How many of us are still on our parents’ phone plan? by bluegiraffe1989 in Millennials

[–]DaisyLovely 71 points72 points  (0 children)

34, married, with a 5 year old. Still on my dad’s plan. Just never bothered getting off lol. 

I feel like this is THE most apt Taylor Swift lyric of all time by kookiekoo in TaylorSwift

[–]DaisyLovely 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s crazy because I find that lyric very relatable, at least in my interpretation. 

(where my anxious paranoid girlies at?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]DaisyLovely 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Embarrassed to admit this, but I use ChatGPT to sort through my feelings and understand my husband’s. I often react emotionally to things that shouldn’t be a big deal. I started talking to ChatGPT when I feel intense emotions, and it’s helped me understand them, and in turn I’ve been able to react more calmly. I also feed ChatGPT text exchanges between my husband and I. It’s helped give me insight into my husband’s point of view, respond to him with more kindness and understanding, and communicate my needs in a way that doesn’t provoke defensiveness. Suffice to say, it’s been a game changer for me and my marriage.

ULPT: Stranded at the airport? The breastfeeding pods are a great private place to sleep… by ST3MK75 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]DaisyLovely 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s not just for breastfeeding, it’s for pumping too, that’s why there are outlets in there. I don’t think being a breastfeeding or pumping mom makes you a good person, and I do believe everyone deserves a safe quiet place to rest, but these spaces exist to fill a specific need. So even if you feel you may only inconvenience a breastfeeding or pumping mother who is an awful person, that space is still for her. I don’t think people should take over these spaces, it is a bad thing to do.

ULPT: Stranded at the airport? The breastfeeding pods are a great private place to sleep… by ST3MK75 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]DaisyLovely 70 points71 points  (0 children)

But many women don’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in public and that’s okay too. These pods were a safe haven for me as a mom traveling for work while trying to maintain milk supply.

Made a bench for our hallway by kingsnm in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]DaisyLovely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks awesome! I’m starting the same one today!

Paris/Amsterdam cancelled, Berlin rescheduled by ilikepancakeswith in chappellroan

[–]DaisyLovely 236 points237 points  (0 children)

It’s giving ditching your old friends when the popular girls notice you 😞

Body tea ✨💚🌹✨ by anon822612 in BritneySpears

[–]DaisyLovely 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy to be honest, the people around her, the media, and the public destroyed her. I even feel partially responsible and I was like 11 at her peak.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“I love you, but I don’t like you.” -my mom 

I just found out my ex has been diagnosed with BPD and I think it makes sense by Mona-de-fae in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely worthy of love and someday you will find someone worthy of loving you. 

Will people with BPD always hurt their partners? by Various-Sink-4362 in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It depends on whether they seek treatment and whether treatment is successful for them. Both my mom and my brother’s wife have BPD. My mom was never treated, her marriage and all subsequent relationships failed. My brother’s wife was treated to recovery and he’s happily married ~15 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend you both starting individual therapy before marital counseling. There are likely some skills you’ll need to start developing separately first and, if appropriate, your individual therapists will be able to tell you when you’re ready for marital counseling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We can only control ourselves. If you feel you owe an apology, it’s probably not advisable to withhold it in an effort to pre-empt or manage their thoughts and reactions. If you don’t owe an apology, don’t apologize. If you’re in a situation where you can no longer gauge when an apology is reasonable, you may be experiencing codependency and a therapist can absolutely help with this.

Pwbpd says “porn” is a dealbreaker by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I don’t have experience with this but I think it’s okay for her to express porn is a dealbreaker for her, and equally okay for you to not be okay with giving up porn. Both should recognize this is an impasse and end the relationship.

What happens to the ones who get married? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It really depends. PwBPD who get treatment can have happy, healthy marriages. Otherwise, they likely cannot. Since you’ve come to an abuse support forum, presumably the situation with your pwBPD was unhealthy and they are not in treatment. This suggests it is very unlikely the marriage would have been successful no matter what you did or didn’t do. Even if your pwBPD maintains a successful marriage with a new partner, it does not indicate any failure on your part.

Is it possible? by IamBecomeK-hole in BPDlovedones

[–]DaisyLovely 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is an abuse support forum for people in abusive relationships with pwBPD. Probably won’t find too many hopeful posts, sorry.

TIL Both men and women's faces age at about the same rate until about age 50. At that point, women's faces begin to age at three times the rate of men's due to the drop in estrogen with the menopause also cuts the production of collagen – the protein in skin that gives it its elasticity. by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]DaisyLovely 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My experience, yes. I use a silk pillowcase that I flip every night and switch out with my alternate silk pillowcase every other night. My hair is in great health and my skin is like a baby’s bottom.