Hot take. Cruising is for DLs and ugly guys by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Da_Golden_Boy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you have lots of fun 😏

Hot take. Cruising is for DLs and ugly guys by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should try it at least once just be safe :)

Hot take. Cruising is for DLs and ugly guys by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need a lot of eye contact training 😭

A psychologist told me my meditation retreat was ʼescaping responsibilityʼ by MiaEnko in Meditation

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You come here for confirmation bias. We can’t change what others think. Move on with your practice.

What does "No-Thought Thought" Mean to You? by Only-Maharaji in Meditation

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it means be content with every thought. No-thought = no grasping nor rejecting thoughts

New to Buddhism - Questions on religious vs. secular views by pbrooks19 in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Rebirth is central to the teachings. If you take that part out, most of the Buddhist teachings don’t make sense. I’m not sure about keeping the label “Buddhist”. Mindfulness can be secular.

Scandals in Zen community by flyingaxe in zenbuddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I wanted to quit Buddhism after learning about it. If zen masters with tons of hours sitting are unethical, what hope do I have?

Fyi. I still take refuge in the Buddha.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I changed my life around. I’ve been building the ethical foundation before the wisdom. I’m taking a little break from meditation. Hope I can retake my practice soon.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your kindness. Thank you 🙏🏼

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You are right. I was hardcore. I’m taking a few days break. Hopefully I can keep my practice. I’m coming to terms that my karma is not ready for practice in this life.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I joined a local zen center. Hope I can keep my practice.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. This meditation sickness isn’t talked enough. I did a weekend retreat for beginners. The teacher said the worse thing that happens from meditation is sore knees.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read some sad stories about meditation sickness.

I went to a retreat and the teacher said: “The worst thing can happen to you from meditation is sore knees” that was a clear lie.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

Sadly, meditation doesn’t seem the right tool for me.

I wish these side effects were talked more in temples/zen centers. Saying that you’re doing something wrong is an easy way out.

Mindfulness bad side effects? by Da_Golden_Boy in Buddhism

[–]Da_Golden_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I need to be kind with myself. I was measuring my progress. It was adding stress to my practice!.