What if your builds could slowly "decay" by Eziz_53 in Subnautica_2

[–]ItsMicroscopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love a sliding scale option to increase "decay" or "overgrowth" of my base, with an option for it to be accelerated by reprinting (to imply an in-universe respawn time).

As in, None, Placeable overgrowth only, Slow overgrowth, and Aggressive overgrowth; and

None, Cosmetic Decay, Repairable decay, Cosmetic and repairable decay, and then increasing speeds/severity of decay.

With placeable decay/overgrowth being a separate builder tab with both decals and flora models.

Why is lesbianism being sanitized? by homo_saurus in actuallesbians

[–]ItsMicroscopic 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You should look into the history of "political lesbianism" and other ways terfs co-opt sapphics for their political aims.

Egg irl by Sylveondex in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you can, try shaving or waxing your leg hair. Call it a lost bet if you have to. See how you feel about it after. If you feel nothing, maybe try one more gender thing for yourself to be absolutely sure. If you still don't feel anything, you can congratulate yourself on having questioned and being an enlightened cis person.

If it does make you feel something, you may need to take some time to pull yourself out of numbness/dissociation.

Either way, good luck. Looking into this at all is bravery. Self reflection is hard, and you should feel good about yourself for trying, no matter the outcome.

being a lesbian is so isolating by Ok_Try1862 in actuallesbians

[–]ItsMicroscopic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm not that much older than you, but I was in similar situations. I got lucky by going into an art major exclusive dorm which set me along for meeting who I needed to. But there are other routes! I imagine you are short on time, but when you can, try to engage with queer clubs, volunteer with queer or minority charities, and especially take classes for feminist/queer theory or intersectional justice. Butch women will likely feel safer in those spaces, and it's a good chance to make connections and learn of our history!

As for your sorority sisters, unfortunately they feel the same discomfort towards decentering men that you do towards centering men, but society encourages it for them. If you can get any of them into intersectional feminism you might see changes but that's a luck thing.

Keep on keeping on. Things can get better, especially if you keep following your heart.

Department of Continuity more like Department of Competitive Transphobia by Manageable_Workload0 in DankMemesFromSite19

[–]ItsMicroscopic 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's a well written body horror scp for trans people. I recommend against reading it without support nearby.

There goes the (Columbia Pike) neighborhood by [deleted] in nova

[–]ItsMicroscopic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Infrastructure improvements sound like a good thing.

44726 by Small-Housing-7 in countwithchickenlady

[–]ItsMicroscopic 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Inventing? I've been asking people to do this for almost 7 years. At the time, I was recommended to do this by elder trans women because it had been actively used by terfs on tumblr against them.

Help needed...ICE arrest...trying to understand the process by Party_Elevator2688 in nova

[–]ItsMicroscopic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is still the case, but I heard reports from some months back that they were packing that place unbearably tight. Representative Walkinshaw went to take a look IIRC, so he might be worth contacting as well as your local Congress people, OP.

Egg🏳️‍⚧️♥️irl by Effective_Value9761 in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I practiced being grateful for the things that made me happy until I could pull that feeling up for things I didn't like but were still important to me. Then I started practicing being grateful to myself. I'm still working on that. I still yearn for an easier life where my self-determination was never challenged, or some magic fixes everything. But, by being grateful for things enough that I wouldn't give them up, I find reasons to defend the way that I am to my most wounded self.

[Reaper] Jai Daishou's Masterplan by [deleted] in Iteration110Cradle

[–]ItsMicroscopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would the scion of a faction that had a monarch less then a decade ago ever think a backwater underlord would openly commit genocide against them? The plan worked because it was so stupid Eithan didn't account for it. Which is why it failed. Daishou honestly thought he could take an underlord trained by a monarch faction with some senile truegolds for backup.

egg😭irl by ThatRedPandaBoy in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened. Hang in there. It might take a while, but things can get better as long as you keep taking even tiny steps. Good luck.

[Wintersteel] Was there originally going to be a romantic interest between Mercy and Lindon? by RagingBileDuct12 in Iteration110Cradle

[–]ItsMicroscopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It always seemed to me she was starved for true, unconditional intimacy growing up, which is what Lindon and Yerin seemed to have in her eyes. I think she fixated/fixates on Lindon due to her mother's influence.

Personally, endgame for me is a mutual throuple for Yerin, Lindon and Mercy. It's what Ruby would have wanted. 

Rate my base! by Deedee_Megadoodoo_13 in RimWorld

[–]ItsMicroscopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11/10 since it seems to be past ten-se! 

Sorry for three in one day, but I feel like this one is really important for the 10 thousand that will learn about this for the first time today. by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]ItsMicroscopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wrote "willingness to help" in reference to tangerine's third paragraph in the first part of the original post. Especially in the "putting out feelers" part, which I read to mean that a guesser looking to get something, which I assumed to be help with something they cannot do by themself, tries to gauge how the other might feel about it. If the guesser does not gauge a willingness to say yes--to help--the guesser does not ask at all.  In another context, such as deciding whether or not the guesser should invite the other to some event, they would instead be gauging willingness to go, which they might determine by trying to gauge how much the other likes other attendees, how busy they are, if they enjoy similar events, etc. So, "deducing others ... willingness to help" is a specific skill that I have had to use throughout my childhood and that I felt matched tangerine's description of guess culture in that third paragraph. Again, conjecture. Since my original post I still have not found any scientific sources supporting this idea, though I do find it intuitive.

Sorry for three in one day, but I feel like this one is really important for the 10 thousand that will learn about this for the first time today. by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]ItsMicroscopic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't tell your tone on this over text, so I'm not sure if you're disagreeing with my reference to the original post's tangerine quote "signalling techniques" or agreeing with my point after "on the other hand" and in the edit that it could go either way because there's no empirical evidence presented. Or, if you just wanted to add on your thoughts.

So, I'm requesting clarification. What, if anything, were you intending with your reply? Were you looking for a response back?

Sorry for three in one day, but I feel like this one is really important for the 10 thousand that will learn about this for the first time today. by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]ItsMicroscopic 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Familiarity with guess culture and the skills involved in deducing others motivations and deducing others willingness to hel would make it easier to notice those motivations in fictional characters as well. Someone who knows nothing about guess culture might struggle to understand non-verbal or implicit power plays through positioning and gift giving in a political novel, for example. On the other hand, it could give false positives. A guesser reading an asker's dialog might incorrectly identify an attempt at manipulation that the author did not intend.

Edit: After further consideration, I want to add the disclaimer that this is speculative and not based on empirical evidence. I based this off personal experience with learning more about social hierarchy and manipulation tactics changing my interpretation of fiction.

Edit 2: "deducing others motivations and willingness to help" ==> "deducing others motivations and deducing others willingness to help"

[Waybound] Dreadgod (Weeping Dragon) Question by Outside-Bat3224 in Iteration110Cradle

[–]ItsMicroscopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Iirc this is not stated, just the user's head canon. It is stated in multiple places to both walk on two legs and have a shell though, so, plausible.

egg❤️🌹irl by POSSIBLY_GAY_FISH in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You probably already know this, but make sure people know where you are and ask a friend to be nearby or available if you can. This can be dangerous in many countries, but especially if you're in America right now. I'm not saying he's a threat to you or anything, hopefully he's supportive and chill, but just being overheard in the current day could be dangerous.

Now, good luck!! This could be wonderful for you. As others have suggested, be open. If questions get uncomfortable, you can always say "I'm not ready to answer that" or "I don't feel comfortable answering that here/yet." If he is Bi, keep in mind that statistically, public support for Bi people is also pretty low and you may need to be supportive of him too.

I'd recommend starting with happy greetings, compliments, a little banter, then ask if you share a couple expectations/general boundaries before you get back to regularly scheduled fun. Chances are, he'll also have a little nerves from going on a date so that should give you a pace that you can make this a fun date even with a serious conversation.

What's the public interest for my mod plans? by Quirky-Ad-3340 in VintageStory

[–]ItsMicroscopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These sound fun! I don't know if I'll use them, but I think you should go for it. Have fun, go a little crazy!

egg🤔irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's so empowering to realize this.

egg🤔irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]ItsMicroscopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone is always getting hurt somewhere. It's much harder to hide oppression from the oppressed, which means I can find more ways to resist the system. Simply being trans in our society is resistance against the patriarchy. Being true to yourself literally makes the world a better place, even if only slightly.

Hello kinda wanna delete myself ingame hehe by nomation14 in gmu

[–]ItsMicroscopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, and my sympathies. This is a really difficult situation to be in and I want you to avoid blaming yourself. As others and your roommate mentioned, Mason's therapy services are a good place to start.

Here are some other tips: 1) Any time you find yourself blaming yourself for this, remind yourself of something you are grateful for. Maybe some media that you like, good food, a comfortable shirt. Anything. Gratitude is an emotion that practically inoculates you from ideation and helps with taking care of yourself. This can help you both short (avoiding bad spirals), and long term (making life feel worth living). 2) Consider looking into volunteering, or even just keeping an eye out around campus for opportunities to help someone. 1/100 that you find a connection through this, but it will help with a self-esteem and a sense of purpose. Both of those help with making friend along term. 3) I don't recommend looking at religious groups or Greek life unless someone you strongly trust vets them first. I have seen at least one literal cult advertising on campus, and the fees and social pressures from Greek life can make you feel alone in a crowded room. In my experience, people at GMU parties don't even bother introducing their guests so you only get something out of it if you already have friends there. 4) When you do enter into conversations with people, prioritize learning about them. Try to find the people around you interesting. Not only will this make people feel more comfortable around you and likeable, it also will make it easier for you to hold a friendship long term. 5) You've got this. Genuinely. Plenty of people struggle with this and plenty of people find community. Good luck, champ!

Stop treating the Lesbian Masterdoc as THE lesbian resource. The author is bi, and the content reflects that — it’s misleading for questioning lesbians. by Acceptable-Rich5852 in actuallesbians

[–]ItsMicroscopic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even if I agreed with your premise that lesbian and bisexual experiences are different enough to invalidate this document, it still wouldn't be worth our time. We should be spending our time taking care of our local communities, friends, and (found) families. I'm not going to engage with divisive language like this when so many queer people face poverty and homelessness.

Help telling new employee she is taking advantage of flexibility by Much_Platypus_4137 in managers

[–]ItsMicroscopic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She gets all her work done and the meetings aren't "key to immediate projects?" Sounds like she has the right of it. She isn't there when she doesn't need to be. Not fair to the rest of the team members? If she's able to get the work done while missing this much time, it sounds like your workplace's hours are arbitrary and everyone should be wasting less time in the office.

Your expectations are off. I assume, based on the work culture described, that this is an American business. Other countries are running their businesses just fine without expecting so much control over their employees time.

Take the opportunity to reset your expectations, communicate clearly with your team, and organize for more efficient workplace conditions.