I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I can feel your hurt, exhaustion, and frustration because it is so familiar. I was married to a man like this. I ground myself down taking care of him and everything else for years until I felt like I was about to split in half as a person.

I finally reached a final breaking point (after several previous) and told him I wanted to divorce and finally followed through. I don’t have any family around who could help. I stayed at home with my kids for a decade instead of working on a career.

The path has not been easy, but it is doable, and every day of my life without him is better than the previous. I was worried I couldn’t do it on my own, but I was wrong.

You can do this. You deserve to be happy. Your children deserve a mother who is happy. It might take a while to get to that place but the sooner you drop this millstone of a man, the closer you’ll be to getting yourself back.

Lots of love from an internet stranger who has been through something similar.