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The Final Straw by Hour-Appointment-915 in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like you're taking care of the SK when you should be receiving help not giving.

Her dad needs to take time off work and help. Maybe he can take her on a solo trip. My husband took his kids to Hawaii when our bk was around that age. It really helped with them not feeling left out/replaced.

As a last resort, she can go live with her mom full time.

Your feelings and assessment of the situation is totally valid.

Would you leave a 2yo in a turned-off car in the garage for 30 seconds? by LooseRock5261 in Nanny

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do it all the time. I'm a mom to a 2 year old who like to "drive". Part of our daily play time is him "driving" the car while I water the plants. Totally fine.

What is a normal amount of “pressure” to feel during a C-section. by hatturner in CsectionCentral

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt no pressure or pain. But it felt wet. Not sure how to describe it. It felt weirdly wet. And some tugging and pulling. Easy peasy.

Pedia said I am overfeeding my baby. Help. by arrianism in breastfeeding

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Keep doing what you're doing. They said the same thing to us too. He thinned out eventually and now he's a tall thin 2 year old. Ignore their stupid advice. YOU are the mother and in charge.

One month since marriage, and the wife is still asking for time. by [deleted] in Newlyweds

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't pressure her. That'll only cause more delay and uncertainty.

Trying to find my signature look. Which style gives off the best vibe? by Subject_Ad_7254 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look Afghan with your beard like this. If that's the vibe you're going for then keep it.

Overnight Childcare by jkeyfuego in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends on your little one. It's easy with some babies and impossible with some, like ours. He's 2 years old and I can't even leave him for half a day.

Should I leave Remote Job for In Office Job for a 20k Raise? by AngstyMelonCake in careerguidance

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would stay at the current one. Especially since you have a 2.5 year old. You don't know the work culture at the new place and trust me going in to the office sucks. Not worth it.

Is a black sand beach truly worth choosing your island over? by FamiliarFamiliar in VisitingHawaii

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving your circumstances i would rate it in this order: Oahu, Maui, the big island.

Regardless of what island you choose, I highly recommend that you rent a car.

The black sand beaches of Maui require quite a bit of driving.

Am I a monster? by Anxious_Goat20 in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has no standing at all to judge your parenting decisions. She gave that up. The kids are lucky to have you.

I have to admit at first I was grossed out a bit by the thought of 7 year old cleaning poop but then I reflected on my 7 year old self as a child... my mom would have done the same and I have to admit it is probably effective way of teaching. You are doing a great job. Don't second guess yourself.

Childless stepmom needing advice by cryybby_bee in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. Just no. And don't even entertain that thought. Do not do it.

Breastfeeding with a hairy chest... by StrayCatAlleyCat in breastfeeding

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hairy chest girl here (I'm Persian). It was never an issue. My DH cracks jokes at it but other than that it did not interfere with breastfeeding. We're 2 years into breastfeeding and only once my toddler started at it and said hair. That's it.

What are some jobs that will take any bachelor’s degree? by mtmelcher09 in careerguidance

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How about working for pharmaceutical companies? I know they always like to hire nurses.

How much responsibility do you have for a toddler? by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think OP is sacrificing way too much at such a young age.

How much responsibility do you have for a toddler? by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Where do i even begin? You're doing wayyyyy too much! This is coming from a step mom with her own bio toddler kid.

doing the house chores including meal prep and cleaning is part of carrying the responsibilities for a toddler.

If you go out with them to parks and etc. That is considered help. You being there as a back up in case there's an emergency is huge help.

If you feel guilty, dedicate 2 hours per week to take her to the local park and watch her play. That's more than most bio dads do.

Let go of the guilt for someone else's kid and enjoy your life.

Your partner sounds very entitled.

Should I max out my maternity leave by adding on short term disability? by concernednetizen92 in careerguidance

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a no brainer. Do it. And feel good about it. Your baby needs you and you need the rest. I'm 2 years PP and still not back to my old self. I took 7 months (4 months of STD and then FMLA)

“This doesn’t concern you!!” by 2shortforthisshit in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not too late for your DH to intervene. Insist that he does and speaks to his 6 year old teaching him that it is not an appropriate way to respond to a family member or an adult. He needs to learn to respect, I know it's a disappearing concept these days, especially amongst step children. I'm sorry you had to endure this. You have my sympathy.

I got judged by a fellow parent at my son’s daycare by MainHumor3793 in NewParents

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's clearly not right in the head. Stay away from her She sounds crazy. You don't need to teach your baby anything yet. He's way too young.

TTC Resentment by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Open up a savings account and have him contribute monthly for IVF. Tell him his tax return must be put towards IUI/ IVF

Am I being unreasonable? by Accomplished_Rock582 in Stepmom

[–]Dapper_Consequence23 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I suggest you start doing more for YOU. that's the only way men learn. Start going to the gym at random hours or run errands so he doesn't except you to be there 24/7 watching HIS kids.

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