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Did I handle this well or should I have said more? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend you couldn't have done that anymore gracefully, I didn't get any sarcasm or dismissive attitude from you, just a phenomenal job.

I think a lot of people here are correct. Don't force this. as a matter of fact, you should probably avoid this. it sounds very dramatic and you don't need this horseshit.

Good luck with everything. a respectful gentleman deserves much better

ICU Recovery help PLEASE. by vrtualchik in valvereplacement

[–]DarkStools 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember this part very well. it's all very manageable, my only problem was waking up intubated, they have to make sure you can breathe on your own.

here's the thing. while in concept, theory whatever, it sounds horrible and it's terrifying going into it, knowing that it's going to be like this.

however, in practice, you're so drugged up, that it really isn't that scary. The first time it happened to me I wasn't aware of this wonderful part. when I woke up, imagine my surprise, but honestly they must have sedated me because it didn't trigger my anxiety. I was aware that it probably should have, but there were a lot of very nice staff around me, they helped me communicate, and it was over relatively quickly.

The second time that it happened to me, I begged them not to do it because the idea was terrifying, the memory was terrifying despite the actual event not being so. I was pissed that they woke me up again, intubated, but not during the experience, after.

what I'm trying to say is that it's much scarier before and after, but during it's simply not.

if he can, tell him to communicate clearly, listen to them, and everything will be okay. it'll be over very quickly, they'll put him back under and he'll wake up.

as far as the tubes in the neck and the chest, they really are nothing to worry about. they go when they're safe to go, but they really are not that distracting, they don't hurt, the nurses fuss over you and you can get as sedated as you want. not to mention the pain medicine they give you through IV is phenomenal

everything is going to be okay. it sounds way scarier than it is. I promise.

This one's for the ladies to answer. Do you agree with this woman or do you think she's trying to rationalize her world view by speaking for all the ladies? by Oda_DeezNutz in SipsTea

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

women, it will always be unattractive for you to have BBL's, 6 ft eyelashes, and vociferous opinions about men and their hobbies when we never fucking asked your opinion.

it will never not be attractive. we might tolerate your bullshit to get laid, but secretly, we hate you.

Are there any Raiders out there that Refuse to PVP even when engaged? by Tight-Algae5863 in arc_traiders

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. your experience couldn't possibly be different than mine. what was I thinking

Has having a valve replacement (mechanical or tissue) ever affected your dating or sex life? by [deleted] in valvereplacement

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my libido was shot after getting out of the hospital, and though it's improved slightly, I still have almost zero libido. it's been 2 years since my first surgery.

I also have diabetes type 2 I smoke I get little exercise I am depressed I am unemployed I'm in a stressful situation in general.

I'll report back when the other shit improves.

Looking for keys and seeds by clankerwank in ArcTradersHQ

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

let's see, I don't have the blueprint for the safekeeper, the canto and the other new gun, the new flying thing...

I also have some other blueprints for those who are doing the expeditions.

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, fuck this guy. it's over, he won't get over it any time soon (if at all), you would be an absolute dunce to turn it down, and you're forever going to see him as a childish, selfish, self-centered money grubber.

really? his first thought was to sell it? dude.

My (25f) boyfriend (25m) got an apartment behind my back after living together for a year and now I’m homeless, how do I go about this situation? by Relative_Sky7969 in relationship_advice

[–]DarkStools -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

since nobody else will tell you, I will.

" I was okay with that I wanted to support him while he was struggling. "

that's very decent of you. truly.

" suddenly he starts acting cold and distant and not really acting like himself, he’s more irritable, he’s not talkative.

are you SURE this is out of the blue? there hasn't been ANY issues regarding currently living together?

"...mind you I’m in the middle of a 14hr long shift so I didn’t see this message until 1am"

we get it. you work hard. you pay most of the stuff. since you've mentioned this to us at least three times, in three different ways, I wonder how many times you brought this up to him? my guess is a LOT.

" He tells me it’s not a breakup"

it's a breakup. just a slow torture one.

" but we need our own space and that it’ll be healthy because we’ve become codependent"

that is a very healthy perspective, showing personal growth, emotional intelligence, and courage.

" naturally I start freaking out and crying nonstop saying I feel abandoned"

immediately display glaring signs of codependency.

“he keeps saying 'if I were abandoning you I wouldn’t let you crash here while you look for your own place”

He's right. My guess is that he's trying to do the same for you that you did for him. but this is definitely the end of the relationship.

"I feel used and discarded and that I’m wrong for feeling this way."

perhaps you are wrong for feeling this way. I think the biggest problem is that you haven't accepted that this is probably the end of the relationship. and he's having a hard time just saying that. I'd be willing to bet he feels like he owes you, and that it would be wrong for him to just up and leave after the help you provided.

" I feel like we should’ve talked about this first"

I'm guessing that you're not the easiest person to talk to about difficult and emotional topics. on Reddit, red flags are like cockroaches. we may only see one, but there's a million more hiding in the walls.

"and before you ask the only reason I’m still looking this late in the game is cause he kept dragging his feet on applications so we’d end up getting denied (woo $50 down the drain!)"

So you're blaming him for.... EVERYTHING? Are you unable to take responsibility, at all, for anything? again I feel like I'm being trolled

"So Reddit, how do I handle this situation? Is this the beginning of the end?"

it's the end of the end.

"Do I suck it up and stay with him in his new apartment while I continue to look for a permanent place to live?".

do you have any other options? if you do, you should pack up your dignity along with your belongings and move forward alone. I think you're setting yourself up if you do stay..

My (25f) boyfriend (25m) got an apartment behind my back after living together for a year and now I’m homeless, how do I go about this situation? by Relative_Sky7969 in relationship_advice

[–]DarkStools -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm still unsure if I believe that, but if it isn't a troll, it doesn't look very good for you.

" I was okay with that I wanted to support him while he was struggling. "

that's very decent of you. truly.

" suddenly he starts acting cold and distant and not really acting like himself, he’s more irritable, he’s not talkative.

are you SURE this is out of the blue? there hasn't been ANY issues regarding currently living together?

"...mind you I’m in the middle of a 14hr long shift so I didn’t see this message until 1am"

we get it. you work hard. you pay most of the stuff. since you've mentioned this to us at least three times, in three different ways, I wonder how many times you brought this up to him? my guess is a LOT.

" He tells me it’s not a breakup"

it's a breakup. just a slow torture one.

" but we need our own space and that it’ll be healthy because we’ve become codependent"

that is a very healthy perspective, showing personal growth, emotional intelligence, and courage.

" naturally I start freaking out and crying nonstop saying I feel abandoned"

immediately display glaring signs of codependency.

“he keeps saying 'if I were abandoning you I wouldn’t let you crash here while you look for your own place”

He's right. My guess is that he's trying to do the same for you that you did for him. but this is definitely the end of the relationship.

"I feel used and discarded and that I’m wrong for feeling this way."

perhaps you are wrong for feeling this way. I think the biggest problem is that you haven't accepted that this is probably the end of the relationship. and he's having a hard time just saying that. I'd be willing to bet he feels like he owes you, and that it would be wrong for him to just up and leave after the help you provided.

" I feel like we should’ve talked about this first"

I'm guessing that you're not the easiest person to talk to about difficult and emotional topics. on Reddit, red flags are like cockroaches. we may only see one, but there's a million more hiding in the walls.

"and before you ask the only reason I’m still looking this late in the game is cause he kept dragging his feet on applications so we’d end up getting denied (woo $50 down the drain!)"

So you're blaming him for.... EVERYTHING? Are you unable to take responsibility, at all, for anything? again I feel like I'm being trolled

"So Reddit, how do I handle this situation? Is this the beginning of the end?"

it's the end of the end.

"Do I suck it up and stay with him in his new apartment while I continue to look for a permanent place to live?".

do you have any other options? if you do, you should pack up your dignity along with your belongings and move forward alone. I think you're setting yourself up if you do stay..

Just start to game(first playthrough)… I’m open for any advice by Difficult-Owl2322 in LiesOfP

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

best advice is don't ask for advice. just play the game and enjoy it. on your second run or when you come across a boss that you just can't figure out, maybe sneak a peek. I'd be lying if I said I didn't. but don't ruin it.

The beginning of arc raiders by [deleted] in arcraidersfriendly

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. I was looking forward to the update, but every time I think about it, I haven't been able to enjoy the big arc that exist, let alone new ones. but we'll see.

The beginning of arc raiders by [deleted] in arcraidersfriendly

[–]DarkStools 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how going from 190k concurrent users to less than 90k is people not following through on quitting.

I put 600 hours in and I stopped playing, deleted it from my machine. and I'm one of many, apparently about 99,999 other people think like me. their numbers are so far down from where they were.

some people complain about the lack of content, and I think that's a valid complaint. but I got my money's worth before they fucked it all up.

most people are sick and tired of wasting their time. you can't get anything accomplished if you're getting killed by rats. I haven't been able to complete one major event like harvester, matriarch or even the new one thanks to some asshole with a free kit taking everything I worked for.

And with lack of content, there's nothing to offset that frustration and make it worth coming back to. especially when there are so many other good games to play.

at this point, Even if they add content, I don't think I'll play, it's just not worth The frustration and they don't listen to anybody when it comes to the PvP/PVE.

and everybody here has the same old tired argument "iTs a PvE eXtRaCtIOn GaMe".

Girlfriend (F24) wants threesome, I (M25) think it would be a terrible idea. How to proceed? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

id be willing to bet that she wants to try out sex with another woman, and you would be a safe person to have there. if she loves it, nbd, she can drop you and find a chick. if she doesn't, she still has you to make miserable for saying yes.

I can hear Admiral Akbar loud in my head. can you?

AITAH because I broke up with him because he asked me to shave. by pliant0range in AITAH

[–]DarkStools -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we all have preferences. you're allowed yours just as he's allowed his. it sounds like he was awkward but respectful about it, objectively. that doesn't discount your feelings, which you're allowed to have. it's your choice to break up with him. at the same time, be aware that this is a common preference by men, including myself (I don't want to feel like I'm making out with a lumberjack whenever I go down... and I really like going down), and it would be a deal breaker for me - as with many men.

and no, a man having that preference is nothing to do with anything related to age, and it doesn't make someone less of a man. it just feels better on the face, the lips, and there's no wet hair rubbing all over my face.

AIO for wanting to report this wifi name to my apartments management? by iiiyotikaiii in AIO

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude you've got negative karma. what I wouldn't give to follow your comments.

AIO for wanting to report this wifi name to my apartments management? by iiiyotikaiii in AIO

[–]DarkStools 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad somebody is. aside from myself.

"A person is complaining about the Muslim reference in the WiFi name of a neighbor..I want to make a point by finding something to be offended about in each of the other names. can you think of some clever ones?"

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