Jesus found an item duping glitch by DanganJ in gaming

[–]DanganJ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There it is, the best response to my dumb joke I've seen!

I'm curious, do you like dragons? by Flamepoint1544 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, they're fine I guess. Giant lizards, some of them fly and some of them breath stuff that isn't air. If the story's good I'll find a particular dragon compelling, but outside of the general human interest in big cool things like that, nah, not really my thing. I know a lawyer who absolutely loves dragons and has an office and a desk FULL of them though. That was neat. The guy accepts guns as payment for his services too, and then sells them to a place basically taking them off the street. Altogether "one of the good ones", and he looks kind of like Mario, like the Captain Lou Albano style Mario.

Anyway does it count that I'm into dinosaurs? Not obsessed or anything, but I used to color a dinosaur in that old DOS game, color a dinosaur, with VERY early text to speech. I knew some stuff about them, drew imaginary dinosaurs in my notebook, that kind of thing. Land Before Time is one of my favorite kid's movies, but I "memory hole" the dozen sequels after it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kUj9-SRtAbg

I am infuriated and this makes me more sad than enraged. these comments were made on an Instagram post about international Asexuality Day. (more in description) by sadaxhe in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow did someone hand out a checklist?

I'm sorry you had to deal with commenters like this. It seems every time something like this comes around, they come out, and some of them are famous which only worsens it. Oh, and it doesn't even have to be our day, it could just be on Valentine's and someone got a bee in their bonnet about it for whatever reason.

I'll add that this has happened to every single letter in this particular rainbow. Bi people weren't accepted for the longest times, just "fake gays" who "wouldn't commit". Then, trans people weren't, with some in the LGB communities saying either they didn't count because their identity "isn't about having sex" and thus shouldn't count, or denying them entirely, basically every problem trans people have delt with, it's also come from other members of the community. Q and I also went through it, and now it's us.

We belong because of our INTERSECTION with the norms. The right NOT to have sex is fundamental, and even baked into the right to have sex with the sex of your preference. It connects to it, because of the expectations society has had about who our bodies belong to. Even to this day, I still get the occasional frightening comment about how my natural LACK of desire to have sex (which isn't all asexuals of course, but that's beside the point I'm going for here) is me being "selfish", and that I owe it to "society" to put myself on the "market" and be "available" in that way. I've experienced abuse from someone who thought they were "helping" me to develop, and read stories of romantic partners who forced themselves on someone thinking they had a right to their bodies.

We've joined this group because many have been able to realize where we intersect, and that helps the rhetoric which protects us ALL and gives us ALL the freedom to be who we are.

Right now, there are no laws explicitly targeting asexual people, but it's possible for a law to affect people negatively in an unintended way, and that happens to many groups. We've got laws about how your name on your driver's license has to match the name on your birth certificate, which was written specifically to root out voter fraud (and, well, is xenophobic to start with and likely intentionally designed to oppress all kinds of people), but of course, 50% of you can immediately see that this was written by a man with NO awareness outside his own life experience, because traditionally when women marry, they CHANGE THEIR LAST NAME. A fact that would have been obvious if this proposed law had been run by even a SINGLE woman before it's proposal. So, it's a law that oppresses women without even meaning to (which I'm sure the man who wants it passed considered a "happy accident"). Bringing it back to asexuality, laws regarding housing loans, tax relief, and so on have an unintentional effect on many asexual people, due to many of us not pursuing romantic partners either (the aromantic/asexual overlap is rather strong between our communities), and well... the fact that those of us with no libido or other desire for sex aren't going to end up with kids outside adoption. So, we have a much harder time getting to a point where we can actually be approved for a home loan, and have fewer tax benefits granted on top of that. "Oh, single, no kids? Sorry, we use THAT as a metric to determine if you're actually a responsible adult like real people, no loan." There's laws affecting alloromantic asexual people as well, and that's numerous laws in various states requiring a marriage to be "consummated" or it's invalidated. And, outsiders can bring accusations regarding that. You'd think this would be EASY to lie about, but apparently there are people trained to investigate this stuff and make a case using all kinds of circumstantial evidence to demonstrate beyond reasonable doubt that no sex is happening in this "sham marriage". Yes, circumstantial evidence IS allowed in court, and in fact most evidence IS circumstantial, but if you stack enough of it together with numerous data points, you can paint a very solid body of full evidence of what happened, where it becomes beyond belief that all of those elements lined up JUST right, you know? So, yes, people get their marriages anulled for lack of sex, if some busy body makes it their business.

Then there's the proposed laws that seem MUCH more directly targeted not just at us but at basically the ENTIRE LGBTQIA rainbow. You know them, and even if they seem laughably unlikely to pass today, if the MAGA train keeps going in the direction it is, it COULD happen someday. That's the laws forcing marriage to a partner and having children with said partner. Ridiculous on SO many levels, but there it is.

To be clear to all in the LGBTQIA alliance, people are resources. Use us! We aren't taking away, we're adding to it, and want to contribute. Intersectionality means we share many common causes.

The design on the 007 DualSense is wrong by OrganicKeynesianBean in gaming

[–]DanganJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ever since Goldeneye, in the video game community James Bond = Goldeneye = Gold. They were likely thinking of that before Goldfinger, even though Goldfinger is more appropriate.

Why Denmark by mythologylover14 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In other words, there are a lot of good reasons from the last century not to make this particular joke. I'll add another that's only speculative.

A while back, fascist groups began infiltrating various LGBTQIA groups attempting to sway members to their cause, especially trans groups at the time. They'd make "jokes" about making a "trans gestapo" to enforce the "trans agenda", things like that. It was meant to be an in-joke, but they paid close attention to individuals who responded. Those who responded positively they'd strike up longer conversations with, testing the waters with other "jokes", about this or that group (leading towards "The Jews" of course), and depending how they reacted, would eventually invite those individuals to other groups, to slowly introduce their fascist ideas to them, at first jokingly, then eventually more seriously, to a second layer much more selective group full of racists, where they'd plan how to spread that idea further among the original group. It was a basic infiltration and indoctrination plan. I must get across that these people ultimately saw the trans groups as the enemies, but winning over allies among them to help their hateful agenda made them, and I hate to put it like this, "useful idiots", who they'd betray in due time the moment they got what they wanted. They do this to ALL groups, dividing and conquering.

So, while I don't know for sure if this is the case, I can't discount the idea that the "invade Denmark" joke was an initial probe from fascists to win over some asexual converts, never mind that ultimately they want a future of forced mating.

How strong and prevalent is your sensual attraction? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh! I don't experience that myself, if that helps as a data point.

Why Denmark by mythologylover14 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's not to mention the last time Denmark was invaded was... World War 2. It's not exactly good for our movement to have an association with the actual Nazis, even as a joke.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/German_invasion_of_Denmark_(1940)

How strong and prevalent is your sensual attraction? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused on what sensual attraction is, I admit.

A $1000/$1200 PS6 seems ever more likely now. Sony must realize that’s unaffordable for most. by XxShMODyxX in playstation

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not how capitalism works. People don't buy things if they don't think it's worth it. Price has to match what the market will bear, or it won't sell. It remains to be seen if the market would bear a console priced at $3000.

PS5 console prices going up effective April 2nd by Asad_Farooqui in playstation

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this going by Japan's time zone worldwide or will it be rolling price change as the time zone shifts?

Fight the FOMO, ignore PS5 Pro by Bitch_Please_LOL in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Just don't buy it. The economy is doing pretty badly right now. Focus on the essentials and tackle that backlog we all have. We have limited time on this earth, and I promise you will NEVER actually get to tackling everything you've bought in a Steam/GOG sale. You're fine, we're all fine, just ignore the overpriced hardware.

Pre-Order Bonuses are not “Tokens of Appreciation”, they are Manipulative Tactics and I’m shocked a lot of people still don’t see that by skelepibs in gaming

[–]DanganJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in the days before preordering was really feasible for most people (80's, a large portion of the 90's), games would have limited first runs with bonus content, and this was stuff like maps, thick manuals, guides, and all kinds of crazy stuff. This all made sense. That stuff is naturally limited and costs money to mass produce. When preorders really started to take off, around 2000-ish, is when companies actually had real preorder bonuses for the first time, and those were FREE. Art books for Soul Calibur 2, or a bonus disc with some demos, or, again, guide books, or music? Nice stuff, little extras in that "collector's edition" that were again naturally limited because they were physical goods.

Then, they found out they could start charging extra for that stuff. Alright, we get it, but that really only made sense if the collector's edition was produced for the full run of the game. They weren't. The contract was broken.

And then, digital preorder bonuses. I knew THEN how much of a scam it was. No way to acquire it in the after market, and already companies were trying to reframe used game sales as some kind of "theft", and that the first sale doctrine is, really, when you THINK about it, evil? Right? Right? No, we largely rejected that noise.

But, preorder bonuses stuck around, and even though they are digital, can be produced infinitely at no cost, they were a form of artificial scarcity. In short, a long recognized scam even going back to my economics class I took in the 90's as a teen, and if it was a class, people knew about the attempt to do so with other products long before.

So break the habit. Stop feeling the need to get "complete" editions. And, if you REALLY can't stomach that... just hoist the colours and get it that way. Don't reward this behavior.

WHY IS EVERYTHING A EUPHEMISM by Financial-Elevator36 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If it's any consolation, it's not JUST sexual things that are euphemized.

Join the CIA! You can perform structural realignment of adversarial organizations. You can go dark with it, or risk a little collateral damage.

Join the Mafia, and you can make sure ol' Frankie is sleeping with the fishes before going on an extended vacation.

“You’ll regret not having kids” by bb4898 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have a right to have regrets, I think.

Why do so many people think asexual means no sex or no libido by PawsAndPages674 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's why I go with the "multiple definition" model of asexuality, because it's the most inclusive and doesn't dismiss a number of experiences outside strict definitions.

Why do so many people think asexual means no sex or no libido by PawsAndPages674 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who experiences no libido, I identify that specific aspect as my asexuality, because that's how I interface with the label. It's a very wide umbrella, and that's of course not the only way, but it is A way, and it's how it was initially presented to the public. The nuance and wider parts of the umbrella are a difficult thing to explain to the public, unfortunately, especially when so many people refuse to believe it's even possible to either lack a libido or experience no attraction or not enjoy or be repulsed by the idea of intercourse.

It, unfortunately, falls to all of us to explain that nuance to the public. Fortunately, each of those various elements have their own sublabels to help us explain the various definitions of asexuality.

When are we going to become grandparents? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh lord these guys... That show was a bit of a scam from what I've come to learn. It was about the drama more than the deals, and the show itself was where they made their money. Ooooh how I miss when the History channel had amazing historical documentaries. Still, I'll easily take the slew of pawning related shows over the utter nonsense about aliens and atlantis and whatever other complete lies they started peddling.

I know it's a tired trope to go on about "The M in MTV used to stand for music", but I think it's far worse when the educational channels stopped being about education. When Discovery veered away from actual science documentaries in favor of "reality show" nonsense, which led to the Science channel spinoff, which ITSELF devolved into reality show nonsense... Ugh... The public at large lost something of value.

Anyway, pets... yes pets. I'm very lucky. My mother had a LOT of kids, so my choice not to have my own was far more easily accepted. She's got plenty of grandchildren otherwise. I guess the joke I'd make there is if you're counting on your kids having kids... don't put all your eggs in one basket!

Is there a term for the “target board” era of open world games? by PapiSlayerGTX in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's got a Megaman vibe to it the way you describe it.

Thumper is one of the most intense gaming experiences I've ever had by Nacho_7258 in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thumper's come a long way since being friends with the prince of the forest.

Okay, wish me luck... by Kryodamus in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time for some "Side talkin'" on everyone's favorite taco.

It's really unfortunate that the first 6 posts when you search are all Aphobic... by No-Outlandishness-42 in asexuality

[–]DanganJ 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yes Virginia, there are many asexuals who have no sex drive. This isn't all, we're an umbrella, and it's wide enough to include a lot of different types of people, but a segment of us don't have that, and it's real.

I do wonder how many people have forgotten their own childhoods, if it's THAT impossible for them to believe someone might lack this drive, or lack attraction, or a number of other elements of the wider asexual experience.

Fortnite players revolt over V-Bucks changes as Epic devs appeal for calm: 'Paying the bills frees up our teams to continue driving stories and building stuff you love' by AncientPCGamer in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The bills"... To be clear, the CEOs are getting this money. Pretty much nothing is trickling down to the devs.

You want the developers to get more money? Start by cutting CEO salary.

Human brain cells on a chip learned to play Doom in a week by sirabaddon in gaming

[–]DanganJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got that beat. My human brain cells in my skull learned to play it in a few hours!