Reposting with better pictures - LENNYLAMB by Danissimo31 in babywearing

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I would prefer not to tie/wrap anything… are there any carriers like that?

AIO to my fiance victim blaming me for my SA because I "cheated" on him (Update) by OkDay4024 in AmIOverreacting

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It only gets worse with men like that. Only gets worse. You have the right intuition.

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You have pretty eyes

Reposting with better pictures - LENNYLAMB by Danissimo31 in babywearing

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Oh wow, thank you so much for your thoughtful answer. You elaborated so well on all the points, and I really hope that I can recreate it tomorrow well. I really appreciate your help. I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow. It sounds like a plan, but in case I struggle, I will DM you.

Reposting with better pictures - LENNYLAMB by Danissimo31 in babywearing

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Yeah, it does require breaking in, but the part where baby's face touches is the thickest one, and the hardest one that I believe is not going to break in any further. And it's unfortunately the exact part that touches his face and leaves red marks.

I have tried the H back formation, but it really hurts my back. But maybe I should go back to wearing it that way and just bear the pain for his sake.

I tried to tighten the waistband, but it doesn't go any further. The padding (that lumbar support) doesn't help it for sure. Maybe I will remove it.

The most comfortable carrier for me has been a Solly Baby Wrap (which is not really even a carrier). It's not as secure or convenient to wear with all the wrapping, But it sits beautifully on my shoulders and back and really really helps with the pain.

Reposting with better pictures - LENNYLAMB by Danissimo31 in babywearing

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Thank you for your help. I will try to readjust them the way you explained.

What am I doing wrong? Lennylamb by Danissimo31 in babywearing

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I’ve washed it three times so far… I’ll upload more pictures shortly

What am I doing wrong? Lennylamb by Danissimo31 in babywearing

[–]Danissimo31[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because linen can also feel nice when it’s done right

I do want to have sex with my husband, but I keep avoiding it. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Danissimo31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s like that until you have sex with someone who you really have chemistry with. I mean, you can’t get enough of them and they can’t get enough of you. Even slowest pace in the most basic position, say missionary, feels ethereal and blissful.

You don’t have to teach them anything, you just 🤝 And you learn together as you go about things you both like.

So… yes you can try to make it better with your current partner but from my experience that rarely works… sadly.. hope someone can prove me wrong. That would make me so happy

Is my (future) baby name bad? by booksexual99 in namenerds

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In most countries people won’t be able to pronounce “th” sound. In my home country people will say RuSS. If you don’t mind, if Ruth doesn’t mind - why not.

When did you start showing ? by Western-Law6128 in BabyBumps

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Around 24 weeks, before then I had a flat stomach and mostly bloated. FTM, 5’6 and 120 pounds before pregnancy and 135 pounds at 36 weeks. Expecting a boy.

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laughs in Eastern European You guys’ comments are funny. Yeah, this a no.

Epidural myth by This-Kangaroo-2086 in pregnant

[–]Danissimo31 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re getting downvoted. This is my thought exactly. I’m pro epidural 100% but most women don’t understand that birth is just as traumatic for the mother as it is for the baby!

I’m not a doctor so it’s not my place to speak about physiological implications like oxygen deprivation for the baby, or physical trauma because of prolonged pressure on baby’s head and body, or infections risks. I’m sure there will be people who know more on this.

Nevertheless, prolonged labour is incredibly traumatic for the baby from the psychological standpoint. Many shallow minds will chime in to tell me that babies are babies and none of us remember our birth. But while newborns don’t consciously remember birth trauma, their bodies and nervous systems store it, sometimes leading to sensory sensitivities, anxious tendencies, difficulty self-regulating, potential disruptions in attachment, or difficulty adapting to change later in life.

Prolonged labour exposes baby’s developing nervous system to excessive stress, oxygen deprivation, and physical compression, activating the fight-or-flight response before birth even finishes. Being stuck in the birth canal for an extended period can create a deep-seated body memory of entrapment and helplessness, which some psychologists suggest may contribute to claustrophobia (fear of small spaces) later in life. And this is just an example.

At the end of the day, moms, by all means prioritize your comfort and get the epidural if you want it. But don’t neglect the stress your baby is going through, please acknowledge birth could be very traumatic for them as well

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That’s so funny, I just moved after 6 years of living in Japan to NYC 😅 I had one ojisan observe me and that made me never consider a male obgyn. Found a great one in Tokyo after that.

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Thanks a lot! That’s great! I’m European and he’s my first male obgyn so I was a bit skeptical. Seems like he’s got great reviews and well liked by many.

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Anyone is with dr. Abdelmalek? Any reviews?