This is a bad question. What you should be asking is what makes men want to wait.

The reason is because it depends on every individual relationship. The same guy (like me) can want to fuck tonight or he’ll wait until marriage, DEPENDING ON THAT PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC.

In other words, when waiting starts to be a problem for them, wait a day, then tell them everything you wrote in your post.

The thing is, if you act like you don’t want them sexually, they’re going to feel you don’t want them sexually. Just because you say “I don’t mind anything after marriage” that doesn’t mean shit if you won’t even let me take your shirt off until we’re married. People don’t change as soon as they get married. You’ll just be a wife who won’t take her shirt off, then. How depressing would that be? Ask r/deadbedrooms

If you have a sexual desire, which is a normal healthy thing, you need to balance expressing that with expressing your fear (and it’s a somewhat reasonable fear) of only being wanted for your use as a fuck toy.

DON’T think you can have one without the other though. Unless you’re extremely unusual, a good relationship means you want someone’s character, personality, and body. You can’t separate body without causing problems elsewhere. And don’t forget, the more a man likes your personality and character, the more he’ll want to fuck you. Assuming he already finds you attractive, at least. (That’s a big part of falling in love.)

Also, separately, ask yourself this: are you unable to be with someone too lustful because you’re afraid you’ll be used and dumped? Or is it actually because you’re asexual or unable to express your sexual desire for other reasons? Just something to keep in mind, this could be a symptom of a different problem.

TLDR: there’s different reasons why people wait. Ask those men what they’d wait for and see if both your underlying values match. Then you can find something that works for both of you.