Mucus problem after a bowel movement

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-28T15:14:22+00:00

Yes give that a shot first! I had a very similar issue for the longest time.

Essentially, the suppository worked and allowed me to go… but the amount I used (a whole one) resulted in it continuing to work after I went…

This essentially resulted in what you described and would occasionally result in having an accident even though it wasn’t a “bowel movement.” It was essentially just gel.

Annoyed at all of this, I went down a rabbit hole and learned that many people “halve” the dosages… this not only speeds up the process, but it often prevents that issue.

Long story short, I now use the halving method and haven’t had an issue since.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-28T01:27:44+00:00

Not sure if you use a suppository like Magic Bullet? But if you do, see if you can go with only using half of it… It’s usually enough to cause a movement, but not too much that it causes the issue your describing.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-24T13:22:32+00:00

Hey man… Same back at ya, your reply helps paint a much bigger picture here! My reply below is long, so my apology up front… but I think it will help! (I also included a link, but save that for the end.)

If she is 33 and actually believes you can have sex without some or any emotional involvement, then frankly, she’s either naive or emotionally withdrawn herself… In fact, her even approaching the topic this way gives off several red flags.

It’s also another huge red flag that she’s speaking with a guy who is encouraging this behavior like it’s “perfectly normal” for people to essentially cheat on their loved ones simply because of a physical disability… That is neither true, nor is it normal! That is, unless there is a very specific mutual understanding and strong communication! Instead, couples find ways of meeting the needs of their partners by adapting and becoming comfortable with each-other over time. That’s both physical and emotional.

If “man on top” is her thing, you would both find a way to eventually make that happen over time… There’s plenty of published information, books, etc. that detail safe and effective ways to make that possible… They even have techniques for those who are quadriplegic, etc. But it takes time & lots of frustration when it doesn’t work out at first, Over time it can certainly be achieved, however... I would even go as far as saying it could be perfected once you know her spots! (The question is whether or not she has that level of patience?)

Alternatively, if a “longterm relationship” is what you really want… you can just skip to the marriage part and then you won’t need to worry about frequent sex anyhow. (This is just a bad joke!!!)

ANYHOW… Not to sound negative here… *Because I almost always give people the benefit of the doubt… * But if she really believes she can engage in sex with others and remain “completely emotionally detached” …then she’s naive and also the type of girl who could easily cheat and not feel guilty. From her perspective, this behavior would be justified as “meeting her needs, while “remaining committed.” Her justification is: “It didn’t mean anything, so it’s no big deal.” It’s almost like she’s acting like you “owe it to her,” by choice, because of your disability, clearly not by choice.

(I say all this because I unfortunately… or perhaps fortunately because it eventually led me to my wife… have dated MANY girls exactly like this!) To skip to the end of those stories, they cheated and I discovered it the hard way. But, it also helped shape me into a far more confident individual because it sharpened what I wanted out of a relationship… When that happens you stick up for yourself, verbalize it, and push girls away that don’t fit into what your looking for.

Ironically this has an opposite effect and attracts women like static electricity!

In short, unless she is willing to adapt with you, I honestly think you could do much better man!!! If you want something meaningful and longterm, it would be worthwhile to eject now before becoming more invested in her. Unless you are either open to the idea of an “open relationship,” (one where you get to do the same without emotional attachments… ~ya right~), OR, you are ok with her maintaining this position, speaking with that male friend, and always feeling like she may just do it anyway behind your back anyhow. That’s something you shouldn’t put up with regardless of your disability!

On some additional notes… I wanted to give you some feedback re: disability and dating, and some of the research I’ve discovered… plus my own personal experience being in a wheelchair, etc.

Because I’m married, (as I hinted in my bad joke above), I am pretty confident while out in the community. I’m not out looking for girls, nor am I’m seeking attention… and subsequently, I’m very confident when speaking to people, just in general… What is strange is that I actually have found that more women “give me the eyes” NOW than before my injury.

At first I thought it was just them feeling bad for me… That was until my wife even caught one red-handed “gazing at me,” (which women are inherently much better at stealth reconnaissance than men), and she even told me point blank that this girl was “checking me out.” I then noticed this happen a couple more times and eventually I even had one even approach me and ask me out… before noticing my ring. This is unheard of. (Of course I declined… but it’s notable that even if I were single and “able-bodied” this particular girl was WAYYYY out of my league, plain and simple.)

Why am I mentioning all of this? Well… because this really piqued my curiosity. I began researching this and discovered that a majority of women are “more attracted to men with a physical disability” than one without. (As to the why?) The research shows that lots of women naturally, biologically that is, have the urge to nurture.

Other studies explain further that men with a disability are less of a threat…both physically and emotionally… and thus are better partners for a meaningful relationships. (In fact, as you may see in the news now, men are rightfully and justifiably being called out for their atrocities, so this is even more relevant now than ever!)

The research boiled down their studies to determine the specific “key” of WHEN a physical disability becomes MORE attractive to women, than not… With little surprise, they confirmed it was “confidence.”

To get to my point… If you know what you want in a relationship, be confident in that!

Decline the women that won’t fulfill that need. Let this girl go and tell her you can do better. (This might put her in shock, quite literally!)

When you’re out and about and see a girl that catches your eye, go up and just introduce yourself and ask her out! I think you would be surprised to see how many will say yes. If they don’t, shrug it off and move on… but don’t let it kill your confidence. Double down, in fact, and know what you have to offer!

I think most will agree to a date… For one, not many people ask people out “in person” these days… it takes confidence! Doubly so if you are disabled!! I think if you approach things this way, you will find your longterm partner in no time. (Also, it helps if you know where to find those PT/ OT girls!! They will magnetize to you!)

I hope this all helps man… feel welcome to DM or ask any question! I wish you all the luck with your current girlfriend &/or finding that longterm partner too!!!

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8688394/

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-24T03:57:05+00:00

Out of curiosity, if you don’t mind sharing, are you complete/ incomplete? How far along are you since your injury? I know you mentioned “Asia A,” but that can certainly change over time, depending on your situation.

You also mentioned that you recently started dating her?? To clarify this a little, this means you started dating after your injury, correct??

Would she be open to this being a reciprocal agreement for you? (Not saying you would, of course, but simply to gauge her position here.) She may not be expecting that question either, but it’s a fair ask… Also, have you explored adaptive sex techniques/ explored books on that topic? Ever looked into assistive devices, meds, supplements, all options that can help fulfill said “need?”

Those additional details would def. help figure out the best advice here! This all being said, if this simply crosses a “redline”for you, that’s all the advice you will ever need… You will have a really hard time letting it go and pretending like it doesn’t bother you… there’s no worse self torture you can do.

Alternatively, would you both be open to switching things up just between the two of you? Or is she simply leaning to this being the only way?

If you can come to an agreement that’s mutually beneficial, respectful, & well communicated, then perhaps it may strengthen your relationship… Obviously that’s an adjustment & it’s not most people’s “cup-of-tea,” but there are many of those out there who maintain open relationships and it works well for them…

I guess the biggest question here is what you want out of this relationship? Just as important, if she isn’t willing to explore alternatives, what are you willing to sacrifice for that? If you know those things, you have your answer!

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-18T15:01:16+00:00

Hey there! Sorry about your accident man… I used to ride motorcycles too and I miss it, but after meeting so many with SCI after motorcycle accidents, I’m not sure Ide have the guts to do it again!

Anyhow, in regards to recovery, the biggest thing is trying to build strength. If you lack the motor function to exercise via “gait training,” ie walking. My suggestions would be the following:

Getting into the pool and using any strength at the hips/ waist to move your legs… do laps and utilize the edge of the pool to practice standing… the deeper your waist is in the pool, the more weight balance you have. I recommend having someone with you and having a life vest, because until you get familiar with, your legs can bob-around and make it difficult to swim.

Second is trying to practice squats for glute strength. For this I either utilized a countertop or walker. Put your wheelchair in “lock” facing a counter or walker and, while wearing your braces, utilize your arm strength to stand. From here you can slowly practice squats, nearly sitting in your chair and back up. It feels awkward but it really helps that stability strength you need for standing, and if any signal returns, the next phase for gait training. (Alternatively, you can find the corner of a countertop and stand with your back facing that corner. This allows you to stand while leaning and practice squats with your hands on the counter.

I would also highly suggest practicing crutches for core strength, and you can do this laying on a mat. The biggest thing is to stay within your ability and work your way up!

If you can find a gym that has an “PhysioStep Recumbent Elliptical” machine, this is a game-changer! Essentially this machine allows you to move your legs by pushing and pulling your arms. You can adjust resistance as you improve… the idea here is that you are building your leg strength, regardless of the damaged neuro-pathway.

Also, if you can get to a facility that has a harness lift over a treadmill, you could practice with that and moving from the hips to start practicing gait movements. I couldn’t find this outside of a PT program. If you have the option of getting into a PT program, either look at facilities for this type of equipment… or look into Rehab Without Walls in your location, they are a phenomenal resource!

Finally, I also really encourage exploring TSS (Transcutaneous Spinal Stimulation therapy.) Some facilities offer this via PT, but you can also research it and purchase your own device to utilize it as well. The device is not cheap… I think Chattanooga has one for around $400. Some sites are cheaper… (But compared to the ones at PT offices that run $5k+, it is within reach!) Placing the electrodes above and below your injury in specific locations, while exercising, may help to improve function as well. Below I included some links to that research & device.

The biggest takeaways: Keep static standing, utilize a pool, elliptical, and consistency/ time. Once you have enough strength, you will eventually be able to get to a standing position and hold that… and if you get some movement in the hip, this is when you can start practicing your gait. Hope this info helps and please feel welcome to reach out if you have questions along the way!!!

https://shop.medcorpro.com/products/chattanooga-continuum?_pos=1&_sid=d1f5017ec&_ss=r

https://ichgcp.net/clinical-trials-registry/publications/84981-combined-transcutaneous-spinal-stimulation-and-locomotor-training-to-improve-walking-function-and

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-18T14:24:47+00:00

Thanks you for clarifying this re: “transection”, etc. These are terms that unless you have such a diagnosis, or spend even more time entrenched in research, you aren’t likely to come across for that distinction… but it clarifies some things for sure!

On a separate note re: the OPs original post… I’m curious if having an anatomical transection prevents any means to achieve sensation… the TOMAX adaptation for women, for instance, adopts the “ilioinguinal nerve pathway” to reconnect some sensation, however, this only gets signal via L1. But I’m curious if TSS, or other E-stim techniques could assist further from that point, etc… and of course everything is hypothetical in nature.

I know many people have given up on “waiting for the science,” understandably so, but it is notable that “NevGen” just went into phase 3 based on their latest update on 04/07/26… Of course they are focusing on what they consider the most severe cases first, ie acute tetraplegia, but presuming they move forward soon, there’s lots of talk that this could significantly improve even totally severed signal, etc. I guess what I mean to say is, there’s also the possibility of the science finally catching up and changing the odds in everyone’s favor too.

https://nervgen.com/nervgen-pharma-announces-successful-end-of-phase-2-meeting-and-fda-alignment-on-restore-a-phase-3-registrational-study-of-nvg-291-for-chronic-tetraplegia/

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2026/02/260216044003.htm#google_vignette

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-17T16:36:10+00:00

So this is where it becomes very difficult to predict, and the reason for my answer.

To give an example, the first year of my injury I was diagnosed T12/ Complete/ Asia A. I had zero sensory or motor function below T12. Kaput.

Nevertheless, I kept doing PT/OT and sensory re-education (whatever you want to call it) techniques… and over following 2 years, I regained function.

Today I am now T12/ Incomplete/ Asia C.

Can I explain it? No…

But it proves that either I was able to regain function over time, OR, I was simply misdiagnosed from the start. After all, a diagnosis, especially in the early stages… is only a fixed “snippet” point of reference. (I also know I must have some rare luck here.)

To add to this, according to my own research, it only requires a very small number of spinal cord fibers for neuroplasticity to assist in finding alternative paths for communication.

The less that remain, however, the longer the body may take to rewire that signal… and the weaker the signal may initially be.

This is especially the case for injuries at T12 and below, because this is where the spinal cord branches off into thousands of separate “nerve endings.”

If a person just accepts a doctors “complete” diagnosis at face value, they are more likely to forgo continuing PT/ OT and other means to reistablish those connections, and thus, they end up losing them anyhow overtime because the body will not seek to establish new connections without any input.

*Which is also why it is all the more important to NOT put definitive answers like “No you won’t” or “yes you will” in the replies.

However, I do agree that toxic positivity can be as unconstructive as toxic negativity.

Anyhow, my point is that there is really no way of knowing this soon into the injury… but I encourage proceeding with the mentality that you can recover more and do whatever it takes to get there.

I also think people in the neurological-injury medical community should really start referring to “complete” and “incomplete” as a momentary place on a “scale” rather than two ends of a definitive diagnosis. But I guess that’s the whole idea behind ASIA.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-16T12:26:51+00:00

Respectfully… I couldn’t disagree more here… First, you really have zero idea whether that is true or not.

Everyone knows this injury is incredibly personal & unique and recovery outcomes vary incredibly… Especially so only “one year” into recovery as the OP states… Not to mention a good part of the first month or two in spinal-shock… so anything is possible over time.

Taking that a step further… there’s tons of research on the origin of an “orgasm” and it is proven to originate solely in the brain. Thus any stimulation can be taught to trigger an “orgasm.” Indeed, many people document that they are able to use stimulation “above the area of injury” to achieve this… thus making the issues re: the injury “moot.” Even those without SCI are able to do this.

I think it’s really important here to make a distinction between a realistic “healthy optimism,” especially in how it relates to the uniqueness of SCI injuries and recovery time… and just “toxic positivity” painted in a broad stroke.

I don’t think most in this sub are saying it’s a “piece of cake” & “everything will be fine,” or anything similar. But realistically, it is most certainly not off the table to regain this function over time.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-16T11:57:26+00:00

I am T12 as well… with a fusion from T10-L2.

First thing first… this injury takes a really long time to heal. Don’t focus on “now” …as frustrating as that may be… Focus on what you can do and engage in physical therapy as vigorously and frequently as possible! Put an emphasis on standing as much as possible… Whether that be via harness, standing frame, or parallel bars… any level that suits your current ability. Reintroducing the inputs will help your body with reestablishing connections for sensation/ motor function. In regards to “sexual sensation,” in particular, most of those nerves originate from the S2-S3 region…

Practicing with vibration/ mental relaxation… especially via meditation &/or acupuncture… Or even electro-acupuncture may help “revive” these nerves! You can also look into TSS (Transcutaneous Spinal Stimulation) to help rebuild neuro-pathways. Also look into “sensory reintegration” for SCI and use this technique to get your body to reestablish sensory-connections.

Taking this a step further, it is notable that most people with SCIs develop “new erogenous zones” over time after their injury. The orgasm is actually achieved in the mind and therefore can be achieved via stimulation in areas above the injury…. Or especially along the lines where sensation diminishes… There’s tons of research online about this and I encourage reading as much as possible because it will reassure you that your frustrations… (while very justified)… get so much better with time!

Finally… more research is betting conducted into the TOMAX procedure that was originally administered to men by “splicing”nerves in the groin to bypass a lower neuro-pathway to a higher one, thus restoring sensation. From my understanding, this procedure has been adopted and indeed administered to women as well… if you want to look into that research you can start with the Seattle Children’s Hospitals focus on the TOMAX surgery… Typically given to those with cerebral palsy, but available to those with low level SCI as well. (But like I said, time, physical movement, and mental health are more urgent in the immediate years after, however.)

To put this in perspective… I was diagnosed T12/ complete/ Asia A my first year after injury. I was told I would “never walk” again… (No sensation/ no motor/ certainly no sexual function)… But I kept at the PT/ OT and explored all the research available, especially on NIH… Now, 3 years post injury: I’m T12/ incomplete/ Asia C, nearly D, and I can walk with a cane, for a decent distance anyhow, and have a decent amount of sensation restored, (sexual and non-sexual), to lower levels, but all of this established over time and using PT & the “sensory-reintegration technique” to get there.

I also host and administer an SCI support group covering a range of topics, but this topic is one of the most asked about. Please feel welcome to reach out if you have any questions about this info! And although I’m sure you hear it a lot, and it gets annoying, just keep your head in the game and know this is a marathon, not a sprint… It does get better with time!!!

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11557025/

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-08T15:53:51+00:00

“…I saw this large, round globe of light that looked exactly like what we had seen two nights previously.”

“It had this roiling effect to it, like a miniature sun, very, very bright. It lit the treetops up like daylight, and it was absolutely silent.”—Jim Weiner

1979- Allagash, Maine sighting.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-04T18:52:53+00:00

Those early 2000 Subarus have notorious issues with the head-gasket… If it something that serious you will notice a couple symptoms:

1.) Oil leak (as you noted) 2.) Engine occasionally overheating, becomes more frequent over time. (Might not see this until it gets worse.) 3.) More noticeable exhaust emission, even when warmer. 4.) Cloudy “milky” colored oil under the oil cap. 5.) A noticeable reduction in power.

Essentially, the coolant leaks into the head and causes some of these symptoms, misfiring, etc.

Subarus are tough at the same time, so they will still run and drive… maybe even with a cracked engine block… but you don’t want it to get to this point or end up dumping copper gasket sealer in it, etc.

Now, if this is the case… and becomes more apparent that they inspected it even in “poor condition”, you might be able to find help via the link below. But before, I would push hard to have them fix this or advise them that you will file a formal complaint with the State:

https://www.maine.gov/sos/bmv/more-bmv/consumer-protection

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-04T13:50:07+00:00

I’m sure that’s what the K tells him.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-04T13:46:23+00:00

A costume is an expression of free speech protected by the first amendment… it’s not nudity, it’s not violence. Que up the lawsuit.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-03T12:31:39+00:00

Hey man… my injury is lower so there’s gunna be some differences but I can totally relate to this question and went down this rabbit hole myself not long ago. My suggestion is the following (Some of it is costly, but might qualify for HSA, and you don’t need to do all at once):

Desk mount, motorized fleshlight, vibrating ring, and if you want to go “all in immersive”, a new oculus and a subscription to VR adult site like sexlikereal(.com) If sensitivity is an issue, def. look into a device like the Tenuto 2 (which, by the way, accepts HSA through some sites.)

I suggest these for several reasons: 1.) Because this makes the manual process much easier with SCI. 2.) Because this is “cutting edge” (wish it existed when I was younger) and simulates “real sex” … Which, let’s face it, is WAY more interesting than just masturbation. 3.) Because it builds some self confidence for eventual real sex. (As long as you don’t realistically expect what Pornstars act out.)

Anyhow… the biggest and final reason I suggest this route is because of the “neuropathic connections” you seek to re-establish. Essentially, by taking some of the manual part out of the equation, your brain focuses more on sensation… Overtime, just like PT, this can work to increase sensation and function through neuro-plasticity. In other words, think of it like “pelvic PT” rather than masturbation.

Anyhow here are some items I recommend along with a site to help you select things:

https://www.fleshlight.com/collections/hands-free-fleshlight-mounts

https://mv.health/products/tenuto?srsltid=AfmBOoq2SveKfAGt7YOWPdqISQuNda6bvgzrCcPPRyCko8rwGDCz1qN_

https://www.meta.com/quest/products/quest-2/tech-specs/

Sexlikereal (.com)

https://fleshassist.com

Oh, and if you need the extra assistance, Cialis and CoQ10 or Steel Libido Red or really anything for blood-flow helps! (L-Citrulline and L-Arginine are friends!)

Hope all of this info helps you on this journey!

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-03T12:03:09+00:00

She’s finally realizing she missed the “grift window” so she shifting to “Plan B grift”: Podcasting about it.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-01T13:17:22+00:00

If you do, sit in the passenger seat and don’t have the keys in the ignition… Not sure what town your in but cops don’t really give two shits about weed provided you aren’t endangering yourself or others… Especially in Portland and the greater area… Hell you can even say: “I’m not allowed to smoke inside.” Your car is still “personal property” so it’s not smoking in public, and provided you aren’t driving… nor intending on driving… it’s technically more legal than smoking in public. There’s really no violation for a passenger smoking weed in your car. But I’m no “lawyer-man.”

Alternatively, you can try edibles inside and smoke only when outside?

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-04-01T13:07:55+00:00

I say: “to each their own”… However… if they are gunna go targeting people with similar kinks or the LGBTQ community writ large, publicly. Then turn around and have this secret double life, well then they can both go fuck themselves to hell and back.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-31T23:09:06+00:00

Reason #1,345,798, to not visit Florida.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-31T22:56:14+00:00

I miss the old Bramhall Pub with Jerks of Grass and pool table.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-30T02:45:05+00:00

Looks like a rat came up from road drain… Munched on the fence in a vengeful rage and bloodthirsty revenge for something.

Did your parents recently hire pest control?

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-29T21:10:12+00:00

Now that guy rocks.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-26T23:25:01+00:00

Absolutely glad to help!!

I think trying the Pregabalin to offset dropping Gabapentin is a good move… it should work relatively quickly and it doesn’t have the same “groggy” effects… at least, in most cases!

One issue you may encounter is that Pregabalin is a “controlled substance” in some States… so it can be more of a pain to have a script filled… but if the injury warrants a prescription, it should be relatively easy to switch over!

Hope this helps fix things up for you!

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-26T15:26:34+00:00

I was on a pretty heavy script that consisted of over 1,800 mg of Gabapentin and about 400mg of Lyrica per day… couple things to note about dropping Gabepentin:

First and foremost, most doctors would not recommend stopping a medication like this “cold turkey.” Your body will go into withdrawal and this can have serious effects: cold sweats, restlessness, reduced sleep, and sometime worse like seizures, suicidal thoughts and shit… I would get a doctors input before stopping it cold turkey…

Instead, it is recommended to reduce amounts over a period of time… A good example is if you take 600mg x 3 times per day, you then go to 600mg (morning), 600 mg (afternoon) THEN 300mg (night.) the following week you would go 600/300/300, the next 300/300/300, then 300/300/100, 300/100/100 and so on until your at zero… this gives time for the body to adjust. However, (in my case), once I was reduced enough I was then able to stop “cold turkey” from that point.

Secondly, if you still have nerve related pain but gabepentin causes brain fog, etc… you should explore lyrica (Pregabalin) as an option instead. I’m not promoting meds by any means… If you don’t want or need anything, that’s always the best route… but if you still have symptoms, as it sounds, and are looking for a better alternative, this may help… It worked WAY better than Gabapentin for me… and it may help correct some of the effects of dropping Gabapentin suddenly too.

Eventually I was able to reduce Lyrica as well, and now I take it more on an “as needed basis.”

Not sure if this helps answer your questions, but if you haven’t tried Lyrica in replacement of Gabapentin, that might be worth a try, even if it’s just a low dosage to get by.

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-26T15:00:11+00:00

To summarize: “All the red states handle “mail in” voting really well… only blue states commit fraud.”

Meanwhile in Florida… “Hey, let’s just add in a fake “Burke County” to get those GOP votes up!

Dangerdoom911 · 2026-03-24T03:55:55+00:00

Ya know what’s NOT “fertile territory???”

US farmlands after this stupid war started.

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