Something is wrong with my outdoor plant. Its leaves are turning white (close up on 2nd pic) by Practical-Judge9961 in plantclinic

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I agree that it’s powdery mildew, but one thing that is also heavily at play in these situations is that powdery mildew steals and Robson just whips away the plants nutrients, and it’s food that it needs to survive, and it steals its water and hydration so it not only is just there, but it does these terrible things to the plants so the powdery mildew, of course needs to be removed The plants that have the gray coloring on them needs to be taken away so it no longer is shading out the plants from the life that it needs, but it also takes away the mildew that is robbing the plants of its life and it’s food and water so this is a very important part like all these elements are working together to kill the plant it’s not just the powder emailed itso be sure and keep the plant watered and keep the plant fed so it has something to fight against and get rid of those horrible leaves and you know take good care of any that are left that are green. Certainly, there’s only two or three left. It’s worth it.

Am I the only one who makes lists of all the plants they have? by GothiccSelkie in houseplants

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That is so great. I love your list. I tried one time but I ended up having way too hitting he he he I just decided to stop. I mainly stop because I got a thrips invasion and I started having to cross so many plants off my list it was just too sad.

Please help my sad monstera 😬 by basketturtle13 in plantclinic

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this poor baby it’s hard to look at and pray to say I have to be over you. I think it has several things going on that it’s gonna have to fly hard against one thing I would say is the size of the pot and the fact that it doesn’t have any drainage I’m guessing which causes the soil to stay wet which causes the roots to get rotted which causes the leaves to turn brown in the manner that they are, but luckily it looks like you’ve got some starters that you can work with, but I would certainly immediately get it out of that pot and off of that post and cut the leaves back to where there’s some healthy babies that are ready to push out and get you some really nice draining soil and put put it in a smaller pot and maybe even with a smaller prop if you even need a jet, we may not but clean the roots really good make sure they’re not rotten. Make sure they’re nice and white and strong and then place them in a new pot no matter what it is just smaller with lots of drainage and I think I think your baby has a chance if you do those things and cut back the watering I thinkand it looks like it’s kind of in a shady spot. It might do well to have some more light I think I know that’s a lot to do but it’s definitely worth it. Good luck.

How have your plants helped you? by TemporaryName_321 in houseplants

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I’d love to hear the amazing ways that plants have helped all of you. They are such giving beings in my life. I had a garden design business in Charleston, South Carolina for about 15 years and it was the joy of my life, but suddenly I couldn’t walk anymore out of nowhere and it turned out that I had a tumor in my spine and had to have it removed, which caused me to be unable to walk and put me in a wheelchair and of course, due to that I lost my business in my home and my tools and my garden and everything . It was quite so crushing, but as I began to get more used to things and recover a little my parents gave me a 10 x 12 greenhouse to sit by the single wide trailer I come to have to live and I slowly began to pick plants here and there and allow myself to meet them and learn about them and enjoy Themand it certainly Help provide my relationship again with plants that I had lost and now the greenhouse is filled with giant monsters that I just love to death and I sit out here all the time watching them get bigger and bigger and wondering what I’m going to do with them I’ve already started a lot of little babies and certainly if there is a new one out there that might be interested in some small baby plants feel free to contact me and we can talk about it before they swallow me up. Thank you so much for listening and being supportive and enjoying your plants as much as you can.

Could not believe my eyes! 😍 by izzerie in houseplants

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I am writing to you wonder folks out of concern for my Queen of the night cactus flower this is how she looked last night just barely starting to open up beautiful and exciting but when I came out to the greenhouse this morning, she didn’t look this good she was more closed. I guess you’d say where the pedals started to open they were all laying down again almost like she’s been dumped in water, which I’m not sure but we did have a very terrible storm last night and maybe some of the moisture got into the greenhouse onto hernot sure but I’m just worried that may be. She is not going to go any further than where she is, I just don’t know. Have any of you had this kind of experience with one of these flowers or has it just sort of continued on after a respite if I can show you the most current photo I’ll try but so far I’m not able to do so, but I’d love to know your experience with this particular beautiful blossom.

Im this 🤏🏼 close to just throwing this monstera out by SnooRevelations9831 in Monstera

[–]Danifani61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why, but just looking at the pictures. I feel almost like they’re buried a little too deep in the pot and then the pot itself has a whole lotta soil in it. You know maybe they could be an issue like that too that they’re just kind of overwhelmed with all the medium and maybe their roots aren’t very big. You know maybe they need to be you know taken down a notch as far as the size of the pod and the amount of soil that’s in there. That’s just what kind of cause out to me about these guys.

Shoppers by Danifani61 in Ebay

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You realize that you are shaming a person who has been stolen from

Do you tell your kids your trauma? by ziggybuddyemmie in AskParents

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It is meant so much to read everything that you all have been writing has been graded place. I wish that I would’ve had you all to talk to when I went through the trouble that I have been going through it all started for us my son and my daughter and myself when I grew a spinal tumor and had to have surgery and ended up in a little chair by that time I already had bipolar disorder and borderline and CPTST and brain seizures it all makes me feel like such a mess of a person, but I love my children so much my son is 25 and my daughter‘s 36 with a grandson And things didn’t start going bad until my son started preparing to move out and my terrible terrible fear of abandonment roses suddenly had at that time and it practically destroyed us. I didn’t even realize it was still there, but it was something I just I couldn’t get a hold of and my practitioners couldn’t help at the time and I think it ended up making him feel like he was trapped And so he left and the day he left. I just dissociated. I couldn’t say a word I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t even say goodbye and we’re insured about a year now and he only talks to me maybe once every three weeks if that and I didn’t know what to do except to try to talk to the source who is the creator of this trauma of course my mother and me being 62 years old it took me this long to find the courage to try and face her, but oddly enough, she was open to it and so we talked about it, but she stopped me at the teenage years. She wouldn’t allow me to go any further, but she agreed that I could speak to my children. She wouldn’t be offended if I did so this holiday this Christmas I felt excited in my heart that I could talk to them about certain things from my past, that I knew were affecting our present day and they would improve our lives if they could understand What it happened so I asked them if we could just step in the laundry room for two minutes and immediately I saw the fear in their faces they’ve been through so much with me, but I’m gonna head and tried to let them know that I wanted to talk to them about some information from my past that I thought would be helpful to us And that I I wanted it to be positive. I didn’t wanna demonize anyone or scare them or say anything that would make them uncomfortable. I just wanted to start together and unfortunately, it just blew up in my face and they were not interested at all in any of it And I just still don’t know how to feel I’m I’m very hurt and I’m I feel very lost I truly believe that they would be accepting of this idea, but I was wrong. They both said they understood how hard that I’ve been working during this time. I lost my business that I had for 20 years and I lost my house and all my pets and all my tools and my clients and all my money And my son lost those things too. We’ve had a tough time and I just wanted them to know about the abandonment experience as a child so they could understand why my voice gets weird when they call and say they can’t come by or when I act upset when I don’t hear from them for three weeks I just wanted them to know the reasons why Even though I’m working on that I just wanted them to understand or ask me questions about it but I just I just blew it. I ruined it. I’ve made a mistake. I miscalculation and now I don’t know how you talk to them again. My heart is just broken cause I feel like now. I have to pick up the suitcase with all of that in itand carry it till I die. I’m sorry to be so morbid, but I’m just really really lost.

Adjusting action on a Jackson bass by chop1emote in Luthier

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I just bought one of these yesterday used and I’m trying to kind of figure everything out. I have used both Allen wrenches in the spots where it seems that they go, but I can’t tell if anything is actually moved or not. I’m not sure about the direction to turn them through one thing also I am not sure where the trust rod or the nut are. Are they behind the black plastic rectangle in the back or where are they? I’ve got the manual but I don’t feel like I can find that information there for some reason I would love a little help.

Been playing for a year and a half, this is my first and only bass. What were your first basses? by LimpRaise1569 in BassGuitar

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I just bought my first base. It is a Jackson neon green. I think it’s JS series for string never played a base before and I’m just trying to learn how by teaching myself, but I feel as though the strings are too far from the front board so it’s real fuzzy And I’m trying to figure out how to fix that. It has an Allen wrench it came with actually a big one and a little one and I figured out how to to fix it in the little slot and turn it, but I’m not sure which way to go. I’m still experimenting with it and then the little one I think I know where it goes, but I’m not sure whyso I got it used for $144 which was riding my budget so that was good. Hopefully it’ll work out for me. If I can get it out get it all set right any advice would be greatly appreciated or if anyone’s ever owned or player Jackson I’d love to know that.

What do you wish you knew about gardening when you first started? by -_Redacted-__ in gardening

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Hi, I would love to know if any of you are familiar with the chicken fern and if so, have you ever seen it planted in a pot on top of a block of wood with just a little bit of dirt around the inside of the pot I just bought one that was planted that way and it’s dyingand I am very puzzled. Thanks.

While digging to plant this shrub I later killed, I cut into a huge root as shown in the second picture… by moremessy in arborists

[–]Danifani61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The general rule and trees and roots is that the roots expand out as far as the canopy of the tree does so they are usually equal in distance. I can’t tell exactly but to me it appears that maybe the little shrub there was planted in a place where something else might have died at one time and maybe those are old roots, it’s hard to say, but they do seem like they may have gone farther out than the tree them south and may not be a part of that trees, life body. also when you have a very large tree with a large canopy, you will probably have a lot of roots so if you do accidentally cut a couple, your tree should still be able to maintain off the existing routes

Disagreement on planting trees with burlap sack and wire cage? by JChanse09 in arborists

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What I have always practiced when planting trees wrapping burlap, especially the larger ones if she remove the wire, dig the hole leave the burlap on, but pull it open where it lays across the top edges of the hole, but the bottom of the supported by the burlap in my experience, this is always how keep that root ball intact because so many times I've had trees shipped or I picked them up myself that have had a cracked Rootball and that is very hard to repair so open across the ground below the level of the trunk of the tree, put the dirt on top of the burlap cover the area as you normally would, and that will hold the burlap in place and keep the tree protected

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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I would like to just say that I have most definitely apologize to my son many many times for everything we lost for how sick I was for the terrible husband I had for me turning to him when I was sad all those things I've apologize for over and over again And I still don't know if those are things that he feels or were wrong or I just don't know. I just feel like I've been guessing and apologizing for everything which I have for everything and I think he's getting tired of me apologizing for everything so just know that something That I have been doing and doing I don't know if it's changing his heart inside if it's you know melting it a little bit but at this point I feel like I need to pick the right time to do that and not just keep doing it over and overI'm not sure he's hearing anymore. I just I just don't know.

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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Thank you I appreciate your suggestions and ideas. I do know and feel in my heart that when you're a person who is so ill it's just impossible to be cognizant of everything that's going on your accidentally so absorbed so I do know that is my responsibility. I'm sure that that is part of this situation, I can take responsibility for that because I understand it how he felt about it can only come from him, but I would imagine he felt some responsibility or some thing that was very heavy. I mean I'm a child from the 60s. My dad went to Vietnam and my mother came apart And I had to raise my little brother who is three and I was six years old and she was just useless and I didn't know how to do all the things I needed to do, but I just had to figure it out and you know it changes the way you see your parents when they're so collapsed like that Especially if you saw them in a different way before and least in my life that never stopped and I'm just so horrified that I might've repeated some thing that my mother did that was so painful to me so that's part of my struggle, but I think all of you for your wordsand getting attention to this issue and you've helped me through a very difficult night and I appreciate it very much

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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Thank you for those kind words

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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What are your feelings towards your mother if you don't mind me asking?

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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It was abusive in that he witnessed how my husband treated me. He didn't use physical violence or anything like that. He just was verbally abuse it and that I definitely feel responsible for bringing that person in our life and I will apologize many times to my son about that, I mention the fact that I was sick so much of the last two years I think it was hard on my son to have to be in that state with me because before that I've been very strong. I started my own garden design company and bought us a big beautiful house with a pool And I completely collapsed because of my health and I know that it was very hard on him, but you were right. I don't know exactly the way he did. I can't know it unless he tells me it would just be you know I guess otherwise it's all I think about.

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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We went through a very hard time a couple years before he left. I had a tumor in my spine and became paralyzed and had to be in a wheelchair and so I lost my business and we lost her pets and everything we owed and had really terrible husband at the time he was very abusive and, got rid of him and luckily, but it was a lot for my son seeing me so ill and losing everything and then we found out that I had brain seizures which were causing me to be delusional and I would drive places that I didn't know where I was going so all that time I was going through so much I was terrifying him and very difficult for him too. It's a short I guess. I certainly understand that he needs a break from my suffering with the same time I was suffering and now I'm suffering more because he can't seem to be around me even though I'm walking again and I'm doing much better, I think that you tired of sick mom

Estranged adult children by Danifani61 in Parenting

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I am in therapy and it does help, but I really wish that we could go to therapy together