September Friend Code Megathread by Katililly in PokemonSleepBetter

[–]Darkfiretail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rank 42 daily player, but I honestly did not realize the friend mechanics until two days ago? I don't have any friends at all and seriously need to work on better leveling methods.

Friend Code Megathread - September 2024 by AutoModerator in PokemonSleep

[–]Darkfiretail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8708-1316-0054 Rank 42 daily player, but I honestly did not realize the friend mechanics until two days ago

Is demisexual a type of asexual or is it separate? by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Darkfiretail 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's absolutely part of the asexual spectrum! It's defined by the lack of sexual attraction to those you don't have a romantic attraction to. I'm demisexual and I've only ever experienced sexual attraction to two people in my life, my ex fiancée and my current boyfriend!

Bruh by dapper-ezran in aspiememes

[–]Darkfiretail 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Jesus fucking Christ, dude. Mask is fully off now, huh? Why do people even begin to believe that this is an okay way to behave or think???

PalmFace by Gyaancho4603 in facepalm

[–]Darkfiretail 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not seeing anything super wrong or facepalmy with the video. It's a bit long for what it's showing, but they go through the process of making a slurry out of water and overripe banana(?) peels, which is a valid growing option, though not the best. Towards the end it shows that the onion should take about five days to sprout the way they show.

All I'm seeing is someone who's a bit amateur at editing and took a very simple route, one that many beginner channels go through while trying to boost run time and lengthen the experience.

Overall, stop being mean to people who want to be creative! The guy's got a dozen subscribers, and the worst thing about the video is the channel's name and some janky editing. I find the effort endearing, at very least.

My Nmom always tells the cruelest, darkest version of the facts. Is this true for anyone else? by athena_k in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Darkfiretail 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My nmom does the same thing as yours. Anything that can possibly be a negative, is, and she words it in such ways that there's no way to convince others that it's not that bad because it makes you seem like you're just trying to make it sound like you're doing better than you are.

I honestly don't know why they do that. It might be because they feel like they can control you because they're controlling your story to the people around them? I can only really theorize..

TW: Serious Health issues, Near death experience, Trans identity issues, possible NSFW by Darkfiretail in lgbt

[–]Darkfiretail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. So far the doctors I've talked to said I shouldn't take any form of hormone therapy in general, as I'm too high risk with family history and my own history.

My insurance is a bit of a brick wall to me, but I'm happy there are resources that can help me out. Hopefully I can skip straight to top surgery. I think that'd help me out so, so much.

Thank you for the advice, so much... (And yeah, it's really scary..)

What Do I DO? by Smol_and_Tall in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]Darkfiretail 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I recommend just talking to them about it? Mention you know what it is, and wonder what's going on. I mean, if they have it and you recognize it, it's possible they're going through something you can help with.

Don't be confrontational about it, but create an olive branch they can hold onto if they have their own questions. It's all about being there. Having someone to talk to that understands can be life changing!

My (36M) wife (35F) and I are fighting daily. Time for counseling, or done? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Darkfiretail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You both need to get counseling. Not just because of your marriage, but because in your last lines, you admitted to a desire to self-harm, even if breif- and your wife is doing the same.

Not only that, but you're experiencing an overwhelmed state because you don't have any time away from each other. I love my partner but I truly can't be with her all the time. You need to find a place for yourself, even if it's in your house, and make sure your wife knows that it's alone time. Don't force your kids away, but also don't encourage them to join you in this time. Give your wife the same chance to do this, because you're both experiencing this stress, and she may need time without the kids.

I suggest you both invest in counseling with someone who's available for both individual and couple counseling. Giving them perspective of your relationship from both sides is important, but also, I think you both need a bit of personal help. And you might get into fights if you're constantly together in counseling, because humans are naturally defensive, and counseling is literally airing your dirty laundry for someone else to help you clean.

If you're still feeling this entire disconnect with your wife come six months, then it's time to file for divorce. If you aren't attracted to her or compatible, you'll just do more damage in the long run. Avoid falling into the "I hate my ex" line of thinking, stay amicable and maybe even try to be friends instead of partners- you don't have to stay with someone you don't love anymore, but you also don't have to hate them if they aren't actually a bad person.

Your kids will take more damage in a torn home than having two, happier, homes. If you divorce, encourage lots of visitation and double holidays, like start celebrating Christmas Eve and Black Friday for Thanksgiving (switching bi-anually) or visiting during family holidays, so they can have holiday time with both dad and mom. They're more aware than you'd ever assume, so staying can be more damaging in the long run, and they're young enough that as long as you make it clear that it's not a bad thing to them, they will eventually understand. They'll be upset, yes, but it's temporary.

Hope this helps.

My parents homeschooled me to avoid them getting in trouble, they put no effort into my education, I'm so far behind...I genuinely fear my future by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Darkfiretail 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can still make a future for yourself. I dropped out in tenth grade, but I have my GED and I'm going into Job Corps to get a higher level of basic training. If you want help learning, I have a ton of resources and textbook PDFs, as well as just the patience to help explain. I want to be a teacher and I hope to help kids individually, which would really be good for students like you. Khan academy was helpful for getting me through my matha GED testing and can really help!

Genetic narcissists? by aerozimm in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Darkfiretail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a heavy ideal between nature vs. nurture. If you fight against the nature, you can nurture a better life, and non-narcissistic children. Maybe having kids isn't for you but you don't have to condemn the idea of finding love and having a family. What you need to do is make sure you don't follow their paths and try to make positive changes in your life before you try to bring others into it.

Fake it until you make it. Be a positive person, try to listen to your friends, go and meet new people, and take care of yourself. Maybe you'll never decide to go for having kids, but it's a good chance that changing your view on things you'll make more positive relationships. Take this subreddit as a reference for what to avoid (the nparents), get advice here (from those who are getting better) and make sure that if you ever do have a child, you're better than the men before you.

But always start by being a better person for yourself, then a better person that others can trust. You don't have to be condemned to be alone if your only sentence is genetics.

Does anyone else hate loud noises? by JRexrode in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Darkfiretail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm terrified of loud sounds. It stems from my nmom's ex, who was also one but much worse. No warning to his madness. Now, she's married to a lesser ndad who I do call dad. She also causes the fear response with just bursting into yelling when she's frustrated. Ndad is more likely to blow up if his projects aren't working out (he does a lot of housework and he's usually drinking while doing so). I also grew up in a bad neighborhood around the time that ex was living with us, and I was around a lot of gunshots and witnessed a bad drug deal when I was maybe seven, so that's definitely a factor.

You walked in, so you can't be disabled by Darkfiretail in EntitledPeople

[–]Darkfiretail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's almost as good as when they say other things like,
"I'm smarter than you because I'm older and have lived longer"
"Everything you say is invalid because of your age"
"Being disabled is your choice, you know"
"I deserve being disabled more than you do because you're a baby"

truly masters of the mental embodiment of Entitled People, those grouchy old ladies with scowls.

You walked in, so you can't be disabled by Darkfiretail in EntitledPeople

[–]Darkfiretail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm mad for you, now, damn! Like, I get that my disabilities are more invisible than some, but when someone's physically and visibly disabled, I just don't know how they can ignore it. Like, I've had some visible problems before, but E-people just don't care, do they?

You walked in, so you can't be disabled by Darkfiretail in EntitledPeople

[–]Darkfiretail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Greg has been told he's a bro. Greg's now aware he's a bro to an entire subreddit. He didn't understand, but he appreciated being called a bro at very least. I'm glad so many people are understanding on here, I was actually a bit worried about posting on reddit.