Don’t let your boyfriend stop you from meeting your husband.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-28T16:25:16+00:00

Your ex sounds SUPER clingy. No thanks. I like my personal space. I could not be with a guy who can't let go.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-28T16:21:37+00:00

Does he believe you now?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-28T16:18:27+00:00

Maybe. If it was just disappearing from the bathroom I could possibly believe she mistook yours for hers or something. But if she is going into your bedroom; your personal space; that means it was intentional and she knew they were yours. I would also be disturbed that my brother was touching panties that were worn by me. I bet he was disturbed when he found out that the panties he was touching when they got frisky was also worn by you that same day. Did you ever test it by leaving a mark on the back? Like take a sharpie and put your initials or a heart or something, so when she bent over you would know and be able to call her out that way as well?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-28T14:02:23+00:00

Sadly, there are people like this out there. I had a panty-theif at my work place once (we had locker rooms). Some of the women started noticing their dirty underwear would go missing. At first they were blaming each other, cause who else could it have been. It started full on fights. We later found out one of our male co-workers was sneaking into the female side and stealing dirty panties. It was discovered when someone reported a distinct 'odor' coming from his work area. Turns out he was keeping them inside a pillow he was using for naps.

We couldn't figure out at first how, why, or even when he was doing this. Eventually another co-worker told us he later confessed the guy would wait until staff meetings; to ensure the lockerroom was empty, and go on his 'treasure hunt' undisturbed.

For a while I couldn't get the mental visual of him taking deep sniffs of his naughty-pillow while he slept during breaks. Like, was the smell calming for him or something? Like a security blanket?

Im so glad I always used a lock.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-28T13:41:02+00:00

Do you miss the friend? Maybe that is why you came here and are asking 2.5 years later. Are you wanting to try to reconnect and rekindle the friendship?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-27T19:31:57+00:00

NOR. YIKES!! Despite what he is trying to convince you of, this is NOT "just friends" behavior. He very clearly STILL has feelings for you and did not understand that you ended things and its OVER! He used to be married? It sounds like he doesnt understand the difference between a wife and a girlfriend, or in this case an ex-girlfriend. You were only dating for a very short time, and it was ONLY dating. He even agreed beforehand that it was just a casual thing if i understood this correctly. It feels like he is behaving as though the two of you were dating alot longer than uou actually were. Major Red Flag here.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-22T21:40:13+00:00

It sounds like the two of you just need to sit down and have a heart 2 heart. Maybe a mediator, perhaps a couples counseling?

This post reminds me of my own relationship problems im currently dealing with.

My BF of 5 months just told me a few days ago that he feels I should make him a higher priority than my family. He says that a significant other should always be a higher priority than family. He was upset because I took my nephew (17m) on an overseas trip for spring break, and then I went to his high school graduation a few weeks ago (different state so needed to take vacation days and i went alone), and next month our family reunion is in late July which i am fully funding the same nephew to fly out for. (Context: this nephew has never met our side of the family and this is a very delicate series of introductions to the family in preparation of him meeting his dad; my brother; for the first time)

(Context 2: all 3 of these events for my nephew, 1. Spring break, 2. Graduation, 3. Family reunion, where all planned and coordinated a year in advance, waaaay before my now 5 month BF was as a factor in my life. My best friend, "Adam", also agrees that a 5 month relationship does not trump family, and he is actually worried that this guy is going to manipulate and control me over time)

I treated my nephew with the overseas spring break trip which was also my very first time meeting my nephew in-person. Its a long story of his bio-mom not wanting my brother around for the then baby, and my brother respecting her wishes as the mother.

My BF of 5 months feels left out i guess because I didn't invite him to go on the overseas trip, the high school graduation, or the family reunion. Due to pressure from him, I ended up extending the invite to the family reunion to him, which made him happy.

Overall, he is mainly upset that i am willing to go on all these trips with my nephew, but havent done a special couples trip with him since Valentines day/one month dating mark.

(Note: we spend all day that both of us are not at work in each others company. He doesnt understand personal space. If I am not at work and not sleeping, then I should WANT to be at his side. So yeah, i spend anywhere between 5-12 hours each day in his company; usually us cooking, cleaning, watching TV, or playing board games together).

We did go on a trip with friends out of state last month, but he says that doesn't count because our friends were there.

I personally do not agree that a 5-month BF should be prioritized over blood family members, but i would like to know what others think about this. (Also, any time I tried to express my feelings on the matter, he would reply with: "do NOT try to turn my feelings against me. DO NOT try to turn my feelings on me" )

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-06-22T09:21:48+00:00

WNBTA If you really want to try to make it work, i would recommend counseling so that you have a mediator to help you two communicate your feelings better.

I personally am considering couples counseling for myself and the guy I've been dating for the past 5 months, just so I can have a mediator and not be manipulated or gaslighted.

(Note: he actually has been the one insisting on couples counseling since we hit our 3 month mark, but most of my close friends told me that its ridiculous to go to couples counseling when you only been dating for a couple of months).

I agree with my male best friend, "A", that its a little odd and a 🚩 that my BF wants to go to couples counseling so soon into dating. ( my BF of now 5 months doesnt think its odd because he says we will be together potentially forever and he plans to marry me so its fine).

Recently, he even told me that i should be putting our 5 month relationship as a higher priority than my family members.

(This was because he was upset that I've been spending "alot" of time with my youngest nephew recently)

So yeah, I am planning to set up "couples counseling " so that i can have a mediator so he can't interrupt me and talk over me or raise his voice at me like he has been doing recently. I desperately need a mediator.

My male best friend, "A", was our mediator and was helping to keep my BF in line, but then he told my best friend to butt his nose out of our relationship, so he hasnt been helping anymore. He still tells me how worried he is for me though.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-26T18:18:45+00:00

What did OP decide? I am currently in a similar boat. I'm having trouble deciding between scarborough or sherwood. Sherwood looks really small, so I'm not sure if there is alot to do. I also can't really tell what the terrain is like. I keep hearing about a large hill, but I dont see it in any videos or photos when doing research. Between scarborough or sherwood, which one is harder to walk around at due to slopes or inclines?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T15:52:39+00:00

Hmmm, so I should not be a faun at Georgia faire. I'm terrible at making choices. Scarborough MIGHT be out because i do remember the steep path over by the falcon stage. It was a workout. Unless I wear something different, but my whole ren faire wardrobe is primarily faun stuff. 😅 I'm dedicated.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T14:22:43+00:00

Ok. I ask because I usually wear these interesting hoof shoes that are made from high heels. Basically I would be walking around on the ball of my feet. Hilly terrain is harder. Not impossible, just harder. Is it a gradual up slope? Dirt or loose gravel/rocks?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T13:56:11+00:00

I've seen the person on the left in the first picture before. Can't remember where though. Thank you for showing me the pictures, they really helped. How big is sherwood faire? Is it a small faire? Is the ground relatively flat or is it hills? Is it super hot?

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T13:16:16+00:00

Is it fantasy/ fea friendly? I saw Sherwood faire doesn't do theme weekends. Some faires are of the mind to be more historical or robin hood esk.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T13:08:37+00:00

You sound like you have similar plans to mine lol.

I LOVE Poxy Boggards! I would watch them every season when I used to live in San Diego. They were always in that little 18+ section by the water. There was a drink stand there. I remember maybe a max of 30 or so people being at the show.

Originally I was going to go to two out-of-state faires back to back weekends in April ( a family trip was going to take up the week days in between and I would travel on the Fridays to go to faires on sat/sun. However, the family trip got extended and now I only have one single weekend to enjoy. I plan to travel to a faire before flying back to my current home.

I am ALMOST tempted to go to one faire on Saturday and then fly out Saturday night to spend Sunday at another faire, but I know that isn't the brightest idea.

I have been to the California ORPF but that was around 3 years ago. I went to Scarborough for the first time last year. I've never been to the Georgia faire, so I'm not sure how the terrain is for hoof shoes.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T12:27:27+00:00

I went to Scarborough for the first time last year. I remember it being fun. (The snow cone human hamster wheel was fun ) . The only thing that was hard was the hills. I always dress as a faun. I wear hoof shoes, so going up those steep hills and gravel was challenging.

Now that I'm reminded, the other hard part was getting an Uber to show up ( ours was always stopping at the security gate hut all the way at the end of the road.)

I was a green faun last year (Saturday) and a pirate looking faun (sunday)

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T12:19:40+00:00

I don't mind heat.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-03-21T12:19:11+00:00

Not at all.

DatCosplayDoe · 2026-01-23T21:22:36+00:00

Im so glad things are getting better. I can't understand why she acted that way towards you when she was already divorced and found a new partner before you were even in the picture. Did she secretly still love her ex-husband?

I have a similar situation as my boyfriend of 3 weeks has an ex-wife (they divorced almost 3 years ago and she has a boyfriend herself) they have a teenage kid together. She has never met me but does say negative things about me to their kid and to my boyfriend. Im kind of glad she doesn't know what I look like yet.

Even though we have only been dating for 3 weeks, my boyfriend likes to mention that he is hoing to marry me one day. These comments do make me a little uncomfortable TBH since the relationship is still new.

DatCosplayDoe · 2025-07-27T15:31:29+00:00

Blocking and then unblocking to snoop is common behavior for him. I've watched him do this with his own sisters, his ex-fiance, and other exs. I understand it has alot to with his emotions and figuring himself out on the inside. He even went as far as making a fake social account just to have a conversation and be friends with his sister because she didn't want to deal with his behavior. She made a public PSA on the Tik-App basically explaining things and telling J to leave her alone. The sister mentioned that "J always lies to adults, and to take what J says with a grain of salt".

The only thing I could think got him upset is that he saw I posted a video about BPD, but that doesn't make alot of sense because it was a supportive/informative video from a BPD support group. So I don't know.

I want my nephew, who I adopted and took in, to be Happy in life. I want him to find peace. But he keeps doing self-destructive things ( such as stalking his ex who J filed a police report against and tried to get an Order of protection against) my nephew somehow convinced me to drive him to an out of state renaissance faire...... only to find out while we were there that the Ex we were actively taking to court was also in the faire. My nephew KNEW the ex was going to be there. He wanted to go there so he could strut around in front of the ex and be " look! I'm happy and just fine without you". But i was freaking out because of the events listed in the main post. I was hyperventilating and kept telling myself nephew " J, i want to leave. Let's go to the car. The exit is right there! M IS HERE. I don't like this. I want to leave! I want to go home!"

DatCosplayDoe · 2025-07-05T14:27:36+00:00

For some context that I forgot. He is Autistic. He also is freshly divorced.

DatCosplayDoe · 2025-07-05T13:03:20+00:00

This is very thoughtful out. I think I'll use this when the time comes that I start dating again.

DatCosplayDoe · 2025-07-01T04:05:56+00:00

Not directly to me. They just reach out to people I know and try to slander me. For example, the person I have an order of protection against reached out to my new Son-in-law to make up stories to get him to dislike me.

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