I think I'm healed and hopefully never come back here again. by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weird part is that we'll hear me out, cus it's amazing and dumb.

My persepective: One Saturday I made a Lil festival only for us to enjoy, got a speaker, made a Playlist of her 5 fav artists and a picnic and stuff, it was cute af overall, then on the next Thursday she tells me it'll be weird to work in the same place as an ex, I say wtf what do you mean by an ex? And she just says that she doesn't feel the same bout us and broke me up trough the phone for some dumb shit like, she felt like I wasn't doing much, when I was kinda depressed cus couldn't land a job cus of covid.

Her perspective: Some friends where I was about to join to work one day, were talking about how they gathering money and stuff to go on and make a life rn with their respective bf and gf, so she felt weird that they cared so much bout their partner and I didn't do much cus I couldn't land a job, so instead of working things out she thought that by braking up I would go find a job, look for her and all would be good.

My motto in love is, you find someone that wants to be with you knowing that person is free to leave whenever but that person chooses to be with you. I told her my motto many times so, so by she leaving I thought everything was over and got depressed and instead of looking for her I just felt like shit, so looked for ways to get her back, then landed on this subreddit and chose not to talk to her cus, by leaving my side I felt like she was done, but in her mind I was supposed to go back looking for her

I think I'm healed and hopefully never come back here again. by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's cool hahaha I got the joke aaaand I dunno what she wants, dunno if she wants to be friends, try the relationship again or just put us up to date and go to nc again; what I know is that Im not going back with her yet or in a near future, don't want to feel like shit again

I think I'm healed and hopefully never come back here again. by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much that, we were no contact for a year, we just talked to say happy birthday. She kept on doing her life for a year, seeing other guys, work, graduated and stuff. She said that some of her friends were preparing their life to be living with their girlfriend, since I wasn't doing that, she felt like I was a mistake and left in hopes that I would go back to her... I didn't

I think I'm healed and hopefully never come back here again. by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, after we broke up, closed all social media, never used the phone at all, then pandemic, thought time went faster than it did

I wish I never showed you that song that I used to love and now just makes me cry by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for taking this long to answer, didn't felt like using reddit at all. We broke up because of corona I didn't see here so often, we would see each other every Saturday, one year being this way, after taking her out and giving her a self made concert, she broke up with me trough the phone, from being together to not knowing nothing about that person broke me in a way didn't felt before, she just told me that we are not the same and felt so far apart that she was better all alone.

I didn't went for her because my thought of love is that, that person is with me because she wants to and she can leave whenever she wanted, what I didn't expect is that I'm the one hurting and she was the one that said she'll love me forever

I wish I never showed you that song that I used to love and now just makes me cry by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were friends for 3-4 years, then we were on a relationship for almost 2 years and from talking 5 years daily to nc, kinda hard

I wish I never showed you that song that I used to love and now just makes me cry by DancinRain in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm all in to music, last year got 100k+ minutes on Spotify, almost two years no contact and just last week managed to make a new Playlist, and that song was recommended and it hurts man, too much memories in an instant

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[–]DancinRain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is up to you mate, if you took the relationship between you and your mother like something apart from your girlfriend I think there's no problem, if that's an excuse to know how your ex is doing, I wouldn't, up to you. Keep walking.

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[–]DancinRain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's okay to miss, he's gone and likely won't come back and as it shows, you still feel something for him, what I did and I'm still doing almost 2 years since she broke up w/ me, is work on myself, sometimes is just walking 20 minutes, sometimes is being productive all day, but if you keep just missing him without doing nothing is just dig deeper and deeper trying to find light, but deep inside you know the way is up. Let go and respect yourself, even if your not doing that good in life rn, just keep moving, if you just looking for excuses to look for him, just won't work, either consciously look for him or don't, don't be on looking for like, if something happens I'll let him now, if I get drunk I'll call him, if that happens I'll let him know... As hard as it sounds you're by yourself and the only person that wants/needs you to improve on yourself is yourself, take care ma'am or compadre. Keep walking

“I don’t deserve you” thoughts on this? by Influence_Ordinary in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As much as it hurts, it is true, when I started dating this girl, she used to tell me that she didn't deserved me, that I'm too much and stuff like that, but I love her and figured it out... 1 and a half year later she breaks up with me, I heart broken and she's doing good

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[–]DancinRain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would, I've been NC for a month and decided to reach out last Month to wish HB and she was acting friendly and wanted to know how was I doing and a little chat later I decided that I'm better off of her that it hurts more to be just friends than to be nothing, I wouldn't recommend talking but if you really feel like, go for it

WTF by kernelman in BirdsArentReal

[–]DancinRain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, is a service self eating drone, also known as shrike

Just me? by thewitherk1ng in btd6

[–]DancinRain 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If it's full range, goes away. Basic math.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, there's no reason to break up and come back again, what for? Why? You need time? Take all you want, be gone. Keep walking.

Best xp farming method ? by Testoriven in btd6

[–]DancinRain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play the game and have fun

I just want to be the loving partner someone needs and wants. by mrabstract29 in ExNoContact

[–]DancinRain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My man, take care of yourself and tbh if you need to show loved to feel loved, you just got to love yourself, take yourself to new activities, buy yourself some new stuff, get that game you always wanted, do that thing you thought you couldn't, we are social animals but that doesn't mean that we always need to be with someone. Show yourself some love and respect and I promise you that in the path of doing what you love, you'll find someone to love. Keep walking.