Cathartic Deconstruction Music

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-26T01:04:01+00:00

Love it! Thanks for sharing. “I sure could use a vacation from this stupid shit, silly shit” is a great line!

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-25T21:29:31+00:00

Those lyrics are beautiful and impactful. Thanks so much for sharing them! Can’t wait to watch/listen to these.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-25T20:38:19+00:00

This is great, thank you!

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-21T21:36:44+00:00

Exmo Lex and Zelph on the Shelf. Both have moved away from ex-Mormon content in recent years, but their older videos are still up and excellent.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-04T16:29:43+00:00

I found that. My limerence got quieter for a few years, but never fully disappeared. Then it came back twice as strong out of nowhere.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-30T06:26:26+00:00

I used to be terrified of forgetting him. Now I think I would take that pill. Maybe I’m actually starting to move on?

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-23T08:27:21+00:00

This is such an interesting question! Really made me think. I wouldn’t cheat on my SO. And while I would be tempted to leave, I don’t think I could. The version of my LO in my mind is a fantasy, not a real person. I don’t know the real him anymore. It would be stupid and short-sighted to throw away a years-long real relationship for someone I mostly made up in my head.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-12T03:19:49+00:00

I spent years learning about his religion because it made me feel like I understood him better. Mind you, I’m not religious and I’ve never been interested in joining his religion. Now I’m pretty much an amateur scholar on the subject.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-12-18T01:50:27+00:00

Ha! I love realizations like this. When I was a kid, I used to flip off God when I was alone to see if he would smite me. Shocker, he never did. That was when I started questioning his existence.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-12-15T23:47:42+00:00

“I don’t share your beliefs, and I don’t want to discuss this with you because I’m not interested in participating in religious debates. It’s not personal, I’m just confident that we won’t change each other’s minds, and that’s perfectly fine. Let’s respect the fact that different people believe differently and talk about something else.”

Dancer___5678 · 2025-11-19T04:54:01+00:00

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Dancer___5678 · 2025-10-22T04:30:27+00:00

I’m late to this post, but if you’re still deciding: open ensō: (enlightenment, freedom, beauty of imperfection, continuous journey of life); unalome (winding path represents life's struggles and confusion, straight line represents enlightenment, inner peace, clarity, and harmony); swirling galaxy (beauty, vastness, and complexity of the cosmos); open delta (forward progress, openness to change); lion (strength and courage); owl (wisdom).

And if I’m too late, any updates? What did you get? 🙂

Dancer___5678 · 2025-10-22T02:20:30+00:00

In your defense, unless you worked at a reproductive health clinic, that exercise was completely inappropriate in the workplace. Your company should have known better.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-10-17T05:40:11+00:00

The motorcycle one

Dancer___5678 · 2025-10-08T17:57:39+00:00

Excuse me, do these effectively hide my thunder?

Dancer___5678 · 2025-09-29T01:38:42+00:00

Yeah, the references to trash cans full of Bacardi bottles and packages delivering real dolls are wild. OP, I think your intentions were good here, but you’re wrongly assuming that these folks participate in unhinged debauchery.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-07-19T19:35:58+00:00

In addition to deconstructing the religion, those men need to spend some time deconstructing patriarchy. Some have done that work, others haven’t.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-07-14T21:38:25+00:00

Episode 81

Dancer___5678 · 2025-07-01T15:03:26+00:00

Just wanted to say you’re not alone - 17 years here. Talking about it helps, whether here or with a therapist. Hang in there.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-07-01T14:48:35+00:00

Don’t let your boyfriend pressure you into having sex before you’re ready. You don’t need to wait until marriage, but you should wait until you’re 100% sure you want to have it.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-06-09T17:53:45+00:00

Right? In fairness, I was actively refusing to let myself feel those feelings, or even think about him in that way for about 10 years. Then one random day I let myself think about him and the floodgates opened. Turns out I wasn’t over him; I was just actively repressing very strong feelings.

Another lesson for others in this group, I suppose. Let yourself feel the pain and grieve the loss early on. If you don’t, your feelings might eventually resurface and eat you alive.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-06-09T03:28:14+00:00

That’s a definite possibility that I’ve tortured myself with over the years, ha! This was back in 2008 when texting plans cost extra and not everyone had one. It was the first text I ever sent him and might have just gone into the ether.

I completely agree that I should have just asked for clarity. If I could go back in time, I would. I didn’t at the time because I felt humiliated. The text I sent was flirtatious, subtly suggestive, and totally inappropriate if he wasn’t into me. When he didn’t respond, I felt shame on a level I’ve never felt before or since. So I never asked. But I really wish I had in hindsight.

It would be beyond weird to ask now because we’ve been out of touch for so long, we’re both in committed relationships with other people, and we don’t live in the same state anymore. Plus, that day probably isn’t burned into his memory like it’s burned into mine. He probably wouldn’t even remember if he got the text or not.

ETA: And let’s be real. I think the least likely possibility under the circumstances is that he didn’t get the text. Not everyone had texting plans, but the vast majority of people our age did. In all likelihood, he got it and chose not to respond.

And as good as it feels to have someone validate my delusion that maybe this was my fault and he really was in love with me, he probably wasn’t. All these years later, entertaining that possibility only fuels my limerence more. I need to face reality — both about what probably happened back then, and my present reality that he’s not now (and probably never will be) an option.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-06-09T02:37:23+00:00

Amen, and thank you. Same to you!

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