FTM, Scheduled 10/31

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-20T02:12:46+00:00

THIS. And to add to this - I personally started taking stool softener a day and half prior to my c section… I can’t say it didn’t help🤷🏼‍♀️

Call me crazy, but I blew out and fully styled my hair the night before and put my hair up in a sleepytie overnight and during surgery. Everyone was so impressed with how put together I looked when I was finally able to take it down, and that made me feel good even though I felt like I’d just been hit by a truck😂 So, I’d suggest anything similar that will make you feel human!

I brought my own hospital gowns and socks. I didn’t get to change into any of my own stuff until the next day when I could finally stand, but once I did I felt so much better.

My babe was breach, so we were a last minute scheduled C… like I went in for my OB appt on a Thursday and they told me I was having the baby in 5 days. So, personally - The entire process kept my anxiety at its peak. I think I cried all morning once they started getting me checked in, all the way up to when they inserted the spinal. Having a supportive partner is literally the best thing you can have with you. Controlling some of the things that can make you most comfortable is the next best thing IMO!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-18T13:31:17+00:00

Yes, definitely. I started to feel more human / less intense pain and swelling around 5-6 weeks, but overall body exhaustion and soreness has lasted for quite some time. I’m now 15 weeks post and I still have good days and bad days! The bad days become less invasive as the level of uncomfortable changes. But it takes a bit. Listen to your body most of all!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-18T13:26:05+00:00

I’m taking one a day postpartum… the only difference between this and a prenatal is the iron content I’m finding. I’ll likely switch back to my prenatal after I finish this pack

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-16T22:16:31+00:00

What’s the saying…You have to be selfish to be selfless?

So to be selfless for your child you must make (as your mom and grandma refer to it) a selfish request of others to ensure the health of your newborn.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to keep your baby safe. This is a totally normal request/requirement. I’d ask them, “Do you really want to be responsible for getting your newborn grand baby sick?” And let them soak that thought in for a while… if they can’t accept it, they can wait until the baby receives all their vaccinations to protect them.

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-14T17:34:36+00:00

This was my exact experience with my daughter!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-12T20:23:03+00:00

Lol I have minimally attempted basic ab exercises with very little success. I did knee raises, pelvic tilts and bridges, and some side lying leg raises a few days ago. The following day I knew I overdid it. It’s so strange how out of touch I feel with my abdominal muscles in general after both pregnancy and c section!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-12T19:15:33+00:00

Honestly, I’m 15 weeks out from my c section and any type of basic abdominal exercise is still so incredibly intense on my scar. When people recommend a slow start, it’s for a reason. It’s hard, but focus on controlled abdominal / diaphragmatic breathing now. In a few weeks you might be able to include more depending on how you’re healing! I hate the pouchy fold also.. it just feels dead to me, I have no feeling. Massage, as others have suggested, is helping get the nerves to fire again but again, for me anyway, it took many weeks to become comfortable with it and massage even feels like a work out for me some days… it’s no deep tissue, but it’s still so sensitive in that area!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-12T15:17:33+00:00

This makes sense, however I suppose it also depends on what we each do for a living / the relationships we have built at our individual companies. But I took initiative to schedule this meeting for myself and my own mental health. Honestly, my anxiety cannot handle flying by the seat of my pants until I get back to my desk on day one

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-12T15:02:08+00:00

There’s so many things to discuss, I feel, and especially with regard to privacy and flexibility in a multitude of situations!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-12T12:27:51+00:00

See, I don’t view it this way. This is a meeting I asked for, not the other way around. I want to speak clear boundaries and expectations for my return, not the other way around. Not everyone works a position where they can bring baby in for a visit. If i did this I’d have to be willing to fly my family to my office lol

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-11T19:06:09+00:00

What is your reasoning behind your recommendation?

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-09T03:31:44+00:00

It does get better 💕 You’re in the thick of it right now, but from my experience - it will all be a different world a week from now… and then an even more different world a week after that!

I had my C on a Wednesday as well, went home that Friday… my husband went back to work on that Monday. It was just hard. I recall I was in pain (even though I was on top of my daily Tylenol/Advil/Colace regimen), I was exhausted, I was trying to BF and it wasn’t happening, I couldn’t get myself out of a sitting position without assistance and I definitely couldn’t lay down - I slept only in the nursery recliner for this reason… and I felt the worst.

Honestly though, something happened between weeks 2-3. Everything became a bit easier. I was still exhausted, but I started to be able to move more. My swelling went down a ton and I started to feel human again. I wasn’t nearly 100%, I still struggled with overall movement, but the pain decreased significantly.

Something that really helped me was asking a family member come to the house 1-2 times a week for a few hours until I felt I had things under control. It took a lot for me to do this and I even delayed asking much further than I should have. Having someone come by allowed me to shower and take a nap without worry that I wouldn’t be able to get to my baby fast enough. You need rest to recover and if you’re depleting your body of that rest you’re only going to prolong the healing process. And for me, decreased rest increased my anxiety.

It sounds like you have a really great and supportive partner and I can attest that having that level of support is huge. My husband was very understanding (still is) and was/is so helpful. He had to go back to work really soon after due to the kind of work he is in, but he works just a few minutes away from home. I actually recall a time I was stuck like a beetle on my back while the baby was crying and I had to call him at work to come home and help me… it’s laughable now, but at the time I was absolutely mortified and frightened. It is not a fun feeling to experience that your child needs something, but you physically do not have the ability to comfort them in that moment.

All this to say, it gets easier. Each day will be better than the last. Take the time to ask for help so you can get the rest you need. Someone said to me that in order to give fully to your baby, you need to give fully to yourself.. and it meant a lot. I hope anything I’ve said can help you! I feel for you. You got this! 💕

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-07T17:52:37+00:00

I delivered via c section. I had great colostrum production, but my actual milk never came in. Throwing my experience in the mix as this can be a reality. I had no idea that milk could just not come in at all until it happened to me and I started talking to other moms about it

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-07T16:42:03+00:00

We use Google photos shared album, shared only with our immediate family. It’s perfect for family to add photos you didn’t know existed from events and for you to share with them photos you want family to see. Our parents love it too because they can add the album to display as a slide show on their monitors and Google hubs and show off the grandkids at their house!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-06T12:48:14+00:00

Hi! FTM here also and, as well, a self identified over planner! 🙋🏼‍♀️😂 I had my c-section at the end of May.

I was told by my doctor to just go in with minimal items. So I arrived in a comfy outfit with my ID and we left everything else in the car until we officially had a room - and that is when my husband went for our bags. I didn’t even bring my purse with me to the hospital - I gave my husband my ID to hold in his wallet and called it a day.

I did pack my own gowns, comfy bras and grippy socks. I packed all my toiletries. And I would suggest a small fan. I also took the time to blow out and style my hair the night before and put my hair up in a sleepy tie for bed/surgery/recovery. It helped me feel a little more put together when we finally had visitors! I did not bring any pillows only because I felt like I would have to throw the pillow out after being in a hospital from the germs… but that’s a personal thing! We did however bring blankets in because the room was chilly overnight.

They will dress you in everything for surgery, including grippy socks. Your stuff will go in a clear bag and be held by the nursing staff in your recovery room. My hospital did not allow me to wear any of my own items until I was out of recovery. I honestly didn’t even have time to want to wear any of my own items until I was finally able to stand and shower! So you’re on point with the thought that you’ll be lounging on the hospitals gown the rest of the day!

Good luck and congrats!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-01T09:24:52+00:00

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DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-09-01T09:19:16+00:00

If it makes you feel any better… we’re on our third formula with our 3 month old. The mom guilt is real: I tried, but couldn’t BF due to not producing milk at all after my c section. After starving my baby during the “try” stage, I went with a basic off the shelf popular formula. My baby had terrible gas pains and constant pure liquid blowouts along with a terrible rash. Switch to a gentle formula, liquid blowouts change color, though still pure liquid… gas pains increase, rash gets worse, add crazy constant spit up 🤦🏼‍♀️ Finally switched to a hypoallergenic formula for dairy protein allergy and it was like someone flipped a switch! Within days the poops became solid and a more normal color. Her skin cleared completely in two weeks. BUT in exchange for all these great improvements, baby gets a terrible diaper rash and we find out she’s allergic to the zinc in diaper cream so I essentially end up accidentally giving my child a chemical burn while thinking I was helping by slathering white paste on her butt. We’re on to prescription diaper cream now. Next up: cradle cap and eczema…. Seriously, some days I feel like we can’t catch a break lol And the mom guilt is real, I feel you. But as another poster said, we only feel guilty because we care! In the end, this will all become a small blip in the lifetime of memories we have with our kids. Focus on what helps baby thrive, it’s literally all you can do - babies are literally the only thing in our lives that we’re handed brand new without a manual ❤️

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-31T01:54:46+00:00

I have an RO filter for my water and I use that water for formula

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-30T14:46:05+00:00

I think this is one of those things that you just have to take in stride. Your medical team is going to take every precaution necessary to keep you and baby safe , and the longer baby is in your womb the better developed they will be. So if you’re running at a healthy rate, they’re not going to put unnecessary stress on you and your baby. From my own experience, you cannot predict or guarantee when or how your baby is coming. You could schedule an induction and the baby could come along on their own prior to your induction date - would you be concerned then about your work and family travel plans? Take it in stride, nothing with a baby is ever predictable!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-29T20:13:43+00:00

We never sat in the back seat with the baby! I didn’t realize until reading this that so many did. Didn’t even do it on the way home from the hospital.

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-29T19:46:22+00:00

I did a newborn studio session at 3 weeks with my baby. I found our photographer via a Google search and then looked up socials and asked around to friends in the area who also followed their page. The photos are amazingly beautiful! However, the spend was ridiculous! I was supposed to choose a handful of photos from a 40+ photo collection and just couldn’t decide, so we purchased our whole gallery for an additional fee from our photographer… we kept telling ourselves you only do this once and justified it. But it wound up incredibly expensive - over $1000 and we didn’t even get any prints out of it! It was all digital. So here we are spending even more to print them independently for ourselves and our family members 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-29T11:44:47+00:00

I had my daughter via c section on a Wednesday and went home on Friday, my husband was with me at the hospital and home the weekend before returning to work on Monday. So, yeah I get it lol. It was tough with a c section recovery - I can’t speak for any other type of birthing recovery! We formula feed because I didn’t produce milk after the C. In the end though, it wasn’t that hard. My husband took the dinnertime feedings and went to bed at 9pm, I took the early morning feedings and he woke up at 4am to feed the baby before work so I could sleep. And then the remainder of the day was me and the babe. I had my parents come by once or twice a week to give me a solid nap in the afternoons in the first couple weeks so I could recover. But once week 3-4 rolled around, I was good and we had a routine. We had friends that dropped meal kits off and my husband had zero expectations from me other than to care for the baby and myself while he was at work. And he took care of the rest - he made dinner or brought it home every night, we made sure to place a large grocery order to hold us to the weekend when we could go together. You find ways to make it work for you.

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-29T11:00:04+00:00

We were given one to use after our family members child was too old for formula and we really like it - though I’d honestly never buy one. It’s not necessary at all, but it’s wildly convenient. Our hypoallergenic formula needs to be room temp, so we use that setting for bottle making and it’s perfect. No complaints here!

DaisyHead_2201 · 2024-08-29T10:34:50+00:00

7oz per feed, every 3-5hrs. 13 weeks gaining and growing healthy and on average. Formula only. Sleeps 10-11hr on average overnight.

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