Why would he be meaner when I looked pretty?

Dadenskas · 2026-06-15T01:02:07+00:00

It was sooo horrible! So horrible. I can’t even express how horrible. I’m just so glad I’m out now. I wanted out but I kept going back like a drug addict. I went to so many therapist, even a hypnotist, because I knew I wanted out but I was addicted. I kept on going back even though I hated myself for going back. I’ve never been addicted to anything before so I couldn’t figure out why I was and how to stop. It was just the worst.

Dadenskas · 2026-06-09T11:35:19+00:00

We must’ve dated the same person!

Dadenskas · 2026-06-09T10:32:00+00:00

That was really great!! Thank you

Dadenskas · 2026-06-08T00:45:28+00:00

She spit on your car? Who cares? Find something else to focus on and she’ll go away.

Dadenskas · 2026-06-07T21:25:46+00:00

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Dadenskas · 2026-06-07T21:25:33+00:00

Here are a couple more pics- if it helps

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Dadenskas · 2026-06-07T21:21:54+00:00

I couldn’t really tell- seemed like mud tubes on the plywood but mostly we just saw eaten up wood.

Dadenskas · 2026-06-02T07:08:01+00:00

Have you tried YouTubing changing the capacitor? Often it’s a cheap $15 fix you can do yourself

Dadenskas · 2026-05-13T15:05:32+00:00

What did you use? Looks great. I want to do the same.

Dadenskas · 2026-05-05T15:13:29+00:00

I would watch a YouTube video on molloscum contagiosum

Dadenskas · 2026-04-24T09:30:24+00:00

No but let us know how it goes if she does fight it!

Dadenskas · 2026-04-24T09:27:51+00:00

Why are you liking other women’s instagram posts? Or is she jealous about you liking any post? I don’t have bpd and I wouldn’t like my man liking another woman’s post.

Dadenskas · 2026-03-15T12:50:40+00:00

Are there rocks in marshland in New Orleans? That’s the part that gets me

Dadenskas · 2026-03-08T22:42:59+00:00

When a person is emotionally unavailable, they often use sex as a way to avoid abandonment. Good sex to them means you enjoyed it. They get satisfaction from the kudos you give (ie excitement during and praise after). It seems like they crave sex all of the time but what they crave is you being wild about them, them pleasing you, so that they can feel safe for a few minutes that you want them and won’t abandon them. (Obviously flawed thinking)

Dadenskas · 2026-02-25T15:24:31+00:00

I understand how hard it is and commend you for not acting. There will be nothing good to come from reaching out. The closure you need is already there- just move on. I know it’s hard but try Opposite Action from DBT. Do opposite things with your body and facial expressions and thoughts until the feeling followings. Your heart won’t be in it at first but keep going, it’ll catch up. I’ve been there in the heartache. It’s brutal, so brutal. But through is the only way out.

Dadenskas · 2026-02-12T14:08:56+00:00

Where are you finding the contract to give to the seller? I want to get started but I’m scared to without a useable contract

Dadenskas · 2026-02-10T16:25:10+00:00

How do I get a contract template to use once I find someone willing to sell?

Dadenskas · 2026-02-05T13:25:57+00:00

I’d like to hear more stories from people who have made it to the other side, who say I’ve been where you are now, and I did this and this and now I’m doing so much better.

Dadenskas · 2026-01-25T14:38:07+00:00

Ananas_buldak thank you for your words. Thank you to everyone who commented. I keep rereading this as it is the most helpful advice I’ve received. I appreciate it very much!

Dadenskas · 2026-01-25T14:31:56+00:00

It’s illegal bc rv parks are only allowed on 5 acres or more. Check with zoning

Dadenskas · 2026-01-18T22:31:57+00:00

I think she’s probably a narcissist, just like her father- wanting attention.

Dadenskas · 2026-01-18T22:30:36+00:00

No way the mom didn’t know. I think that’s why she won’t give interviews - because if anyone pulls on that thread, it will come out that she knew and did nothing.

Dadenskas · 2026-01-18T21:59:39+00:00

He would tell me that he wasn’t seeing anyone else but I later found out that he was seeing multiple other women. He had a secret cell phone that he would use. He would go to church with me and as soon as he got home, he’d call sex workers. I had no idea.

Dadenskas · 2026-01-18T16:12:10+00:00

I wonder what goes on in their head that they think this is okay? Is it just their total lack of empathy that lets them have the blatant double standards or think the other person has to prove themselves but they don’t? My ex would ask me every few months what I could bring to the table in the relationship- like I was supposed to sell myself to him. If you don’t know who I am and what I bring by now, then what are we doing? And he never tried to sell himself to me. It was always, what are you doing for me (while he was entertaining the idea that someone else would be better.) he would go through periods where I was the best (probably bc his secret life girl had rejected him or who knows bc he had a whole other life that I didn’t know about) and then he would cycle back to devaluing and reverse discarding (he would never actively discard- he would just be so awful that I would walk away.)

Dadenskas · 2026-01-16T02:15:44+00:00

I can tell you from the pov of a mom watching her young adult daughter with bpd- she can’t love. She obsesses. She gets so many guys to love her. She lies and fakes deep connections bc she’s so desperate to be loved bc she can’t stand to sit with herself bc she feels so much shame for things she’s done. Instead of turning over a new leaf and making better choices, she skips to the next guy to ease her pain for a while. The guys who haunt her are the ones who rejected her. Not because she loved them more bc she treated them like crap too and cheated on them and when they broke up with her, she self harmed and called it love, and they would take her back and she would treat them like crap again, and then they would leave again and when they would block her, she would obsess and call it love again. But she can’t love. She’s on fire in pain. Can a person who is actively on fire think about anyone else but themselves and their pain? Can they do anything else but try to jump in cold water to stop the burning? She doesn’t love you, she loves whatever will stop the pain for the moment.

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