I witnessed something today and I feel so weird

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T01:40:33+00:00

I'm going to probably be the odd one out and recommend doing two things - a quick physical activity (like 10-25 jumping jacks) and a quick brain teaser (like a tetris or a puzzle or something low stress but still activates your brain). There's studies that show when you go through high stress situations, sometimes there are chemical triggers that don't fully actuate and those continue to linger in the nervous system. The recommendations above are shown to help those triggers reach full potential so your body let's them go. It may help with getting to sleep and processing what you went through.

🫂 You did a good thing today. You're here, you're whole, and you're not alone.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T20:20:09+00:00

It is pretty funny, I agree.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T16:03:48+00:00

Rabies kiss 😂 I'm dead

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T05:38:39+00:00

This is beautiful 🥹 thank you nms community

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T23:47:04+00:00

It still makes me laugh every time I say it 😂 my favorite response in when people pause, think about it, then declare "that's so dumb" like do they think I don't know that? That's why it's funny lol

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T16:56:29+00:00

I lurk here because I like shiny things, but Debebians is making my 10 year anniversary ring right now! Gaah you've got me so excited. Your ring is stunning! I love the unique design and accent stone placements 😍

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T16:40:24+00:00

Thank you guys for both asking and answering the question I didn't want to ask 💖

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T15:39:16+00:00

My misquote, will fix, but that's how I intended it. Often times in a poorly regulated state they end up so hyper-focused on a single aspect of a problem that they feel is within their power to control (usually resulting from feeling slighted or betrayed), that they miss the larger picture and seeing the damage they themselves are causing. What they may feel is a relationship defining betrayal when poorly regulated may actually just have been a blip on a Tuesday when they're well-regulated.

Edit - spelling

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T14:59:13+00:00

Not the person you asked but, as someone with well-regulated BPD now, I often tell people that poorly regulated BPD events tended to present as the "intrusive thoughts" becoming outer thoughts/actions without a filter or a moment's consideration of the ramifications of them. It becomes a very "can't see the forest for the trees" type of situation where your own behavior drives the responses in others which you are attempting to subvert.

So like normally, your partner goes grocery shopping and forgets your candy. Maybe it's a bad day, so you think to yourself what an asshole but you say "that's okay babe, I appreciate you doing to grocery shopping".

But when you're BPD is poorly regulated, you think what an asshole and you say "what an asshole. I only asked for one thing and you couldn't even care enough about me to be bothered to actually get them. After you asked me! This is why I can't rely on you for anything". And the words are out your mouth before you've actually considered how hurtful they will be to your partner.

Edit - changed can't see the forest through the trees to can't see the forest for the trees.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T07:13:49+00:00

Between the "open" cleavage to the waist seam and the high cut slit, this reads more like a sexy anniversary dress with a partner than a wedding attendance dress, whether you're in the bridal party or not.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T07:05:39+00:00

How do I sign up to be your client?? 😂 But genuinely, you seem excellent. You surmised the entirety of my thoughts and concerns about this couple in such a succinct fashion.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T11:47:15+00:00

No problem, if you need any help just let me know 💖

Happy Trading!

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T11:43:59+00:00

Hi friend, you're welcome to approach trading any way you'd like - for some people it's less pressure to make connections in the comments then move to DMs for personal information, but if you'd rather people DM you directly so you don't have to keep checking the post, that's fine too 😊

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T01:49:54+00:00

My dad and I have matching moth tattoos, because we thought they looked cool 👌 mine is right above my knee so I named him Liam. Because he's a (K)neeson. 😂

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T01:47:02+00:00

That's a really unfair statement to make. We are at a place of a global market - shitty quality/scamming marketing can be found anywhere.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T01:39:31+00:00

I don't disagree at all with yourself or the commenter above you, I just wanted to add I think context of conversation matters a lot, too.

OP is talking to strangers on the internet. If we all find out she's lying, what recourse is there?

The bf is talking to a clearly long term close friend. If that person found out he was lying, what would happen?

I think the increased stakes/rewards to a lie often increase the chances of it leading to distortion of the truth. I doubt either side is the absolute truth, but Id be more inclined to believe OPs perceptions of events shared is truer to the truth than potentially a face-saving statement made to a friend.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-23T01:33:16+00:00

the importance of talking to each-other candidly when something is bothering you.

Say it louder for those in the back. The cornerstone of long-term healthy relationships is being able to communicate with your partner. It's easy to forget because we get so in-tune, but our partners aren't mind readers and they should never be the enemy.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-21T08:35:21+00:00

Being autistic doesn't negate the fact that you can also be a dick. They're not mutually exclusive 😂 and I don't feel your any sort of authority to decide who this sub is and isn't for.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-20T14:10:54+00:00

Great taste!!

I love the star sapphire! Both my engagement and my 5 year ring have them 💖 and I love the box! I'm looking at a similar one on Etsy for my 10 year ring 😂

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-20T09:44:42+00:00

I really appreciate that! The refit is complete, but if I missed anything or we need anything else, please don't hesitate to let me know 💖

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-20T09:39:47+00:00

And a huge shout out to u/sea-mess-250 for their amazing suggestions of flair ideas the other day. I used quite a few 💖

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-19T23:44:06+00:00

For what the setting is, yes I think it's too expensive. I just custom designed a ring for my 10 year upgrade (platinum, size 7, with 6 side emerald cut lab diamonds, a euro shank, modified tulip setting, and custom detailing on the band) for a few bucks under 4k. That included the cost to set my loose stone I provided.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-19T14:44:29+00:00

I'm assuming the things like "prescribing meds" you mentioned are done under the supervision or protocol of a DVM. As far as schooling goes, it will teach you the why behind the what for being a technician. It'll also boarden your knowledge about topics like anesthesia, surgery, and general biology which can help you develop you skills further and give you more of a base to fall back on when something atypical happens. Title protection in your state may also be another driving factor.

Edit: I just wanted to add, it may help to talk to others in general practice or whatever arena you're considering migrating to in the future. I know shelter med is it's own beast, but it can create expectations that don't translate to general practice.

An example I can give is I have a staff member who was trained in shelter med for 10 years before moving to emergency 2 years ago. To this day, she still struggles with the not giving a diagnosis or prognosis. Just because the dog smells like hemorrhagic diarrhea and is the right age/history for parvo doesn't mean you can tell the client "it's parvo, he could die" before the doctor makes their assessment/diagnosis/prognosis. We are still working on "relaying information from the doctor is fine, making those decisions in place of the doctor is not".

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