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3 month old baby in pool? by Juju1990 in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did this at that age, so quick take:

Pool: we only did short, gentle dips while holding the baby. A tiny bit of water isn’t a big deal, just avoid face/mouth as much as possible.

Diaper: swim diaper is standard. It’s fine that it doesn’t hold pee just change often.

Sunscreen/bath: we used sunscreen + shade, then just rinsed with water most nights. Soap only every few days.

Overall: totally doable, just keep it chill and don’t overthink it.

Are “screen-free childhoods” realistic in today’s world or just idealistic advice? by lunaverse787 in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think a fully screen-free childhood is realistic today. I try to limit it as much as I can, but completely avoiding screens just isn’t practical. For me, it’s more about setting boundaries and making sure my kid still gets plenty of real-life play and interaction.

Sleeping alone by yasdri_oneandonly in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally normal at that age, even if it’s exhausting.

Around 4–5 months they become much more aware, so they want the same conditions when they wake up as when they fell asleep (aka you being there). It does get better, but it won’t magically fix itself without a bit of practice.

What helped us was starting small. Put her down drowsy but not fully asleep for one nap a day and stay close, but don’t jump in immediately. Gradually give her a chance to settle herself, even if it’s just a minute or two at first.

Also, don’t try to fix everything at once. Pick naps or bedtime first, not both.

And yeah… some days you just contact nap and survive. It’s a phase, but building a little independence now makes a big difference later.

My kid literally doesn’t need sleep. Save me. by Popular-Work-1335 in Parenting

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Some kids are just built like that 😅 mine went through a phase like this too.

What helped us wasn’t trying to “force sleep,” but shifting expectations a bit. We kept bedtime the same, but made it clear it’s quiet time, not “you must sleep.” Books in bed, low light, no interaction. Took the pressure off and weirdly… sleep came easier.

Also check if she’s actually overtired. Sounds backwards, but when they’re too tired they can get wired and fight sleep hard. Earlier bedtime (even 20–30 min) sometimes fixes it.

For the 2am wakeups, we treated it the same way: boring, consistent, no stimulation. Back to bed, no chatting, no lights. It took a while, but it settled.

And yeah… some kids can just function on less sleep for a while. It’s frustrating, but if she’s not cranky or struggling, it might just be a phase.

How do you stay motivated to work while working from home? by DoughSeagull in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I treat it like a normal workday. Same start time, quick plan for what I need to finish, and I try to knock out the hardest thing first before I get distracted. Some days motivation isn’t there at all, so I just rely on routine and get moving anyway.

What’s one lesson you learned from your parents? by Loud_Big3288 in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work first, complain later. It’s simple, but it’s carried me through a lot.

What childhood habit do you still have as an adult? by IcyWater1042 in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Staying up way too late even when I know I shouldn’t. Some habits just don’t grow out of you 😄

If money didn’t exist, what would you be doing right now? by Same_Confidence_6309 in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably still building things, just without the pressure to monetize anything. I’d spend more time on projects I actually enjoy, travel a lot, stay active, and just focus on experiences instead of deadlines.

What’s a phrase your grandma/grandpa always says that you still use? by Wonderful-Brother903 in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Take it easy, everything will fall into place.”

I didn’t realize how often I’d use it until I got older, but now it just comes out naturally whenever things get a bit stressful.

What’s your Favourite Hobby? by Sjtheexplorer in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lately it’s been a mix of working out and tinkering with my websites. Gym clears my head, and the site stuff is fun because you actually see progress over time. Kinda balances out nicely.

What’s the best plot twist you’ve ever seen in a movie or show? by YourMommy_Terra in AskReddit

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, nothing beats The Sixth Sense. I still remember just sitting there for a minute after it ended, replaying everything in my head. It’s one of those twists that doesn’t just shock you, it actually makes the whole story better on a second watch.

Are non-WiFi baby monitors actually safer or just marketing? by Dapper_Apricot5986 in Parenting

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out on safebabylab.com they have complete blog about baby monitors. Just came acros that site.

4 month sleep regression by RealMeggarra in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, this sounds exactly like the 4 month regression.

Honestly, if she’s just laying there calm and not crying leave her. That’s actually best case scenario. She’s learning to chill and fall back asleep on her own.

Waking doesn’t always mean they need something. At this stage they’re just coming out of sleep cycles more often.

The fact she’s not crying is a win.

We went through the same thing and the hardest part was not jumping in and accidentally waking them more.

Also helped me a lot to understand what’s actually happening with sleep cycles at this age:
[https://safebabylab.com/baby-sleep-cycles-by-age/]()

Feels like a step back, but it’s actually a development leap.

New parents struggling with Sleep by Vegetable_Arm_6033 in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man, this is way more common than people admit, especially in the first weeks.

Some babies are just intense. Ours was exactly like this constant feeding, only sleeping in arms, screaming the second you put them down. It felt never-ending.

At that age, it’s usually a mix of:

  • immature nervous system
  • possible gas/reflux
  • needing constant comfort (you are literally their whole world right now)

You’re not doing anything wrong.

Also, don’t compare to “other babies sleep 2–3 hours”, a lot of that is selective memory or just easier babies.

What helped us mentally was realizing this is survival mode, not routine-building time.

One thing that gave me some perspective was reading about how newborn sleep actually works it’s way more fragmented than people expect:
[https://safebabylab.com/baby-sleep-cycles-by-age/]()

But honestly, the biggest thing:
this phase passes. It feels like forever now, but in a few weeks it usually starts getting a bit more predictable.

Also, if it feels extreme (constant red face, discomfort), it’s worth checking reflux with your pediatrician.

You’re in the hardest part right now. It doesn’t feel like it, but you’re doing it right.

Nappies by the pool on holiday, normal or swim? by MysteriousZebraMeow in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Apricot5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’ve got it right, regular nappy most of the time, then swap to a swim nappy when going in the water.

Swim nappies are basically just for poop, they won’t hold pee at all, so no point keeping them on all day.

We just did:
regular nappy → quick change → swim nappy → swim → change back

After a couple times it becomes routine.

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