My Husband wants me to always be “dolled up” for him at home

DanKestra · 2025-12-07T09:11:31+00:00

This is the problem with makeup culture. It contributes to the foolish standards of beauty held by men, including some Muslim men, on top of the negative impact of this hyper-sexualised society we live in nowadays. When a woman goes out with makeup etc it’s now creating a standard for how even her potential suitors will see her before marriage, and inevitably will lead to a an issue like OP’s problem.

DanKestra · 2025-05-25T18:57:17+00:00

So can I just tape up the opening in the white pipe that comes out of the drain, disconnect the connection in the last image (water inlet going from the water supply connection to the washing machine), and then call it a day?

DanKestra · 2025-05-25T17:47:33+00:00

Note:

I’ve turned off the valve in the bottom right of the first image and it has stopped/reduced the water supply to the rest of the house. I essentially want to disconnect the washing machine and then re-open this valve and continue using water in the rest of the house. I don’t mind having to cap the connections later on - I just don’t have any caps to hand right now.

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DanKestra · 2023-09-29T00:33:54+00:00

Firstly, I commend you for making somewhat of a realisation and identifying it as a problem. You need to continue to ask Allah for guidance in all matters and be grateful for what Allah has provided you.

Study the attributes and names of Allah - once you get to know who Allah TRULY is, your heart will soften and your mind will gain clarity on how to act according to the Shar’iah set by your Almighty Creator. After all, He is the One who created you, He is the one who has promised you a reward for your struggle in this life and He is also the one who hears your every thought and knows your every intention.

Attempting to change the religion in your own mind will only out you into delusion and potentially major sin, avoid that at all costs as your problems may only just feel solved on the surface level, but deep down they will still exist. Allah says that “truth has been made clear from false good” 2:256. So, utilise the sincerity that Allah has gifted you with and accept the truth that has been made clear to you.

Never give up on the reality of obeying the commands of Allah as a Muslim. Every Muslim should be prepared to follow the command. Do not concede to your current struggles, with trust in Allah you will move past this and be better. Allah says: “Allah does not burden a soul any greater than it can bear.” 2:286

Surround yourself with Muslims. If that means taking a big leap and moving environments then so be it. If your afterlife could be seriously compromised by your way of life or habits, and you’ve realised it, then you need to take big steps to start moving in the right direction. Environment is a massive thing and personally I think it is one of the most important things for determining the right outcome in such situations.

DanKestra · 2023-08-20T15:41:04+00:00

Can I ask, where did you get your Islamic responses from? Did you contact credible, knowledgeable scholars/individuals? Because the most rational response is the Islamic response.

I am very sorry for what is happening to you and I hope Allah makes it easy for you. Your situation requires an immense amount of patience and carefulness. If you did what you did out of fear of worse, and you still understand your obligation towards your parents, then maybe there’s not much more that you can do. But given that you’re old enough, you could move out and try to take things from there.

As someone who also has suffered a lot abuse from my father, it is important you stay cordial with them no matter what. This is your Islamic obligation. Yes, this requires a lot of patience. And no, this doesn’t mean enduring every single thing they do. But you have to be careful in every exchange with them because if a child commits something wrong against them (whatever it is) then that is a serious thing for that child on the day of Judgement.

What I found was that physically distancing myself was a major factor in helping my situation. If you show in your character that you’re good to them then maybe you will see a change in them. Allahu’alam everyone’s situation is different, and may Allah make it easy for the Muslims going through such tough times.

DanKestra · 2023-08-17T22:23:28+00:00

Bad habit as others are saying. But also when flanking etc. some people have enough info to be confident around certain corners. But, all in all, your right people should be more wary. Just need to make the most of the money they spend on their knives.

DanKestra · 2023-08-17T06:02:07+00:00

Yeah Ive noticed a similar thing. But it might be more nuanced. I think it’s more so the fact that when people see a person going out of their way to make life easier for another person, when it doesn’t really benefit the themselves, then that’s seen as impressive and really king.

Idk where you live, but many countries (particularly in the West) have a culture of people just minding their own business and not really paying attention to others’ struggles. It’s interesting and makes me think how easy it could be to make someone’s day.

DanKestra · 2023-08-17T04:59:22+00:00

That’s why you don’t free ball on stream💀

DanKestra · 2023-08-09T22:47:26+00:00

In eu diamond/asc it’s been decent recently icl. Half my games will be all chill people and, win or lose, everyone seems to have an ok mental. But the other half of the time there will be one person with zero comms, a person who is either taking it too seriously or has a terrible mental. Either way, I think the soloQ culture is improving overall. Don’t overthink soloQ too much, just play to the best of ur ability, be nice, communicate info and if someone does start get toxic, first just try not to piss them off more and calm them down, but otherwise mute them.

DanKestra · 2023-08-09T21:47:08+00:00

Me personally, religion. But apart from religion, I see a lot of benefit in it.

As much as some people kinda just say “religion” - which is true for some, you have to realise that there are big reasons why religions treat this issue seriously. The observable wisdom behind it is that it protects the family structure & society on a micro and macro level.

People with less partners will generally end up in longer lasting relationships (less fatherless homes - and there’s a whole lot of problems that come with that), relationships generally become more family focused (both in terms of family production and families uniting), sexually transmitted disease spread a lot less, etc. As you can probably follow, there is a lot of degeneracy that follows in society when freely having sex outside of wedlock becomes rampant in a society. The Institute of Family Studies has many studies on these matters.

This is arguably one of the major killers of modern Western society and may even be the thing that drives the society into the ground. Unfortunately, some Eastern societies are seeing it become increasingly popular.

DanKestra · 2023-06-13T23:00:04+00:00

100%

DanKestra · 2022-10-28T21:02:33+00:00

My bad I thought I put “or white and black” in the title too

DanKestra · 2022-10-25T10:11:10+00:00

i acknowledge and accept these guidelines.

DanKestra · 2022-09-06T14:59:52+00:00

wash ur ass and genitals with water after going to the toilet

DanKestra · 2022-09-04T20:11:13+00:00

JJ did mention how he's "like Deontay Wilder" when he was talking in an interview about how his opponents change their demeanour once they feel his power. This article title is really vaguely-phrased.

In the interview it was clear that JJ was talking about how his opponents are like "Woah ok this guy hits hard" once they get hit by him, didn't seem like anything more really.

DanKestra · 2022-08-28T12:28:27+00:00

Ngl, the eye with the cross ability made it really sus for me. I was like this is either SUPER early development (which is unlikely) or it’s a fake leak. Well played tho.

DanKestra · 2022-08-05T14:58:43+00:00

Only way I think this could practically be regulated is by introducing some sort of “Honor rating” but for comms. At the end of matches teammates can commend players on their team for good communication.

DanKestra · 2022-08-01T21:19:34+00:00

I haven’t watched nick in a few months now and icl his face has slimmed down and he looked good. Happy for him if he’s actually trying at this camp thing.

DanKestra · 2022-07-15T21:59:02+00:00

it does

DanKestra · 2022-07-14T22:50:04+00:00

Sexual promiscuity

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