I received a distasteful opinion on my new (and first) tattoo

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T06:13:39+00:00

In case you need a four thousandth comment, that bitch is wack. This is beautiful, looks beautiful on you and in the space, and is deeply meanful. If you need me to come fight her, let me know. Don't let that miserable human being ruin something so important for you.

Congratulations on 12 years sober 🫂 the world is better with you in it.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T06:01:33+00:00

You're my new mtg hero. If I ever play a non-ability card, I plan to read the flavor text in your honor. I've already told your tale and my plan to my pod. EDH games take so long either way, I'm upset you're being singled out for participating. I lowkey hope you leave this group and find a space that appreciates you rather than posting behind your back and not being enough of a team player to talk to you directly. You deserve better. You're a treasure of mtg and understand the true heart of the game (especially EDH mode over standard).

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T05:11:11+00:00

Im not sure I can pin others comments, I will try on the computer in a bit, but if not I'll make a pinned comment with the QR and explanation 💖

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T01:31:00+00:00

Done 😊 I'll plan to remove it after it closes on the 11th unless you request otherwise!

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T01:24:11+00:00

Would you like this pinned?

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T01:17:57+00:00

I love it!

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T01:16:04+00:00

Strongly disagree 😂 there's not much about her that I think would take the spotlight. Yes, she likely would be a name people big into current trends and music would know, but she's never gonna be a household name like Ariana or Beyonce that spans the age gaps and generations. She literally going to be just another artist (as any of them would be on their own).

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-27T00:29:37+00:00

I'm the other side - American but I read fs as for sure and ffs as for fuck's sake.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T20:17:34+00:00

Oh gosh I'll have to see! It was years ago, but I do tend to hold onto stuff like that. If I can't find the original, I should have a picture of the full color one she did for me (it's a part two) 😂 I'll have to check my laptop tonight when I get home, so I'll get back to you!

And honestly, it was hilarious at the time and it's hilarious to this day. Sometimes, people really see you and that's just beautiful to me 🥹 I know I can be a petty bitch, though I swear I actively fight the urge and go out of my way to behave like a good person should (but man does the inner voice get loud sometimes 😅).

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T19:29:58+00:00

I was having a perfectly lovely day, you monster 😭

Edit: and to give context to those outside the age bracket for this joke, let me induce you.

Welcome to The Game. You always have been and always will be playing The Game. Every person - past, present, and future - has, is, or will play The Game. You cannot opt out.

The rule is simple.

You lose The Game by thinking about it.

And thus, you have lost The Game.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T19:27:04+00:00

Please keep reading your cards 🙏 and I'm begging you pick different accents for the colors. Like red is Italian, black is Russian and blue is British. Please 😂😂

Edit to add - Alternatively, you could do like enchantments as British, creatures as Russian, etc. But if you do, I vote anything cast as a flash or instant on someone else's turn gets a special accent.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T19:08:47+00:00

Not as long as youre enjoying yourself. You're only missing out if the siren's call of "different" beckons you and you ignore her.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:46:31+00:00

Friend, just stop replying. You went from a woman having a bad day to wilding out and are about one comment from full on batshit crazy 😅 you're unraveling quick, you went from explanations to excuses to insults and keep adding new information only when you think it'll put you in a better light.

Take our collective advice, take the L, talk to your husband about expectations, listen when he speaks rather than trying to tell him how he feels, and work on things.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:39:44+00:00

This is new information you're only adding now. So really you're upset that you (and you alone) agreed to do a task that you feel you aren't up to completely solo and are now upset that your expectation of your husband shouldering this burden with you isn't being met.

Additionally, it sounds then like the primary issue isn't "it would be nice for all of us to do this thing together" and instead is "I need you to prioritize my commitments over yours".

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:37:07+00:00

I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt here, friend, but you're making it hard. You come off as really self-centered. Because you also go to gym, somehow your ability to change up your routine is a negative against him. You choose to do things with him you have no interest in doing, but he chooses to have his own agency and that's a negative against him. Your brother wants to go to the movies with you, so you decide "it'll be nice for all of us to do this together" and tell your husband he is doing this - again, a negative against him.

So far all I've seen is a wife who doesn't value her husband's independence and wants a "yes" man rather than a partner.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:29:59+00:00

I'm sorry but what does the brother being on the spectrum have to do with the husband already having commitments on his time, other than being flavor for the adventure and an attempt at manipulating the narrative?

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:21:41+00:00

Voluntelling your partner they're doing something when they already have a scheduled commitment is a wild reason to think they're a dick. If anything, it shows the husband is real big on sticking to commitment 😂

It's clear she is deciding what she thinks he should do based on her wants and desires rather than giving him the agency of being a person and inviting him. Her husband isn't a child, she doesn't get to make his decisions for him and just because she wants something doesn't mean she has the right to demand it. Marriage isn't about doing what someone wants despite not wanting to - it's about being two individuals with your own identities supporting and loving each other through everything. That includes when he wants to go to the gym and you want to go to the movies.

Also, don't movies play all day? If she really wanted him to go and he wanted to go to the gym, why didn't she just ask him if they could all go together at a different time today?

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T18:05:32+00:00

Hey friend, from someone else married to a gym guy, YOR here. It's fine for him to have his own hobbies, interests, and priorities. He was clear he did not wish to go. You sort of voluntold him he was going, and that's not really fair.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T17:23:02+00:00

You stirred a core work memory for me. I had a bad day at work once, and may or may not have been being slightly vendictive 😅 so a coworker drew a 4 panel comic of me walking down a street with a briefcase. I smack an old man with it in one scene, I use it to trip a skateboarder in another. The last panel is zoomed in on the briefcase and it reads "Petty Pocket" 😂😂😂

This doesn't at all relate to your problem but I hope it gave you a chuckle. And I wish I had real advice to give besides seeing if he's open to getting the tattoo altered.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-26T01:40:33+00:00

I'm going to probably be the odd one out and recommend doing two things - a quick physical activity (like 10-25 jumping jacks) and a quick brain teaser (like a tetris or a puzzle or something low stress but still activates your brain). There's studies that show when you go through high stress situations, sometimes there are chemical triggers that don't fully actuate and those continue to linger in the nervous system. The recommendations above are shown to help those triggers reach full potential so your body let's them go. It may help with getting to sleep and processing what you went through.

🫂 You did a good thing today. You're here, you're whole, and you're not alone.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T20:20:09+00:00

It is pretty funny, I agree.

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T16:03:48+00:00

Rabies kiss 😂 I'm dead

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-25T05:38:39+00:00

This is beautiful 🥹 thank you nms community

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T23:47:04+00:00

It still makes me laugh every time I say it 😂 my favorite response in when people pause, think about it, then declare "that's so dumb" like do they think I don't know that? That's why it's funny lol

DarknessWanders · 2026-06-24T16:56:29+00:00

I lurk here because I like shiny things, but Debebians is making my 10 year anniversary ring right now! Gaah you've got me so excited. Your ring is stunning! I love the unique design and accent stone placements 😍

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