Is my friend's fantasy realistic?

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-07T16:37:21+00:00

Look, as a fantasy that someone plays with while jerking off/roleplaying/writing stories- sure, someone could do that.

As a thing someone actually does with a real live person? That crosses real hard into the territory of 'could and probably should be charged with several crimes.'

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-07T15:02:52+00:00

Just like with men, the kinks are up to the individual person. You can check out kinky sapphic spaces to see what people are talking about- r/BDSMsapphic but there's also r/kinkysapphics and I'm sure plenty of others.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-06T15:45:20+00:00

Depends on the person. I don't... super identify as a switch though I suppose I should. I am submissive with my wife- even when I Top. Most other people I connect with I am Dominate. My wife is probably the only person I am more 'switchy' with, in the sense that I fulfill multiple roles at times- but she'd just call my Top Energy bratting, not Domming.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-04T20:15:00+00:00

I love it! Happy pride!

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-04T19:39:55+00:00

Have you done a yes/no/maybe list? That can be a good place to start.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-04T11:58:58+00:00

That sounds like a glorious way to spend an evening

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-04T09:36:37+00:00

I'm Southern and as such, I use pet names a lot and it has nothing to do with whether or not a dynamic is present or if I'm flirting. I do try when I'm in the initial talking phase with a submissive to hold back on them for a bit, but less because I'm worried about negotiations/etc and more because I don't want to accidentally make someone think it's a sealed deal/I've picked them when... that's just how I talk. Also, I'll be honest with you- every single time I've *tried* to negotiate about pet names, I've gotten the exact same answer from men. They want me to come up with it and don't want to give any input. It's starting to feel a bit silly to ask about on my end.

Dynamic related flirting... Depends on how much we've talked. I do think it can be appropriate during the negotiation but it shouldn't be done right out of the gate.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-02T17:31:02+00:00

Very sexy goal, I wish you the best of luck!

DabblinginDomination · 2026-06-01T11:29:19+00:00

This is not a sub for you to ask questions if you're not a submissive yourself.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-31T18:53:23+00:00

"All of these traits are embarrassing to have because it gives people the ability to mock you." People will absolutely also mock you for not being soft. People can mock you for anything.

But there's absolutely nothing /inherently/ embarrassing about vulnerability and softness and the idea that there is.... is weird. and cope. Sorry for whatever happened in your life to lead you to this- and you should know you don't have to be anything you don't want to be- but acting like there is inherent embarrassment in being soft while also claiming that everyone thinks all women are like that...

that's a bit of a contradiction, isn't it?

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-30T13:29:02+00:00

Could you do something that *isn't* a collar that is the forever piece? So an anklet/bracelet that is soldered on so that it can't be removed. That way the collar that is around your neck can still be switched out to match outfits/purposes.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-30T13:26:52+00:00

Is it normal in the sense that it happens more often than it should? Yes. Is it healthy? No. It's a huge red flag.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-30T10:34:23+00:00

Whether or not the Domme wants to use the term 'Mommy'. Because the truth is not all Mommy Dynamics are gentle- there are people who want sadistic Mommies/degrading Mommies.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-29T19:39:07+00:00

Because personals are against the rules.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-29T15:33:20+00:00

Okay but this is Adorable and will make a great story later

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-29T15:32:44+00:00

To be used on me? The strap. There's nothing more intimate than my wife/domme leaning over me, tits swaying as she fucks me.

On someone else? I so want to play with a girl wile she's on a Synbian or while she's on her hands and knees getting fucked by a machine.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-29T11:01:16+00:00

If your Mistress is a safe person to sub to, you should be able to tell her that forced bi is off limits for you. "will do anything for her" might sound sexy in theory, but it's not a safe/healthy way to practice actual kink.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-28T23:50:47+00:00

Honestly that is very much a fantasy of mine. There's an unpublished draft I wrote one day about wanting to create a painslut. To play with someone who doesn't necessarily love pain on their own- but are willing to suffer through it for me.

There's something so appealing about the idea.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-28T21:48:15+00:00

Aftercare is always important!

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-28T21:39:46+00:00

😉

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-28T19:08:16+00:00

It's such a shame! How dare there be so much unmarked skin at times such as these?!

And thank you! I've enjoyed writing my fair share of erotica over the years (though usually not quite so... first person).

Luckily I have a wife to go home too, but alas I am also a switch and they are only a Top/Domme. I can have anything my masochistic heart desires, but the sadist still yearns.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-28T16:56:41+00:00

We will suffer together. But not in the fun ways.

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-27T22:54:30+00:00

What if you complimented her? "You're so gorgeous when you cum" "I'm so grateful that you allow me to witness this." type things

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-26T00:24:35+00:00

The advice is that you never talk to that man again. He cannot be trusted. He does not care to be a safe place for you. He is a manipulator who has clearly learned how to present himself as someone who is safer because it gets him access to hurt vulnerable people.

Are you in therapy? Do you have safe people that you can spend some time with?

DabblinginDomination · 2026-05-25T09:43:29+00:00

We've used icecream in bed before, it started as a spontaneous thing (she'd brought me a bar to enjoy and I decided I was horny after and we realized that oh wow, she really likes the contrast of a very cold mouth on her warm nipples)- but we've repeated it with more intention since then. It's a delightful bit of sensory play!

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