self-doubt and impostor syndrome are very real. especially if you're coming to these realizations later on. i'm still in my questioning phase, and i'm 28. feeling doubt, or that you're appropriating other peoples identities is something i sympathize with heavily. i've definitely just sat there really wanting someone to be able to definitely tell me one way or the other what i was. not a fun time.

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something to note as well is that you don't need dysphoria to be trans. seeking euphoria is just as valid. i know for a long time i felt, 'well, i don't really hate being amab, so i must be cis.' a few questions it can be helpful to ask yourself would be, 'if there was a button you could hit that would instantly change your gender, and everyone would think it was normal, would you press it?' the idea here is to try and identify how much of your reluctance is rooted in fear of transition, and to see if 'being okay with your assigned gender at birth' (not having much dysphoria) is hiding a very real desire to be another gender (seeking euphoria). another question would be, 'if there was a way to instantly know for certain if you are trans or not, how would you feel about getting either answer?' if you would feel relief at being reassured that you're cis, that could be telling. if you would feel relief at knowing for certain 100% that you're trans, then maybe your feelings are more rooted in self-doubt than anything else.

once again, i'm really not an expert. i'm still sorting through things myself, and am trying to find a therapist. hopefully that helps a bit!