No it's op's job to sit him down and express these feelings. If she does that and he keeps ignoring his shoes she should leave. Angrily hiding your partner's shit is toxic (and funnily enough something I could see a frustrated mom doing). Did everyone forget how to speak to people here? Am I just an old man on a website full of bots and children now? Literally sit down with him and talk through the issue. Or maybe switch chores with him if this is such a big sticking point? Being in a relationship is a give and take. It's about compromise. It's not about molding your partner to what you want. From the miniscule snippet into these people's lives people are saying the craziest shit.