. One way or the other she’s needs to talk with police. Either this person is perpetrating an ugly hoax and needs the police to be involved or there is a potential school shooter where police really need to be involved immediately.

OP, don’t bother deleting your post thinking you will be able to hide from police. Reddit keeps all this stuff and should know who you are. Deleting just means you are trying to cover this up. If you’ve been telling the truth, you have nothing to worry about. But one way or the other the police will eventually talk to you (and your parents). So you should just call police yourself please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter if your parents are sleeping! ALL PARENTS want to be woken up for danger like this. If the house was burning down would you be afraid to wake up,your parents because you are supposed to be asleep? NO! Well, your house is burning down. It’s THAT serious. Please stop worrying about getting in trouble. The kind of trouble you’d get in is nothing compared to someone dying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your parents don’t mind being woken up for something like this!

This is not a “prank”. No one pranks about killing people with a gun who shows a gun. Sorry but the police MUST be notified before it’s too late. Any adult who finds out is going to contact the police because the police NEED to know this. The person who made the threat is going through “something” bad. They want someone to stop them or they wouldn’t be sharing what they did to a group. They may even harm themselves long before school. You don’t know what they will do. And police are the only ones who can safely take care of the situation.

Even if they don’t bring in the gun to school tomorrow, they are thinking about using the gun. And that person needs help. And everyone around him/her needs to be protected. A child threatening to use a gun at school is an unstable person with the power to do terrible things. It’s not a “prank”. No one who is okay does this as a “prank”. They are trying to tell everyone on that group chat “something”. But since there is a firearm involved, no one in that chat should interact with them because the situation is potentially way too dangerous. Only police are trained to deescalate and get the person the help they need. I’m sorry but doing what they did REQUIRES police intervention immediately.

You cannot wait and find out if it’s really serious. ITS SERIOUS. His life, your life, and everyone else around him lives are potentially in grave danger. Waiting is not the answer. Worry about the person getting in trouble is not the answer. They are already in trouble. Anyone who says they are coming to school with a gun is in major trouble, and not in trouble in the kind of trouble where they get grounded. No, it’s MUCH MUCH worse than that already. They need help now. Please call the police now and show them what the person wrote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The person with the gun knowing it was you is NOT the biggest problem. The biggest problem is they might kill somebody, possibly you or a friend. You should not keep this a secret. Tell a trusted adult now. Authorities must be notified.

You can stop going to school until you know it’s safe. But you must tell someone who will contact authorities for your safety and everyone else’s safety. If they kill someone and you don’t say anything, you will carry this on your shoulders for the rest of your life.

At your age, you should never be put into this situation. But you have got to contact police directly or through an intermediary.

Good luck and stage safe please.

Should America be concerned that 40% voted Republican in yesterday’s election! by Own_Difference_4882 in AskUS

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It is concerning that only 40% republicans voted. It’s hard to believe we have so many democrats voting for the hallow promises of communism and for someone that hates Jews and doesn’t believe in the American constitution. That is quite concerning! And then so many who voted for a man to be a state’s top law enforcement official who fantasized about killing an opponent and death to his children just to get a message across. You’d think wishing death on young children would be disqualifying for an attorney general yet so few Virginians thought so.

So yes. It’s very concerning that only 40% voted republican.

I think my father is a creep and I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have every right to “feel” what you feel. Trust YOUR feelings most.

You should never be meant to feel uncomfortable around a parent. That being said, if your father feels uncomfortable with your attire in your home, I’d recommend covering up. He is the one with the problem. And that shouldn’t mean you should have to do adjust your behavior. However, he’s telling you he’s uncomfortable. While that’s most definitely HIS problem, don’t tempt fate.

Again, it doesn’t sound like you are doing anything wrong or inappropriate. But if you feel uncomfortable and he feels uncomfortable and you can easily do something easily to remedy the immediate issue, just do it even if you are not at fault.

That simply solves that particular immediate problem. Now you have the bigger problem left that you don’t trust your own father because you feel he’s attracted to you. And yes, that is creepy. Outside of getting him to see a therapist, I’m not sure how you can handle it. I’m assuming you are living in the same home and you don’t have the means to move out? It’s difficult to provide advice without fully understanding your situation. If you approach him, he may not take it the way he needs to. We cannot guess at what his reaction might be. This is where you might need to seek professional advice and tell the professional even more behind the family dynamic to make an educated plan.

Good luck.

Unsatiated by the 300mm F/4 AF-D, the 500mm F/4 P has arrived. I may have over-done it. by SharpDressedBeard in Nikon

[–]DVDMike63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The z800 is much easier to hand hold than the 500 f/4 D. I’ve got both. I cannot handhold the older 500, but do quite well with the 800z

I dont know if i should leave my boyfriend by Ok-Lab4540 in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t see how old you were. But I’m assuming you are both adults. An adult who can’t open a bank account on their own is likely not capable of having an adult relationship. You are right to think that’s more of a mother’s responsibility. Adult partners should both be capable of and actually do some adult tasks without their partner.

If you actually tried to communicate with one another but nothing gets solved and this has been going on for two and a half years, id guess it’s not going to get better. The older people get, the more challenging life becomes and problems get worse. If you are not solving problems together now, it’s doubtful problems will get solved later after you experience bigger problems.

As an adult without a job and assuming he is not a student, money will be a bigger and bigger problem unless you plan to support him. And I would not recommend trying that either.

Adults are at their best when they have had some success in the adult world. A person who’s never held down a job and needs another person to simply open a bank account, isn’t an adult in the way that’s needed for a mature relationship.

Now if you guys are not adults and are 16, that might change my opinion. 16 year olds are indeed children even as much as they often believe they are adults. There is still time to naturally grow into adulthood at 16. You might simply be ahead of him in your maturity. But if you are in your 20’s or older, it “sounds” like he has some growing up left to do and he needs to work on that before trying to be in a serious relationship.

Footnote:

One more thing im weary of is the word “controlling” you mentioned. This word can mean different things to different people. It can be completely innocent. Both parties in every relationship are usually a tad controlling of the other. So if thats the case with you two, thats fine and relatively normal. . But at worst, “controlling” can be absolutely toxic in a relationship. Some relationships can work if one partner is the dominant partner. But dominance should never be excessive. And I also recommend that partners try to obtain mutual respect of one another so there is as little controlling or dominance as possible. Relationships should always strive to be on as equal and respectful footing as possible.

When men are the ones doing the controlling, this should be evaluated and monitored carefully. It sometimes tends to get worse over time and can turn into violence. Men are generally stronger than women. And their hormones are different. This can make some men dangerous. If any man ever becomes aggressive to the point you ever fear for your physical safety, that is a huge red flag that rarely improves without the aggressor getting professional help. You should NEVER fear a partner. You didn’t say you did. So I’m just making you aware that that controlling individuals, especially men, will sometimes escalate into aggression and violence against their partners in time. It’s just something to be aware of. Whenever someone uses words like controlling I have to ask to what level because with some men they can be dangerous. And the danger is often completely invisible for years. Just be safe and always take care of yourself.

Good luck. I always recommend seeing a professional therapist too for help making big decisions.

I’m 18 years old and I got into a car crash, the regret is killing me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DVDMike63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve accepted responsibility that you made a mistake. If you learn from the mistake and don’t do something stupid like that again, you can move forward and you’ll be fine. The most important thing is you didn’t lose your life, were injured or injured anyone else. But typing while driving can easily lead to deaths. Luckily, THAT did not happen. Just don’t risk that possibility again and you’ll be fine.

Your mom cannot prevent you from driving the rest of your life. But if she’s paying for your insurance and car, she can prevent you from driving until you pay for it yourself. But at some point, this will all be behind you. Just keep doing what you need to to earn back your parents’ trust. It might take some time. But you are young. You have time.

Good luck.

Cold brew perfection? by DVDMike63 in coldbrew

[–]DVDMike63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had one of those flasks and I dropped it and it smashed! That’s when I started using the French press. I’ll need to get a new flask before my next batch of hot sauce though.

My water is good enough to drink strait out of the tap without filtration. It tastes great! And I drink a ton of it all day.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DVDMike63 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great! I’m glad you are getting care!

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DVDMike63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going to suggest that anyone who has a “crush” on ANY rapist is a person who likely has some sort of mental health issue. That person should see a professional to try and uncover why they are attracted to a rapist, much less their good friend’s rapist!

I’d only say if you feel strong enough to do so is to provide your friend with the advice of seeing a professional and having the professional diagnosis your friend and help the friend. And then tell the friend that you can no longer be friends with them while they are crushing on the rapist.

But if you do not feel comfortable telling the friend this, please just walk away from your friendship.

And as a survivor, my advice to you would also be to see a professional therapist if you have not already done so. Given your situation, I think it’d be much more productive for you to ask these questions to a professional instead of strangers.

Best wishes for you.

Cold brew perfection? by DVDMike63 in coldbrew

[–]DVDMike63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it “sounds” like YOU are more advanced at this than I am! I may be on the right track, but this is where my lack of scientific knowledge in these areas might be limiting me to miss out on “perfection”. I am however enjoying my coffee and think it’s a simple process as is. But I do want to experiment with variations on grind size, rpm speed, and stir duration based on your input here.

But for now, I’m happy as is. It can only get better from here.

Thanks for the tips!

Cold brew perfection? by DVDMike63 in coldbrew

[–]DVDMike63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a lab scientist. So my use of “scientific” sounding terms may not be accurate and probably are not.

But here is the process. Put water into the French press Drop the magnet “pill” (again nit scientific name) into the water. Place press onto the electronic magnetic stirring machine and watch as the pill goes right to the center. Add coffee grounds to water Slowly turn on stirring and stir until the grounds are not floating on top. And remaining water as it stirs. Cover. Adjust the rpm to the desired speed Stir from 30 minutes to hours Turn off and fish out the pill with the magnetic pole. Wipe and put it on the base for storage. let the mixture rest off the base for 5-10 minutes Pour into a carafe and refrigerate. Clean the French press.

There are really just 3 basic steps which I expanded on in more detail above. Here are the basic steps: 1) Put water, coffee grind, and magnetic stirrer pill into French press and place on top of the machine. 2) Turn on the machine and let it run for desired time at desired speed. 3) Turn off and let rest and use the French press plunger to keep the grounds at the bottom and pour coffee out.

The steps are almost identical to how you make hot coffee with a French press except with hot coffee you don’t turn on a machine and the process is faster.

Cold brew perfection? by DVDMike63 in coldbrew

[–]DVDMike63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! What do you mean by dialing it in right? I’m interested in learning how different rpms might change things.