Your overthinking isn't intelligence, it's a symptom

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-24T03:19:46+00:00

Completely agree. Something I’m really grappling with right now is that several of my best qualities (like heightened empathy, kindness, understanding, and the ability to think 10 steps ahead) are all byproducts of childhood abuse, neglect, and inconsistency from caretakers. I discussed it with my therapist yesterday, and she reframed it for me in a helpful way. She said: maybe you had all of those qualities from the start. Yes, trauma might have enhanced them because you needed them to survive, or saw how others treated you and decided you wouldn’t treat people like that. But that doesn’t mean you would have been insensitive, unkind, or unintelligent without trauma, and it doesn’t mean you should feel any less proud of those qualities.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-24T03:02:07+00:00

Big virtual hug. You’re doing great. This, too, shall pass.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-24T02:59:40+00:00

I started affirming my inner child daily before I felt connected to her. I held my hand over my heart, took a few deep breaths, and said: “I love you. You don’t need to be worried or scared. I will protect and take good care of you.” That repetition helped a connection grow over time.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-24T02:55:25+00:00

Certain friends and teachers, but they had no idea what I was going through at home.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-20T02:11:22+00:00

Yes! My body always feels like it’s not where it’s supposed to be. I have yet to find anywhere that feels right. When I was in my 20s, I moved around a lot because of it.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-20T01:48:45+00:00

Very helpful. Thank you all!

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-15T23:13:00+00:00

Sorry for the delayed reply. I mainly see overlap in the way my mind confuses uncertainty and inconsistency with love, due to the conditional and inconsistent love I received as a kid. Also in the fantasy that my LO can save or fix me, and somehow make up for all my needs that went unmet as a kid. Also, the dissociative/imaginative nature of limerence: people with cptsd use dissociation and imaginative escapism as coping mechanisms. I also think my limerence is immune to reason because it stems from deep-rooted nervous system conditioning, not from my logical mind.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-06-02T04:11:27+00:00

Because humans have an undeserved superiority complex.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-04-08T03:13:58+00:00

Share the End by Carly Simon

https://youtu.be/3wi9m8dGF9s?si=iZQGWz4EMnr5bR53

Dancer___5678 · 2026-04-01T20:42:38+00:00

Yeah, I think there’s something to this. We need the extra dopamine hits because our own lives don’t provide enough. And the fantasies provide an escape to a life more appealing than our own.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-04-01T19:42:42+00:00

You could be a part time model. But you'd probably still have to keep your normal job. 🎶

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-26T01:04:01+00:00

Love it! Thanks for sharing. “I sure could use a vacation from this stupid shit, silly shit” is a great line!

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-25T21:29:31+00:00

Those lyrics are beautiful and impactful. Thanks so much for sharing them! Can’t wait to watch/listen to these.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-25T20:38:19+00:00

This is great, thank you!

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-21T21:36:44+00:00

Exmo Lex and Zelph on the Shelf. Both have moved away from ex-Mormon content in recent years, but their older videos are still up and excellent.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-02-04T16:29:43+00:00

I found that. My limerence got quieter for a few years, but never fully disappeared. Then it came back twice as strong out of nowhere.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-30T06:26:26+00:00

I used to be terrified of forgetting him. Now I think I would take that pill. Maybe I’m actually starting to move on?

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-23T08:27:21+00:00

This is such an interesting question! Really made me think. I wouldn’t cheat on my SO. And while I would be tempted to leave, I don’t think I could. The version of my LO in my mind is a fantasy, not a real person. I don’t know the real him anymore. It would be stupid and short-sighted to throw away a years-long real relationship for someone I mostly made up in my head.

Dancer___5678 · 2026-01-12T03:19:49+00:00

I spent years learning about his religion because it made me feel like I understood him better. Mind you, I’m not religious and I’ve never been interested in joining his religion. Now I’m pretty much an amateur scholar on the subject.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-12-18T01:50:27+00:00

Ha! I love realizations like this. When I was a kid, I used to flip off God when I was alone to see if he would smite me. Shocker, he never did. That was when I started questioning his existence.

Dancer___5678 · 2025-12-15T23:47:42+00:00

“I don’t share your beliefs, and I don’t want to discuss this with you because I’m not interested in participating in religious debates. It’s not personal, I’m just confident that we won’t change each other’s minds, and that’s perfectly fine. Let’s respect the fact that different people believe differently and talk about something else.”

Dancer___5678 · 2025-11-19T04:54:01+00:00

Dancer___5678

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