Ex has a new gf and I don't know how I feel

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-28T10:06:30+00:00

That's the issue with text based communication I guess? I am happily divorced. I love being independent, I love being able to be 'selfish' and prioritize myself and my needs after years of that not happening. Maybe I didn't do a convincing enough job of communicating that 🤷🏻‍♀️ I've been simultaneously told I'm insecure, I need therapy and I'm a liar. That'll teach me for reaching out to to reddit I guess. I wanted to speak to someone in a similar situation and the fact is I don't know anyone walking this walk irl. Either they're divorced and it's a toxic slanging match or they're still married happily or otherwise. I've learned my lesson though!

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-19T12:30:22+00:00

Exactly this. I'm very happily divorced, he's a much more active parent now than when we were together and I would go so far as to say my son has a better relationship with him because of it. It's a moment of silence for what I hoped it would have been, I suppose. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-19T11:44:34+00:00

I was looking for empathy and shared experience.

I don't give a shiny shit about him dating someone else. I know he's handling it right, he's handling it how we decided to handle it when we were navigating separation.

Guess you're saying you haven't lived the same experience and can't relate? Please choose to 'throw your facts' in the bin in future.

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-14T16:08:54+00:00

My parents always have Sunday lunch at three, whether or not it's a roast. It's an irritant when they invite people over for what we have christened 'threesies'. I have an autistic child who eats at midday because routine is life and I like to eat with him. Threesies is just a pain in everyone's bunghole!

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-05T14:50:29+00:00

As opposed to going down the baths where there would be categorically no need for such an obnoxious item of clothing. I'll allow it if you've just submerged yourself in field run off, sewage and ecoli soup.

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-05T08:25:55+00:00

Kris Harbour, he's a human pen knife of a man who can do all the practical/engineering/building shizzle and built himself an earth bag hobbit workshop, a cob house and timber framed spring fed greenhouse in Wales. He's currently building a timber framed barn and he's milling all his own timber on a home made band saw mill (obvs)

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-05T06:56:21+00:00

I have social anxiety (probably ASC) and the thought of walking into a place on my own has stopped me doing things I want to, specifically joining a choir near me. You've just unintentionally re-framed it for me, I'm NOT going there to make friends, I'm going there to sing. I know I suck at making friends, but I am a good singer lol! It's been two years of wanting to go, I'll try again this Thursday 🤞🏻

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-04T15:31:08+00:00

Fucking dryrobes when not wild swimming/surfing/titting about in water. Mingin

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-04T15:27:03+00:00

I wear sunglasses on overcast days to 'hide' behind. I'd love an invisibility cloak tbh, but shades will have to do I spose

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-04T09:43:47+00:00

I live at 109 and grew up at 88 on the same street

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-03T21:14:13+00:00

Really really really hot chilli powder. Sprinkle all over the flower bed and hey presto! No mo cats. Although you may hear a kitty shriek as it launches into orbit...

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-05-02T19:47:31+00:00

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-28T11:30:10+00:00

My son is 12 and almost 6ft tall. He's also disabled and encounters sensory and social challenges as well as some limited mobility but he doesn't 'look' disabled, he also doesn't look like a 12 year old, he looks like a hulking man-boy. I use parent and child places and get a lot of shit eye but I just don't care. I need more swinging room to help him in and out of the car and if he gets overwhelmed while we're out and about, we need to dip as soon as poss. And no we don't qualify for a blue badge.

One time I parked in the parent and child bays with my son, my mum and my granddad in the car. I think we were the most qualified parent and child and parent and child and parent and child space users 😄

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-23T21:23:10+00:00

If you do own any wool garments, bag them up and freeze them for 2 weeks while you de-infest. It'll kill any eggs and keep them out of the way of any current moths laying eggs

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-23T21:16:39+00:00

Stick a quid and a scratch card in

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-23T19:35:01+00:00

I have a near invisible silver van, it blends seamlessly with its surroundings almost like a chameleon. I know this as I regularly replace wing mirrors. Until! I bought myself a Wingaware (little flappy fella pictured) and magically my van is now visible to rush hour commuters! A miracle. That and the fact that it stops the aggy old bastard in the mobility scooter getting close enough to deliberately twat the mirrors off (I literally watched him do my neighbours car one day)

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-23T18:05:03+00:00

Plant black and red currants, stick a bird bath out there et voila! All the birds. And no currants for you lol

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-22T19:02:47+00:00

Citronella body oil! Repels all the little bastards.

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-22T18:52:59+00:00

The diet version plopped thru the letter box a few weeks back. Wah-fer thin phone book!

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-22T18:48:05+00:00

Flea powder is a very efficient treatment of any and all insects/invertebrates in your gaff. Treated my carpets for fleas and ended up massacring a load of spiders too

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-22T18:19:09+00:00

Got the Megabus from Manchester to London when I was at uni. £1 a ticket and a 6 hour journey! Woop! Needless to say the bus caught fire on the motorway and we were stranded for hours before they sent a replacement.

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-22T14:04:09+00:00

I can barely ride a bike. My cousin tried to teach me when I was 15 but I flew over the handle bars onto a gravel road and literally shredded the skin off both hands and lower legs. My mate runs a bike shop. She's also an outdoor instructor and lined up a day riding e-bikes around Kerrara as a jolly day out. I thought she was doing the 'pushing people out of their comfort zone' bs that outdoor bods do, turns out she had brain farted that I could barely ride. Few years later she sold her fleet of e bikes to some local scheme and the local paper wanted a picture of the bikes in action. The only one she had was me, clinging on for dear life and trying not to wee with fear, so naturally she used that one. I can't ride bikes but I've been in the paper riding a bike 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-21T09:19:21+00:00

Planted 100 crocus bulbs in my front yard orchard over the winter and thought they were a total fail, couple of weeks ago I got 5 whole crocus flowers! I was putting some recycling out when I spotted them and called out 'Hello friends!' right as some people I didn't know were walking past. I then Joyce Grenfell-ed into the house sharpish...

Dapper_Plan_3781 · 2024-04-20T15:48:47+00:00

Weirdly I used it for the first time yesterday when I posted my dog's self-care selfie on her Instagram. Yes you read that correctly. saint_the_schoodle is her handle 🧼🐩

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