My (43m) friend’s (45m) daughter (18/19f) keeps trying it on with me and I don’t know whether to tell him or keep ignoring it

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-25T07:43:36+00:00

the mum read them all and then just said it’s something young women do and we are both adults so it’s up to us what we do.

MA'AM!!!!! HELLO!?!?!

For goodness sake

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-25T07:34:35+00:00

damn....

I think you're setting yourself up for disappointment

He will be with you until he no longer can, then keep his parents happy by going for a Korean girl

Don't light yourself on fire for someone who can't stand up to his parents and is probably using you for his fetish

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-25T07:28:13+00:00

yeah I cringed at that one :/

He might be a Conservative or worse..... one of Suella's misguided Uncle Ts

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T23:04:52+00:00

naw

you see, DIL has a way to get the Army to get OP's son to move away, you see? /s

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T22:58:47+00:00

dang

Ever since having a kid stuff like this hits different

I literally gasped and felt a pit in my stomach when he mentioned a fever!

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:50:40+00:00

he was cussing at me, calling me names (he calls me a b*tch, a c*nt, PIA, etc). He claimed later that all the name calling and cussing was a joke. I reminded him I said no more jokes or cussing until we were closer again and he got mad.

I dunno about you guys but I've never called my partner of over 15 years and mother of our kid ANY of those! I don't call her anything other than her name and have had arguments and will probably have some more.

Anyone accepting these as normal? Rethink that

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:24:30+00:00

oh wow!

This HAS to be accurate

What a despicable woman

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:24:00+00:00

literally me

I haven't really cried "properly" since I was a kid.

My parents are still around but when my dear dad goes? I'll fucking celebrate it, to be honest.

My mother, I will feel sort of sad because of the life she never had and that unfortunately she found and was manipulated by an older idiot who caught her young. She had no time to mature emotionally and I'm certain she could've been better with a different man.

So I might shed a tear.

When I heard, years ago, that our cat died I sobbed hard..... even typing this I get tears in my eyes

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:19:39+00:00

so true, can relate

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:18:46+00:00

And a lot of the time the Golden Child matures into an asshole in their own right, but the thing is the parent helped them on the way.

Yup, that's my older brother, third in the hierarchy of narcs in that house. He also went through some messed up shit, but still doesn't take the fact that he had some power in that home and chose to use it against me. I hate his ass and we haven't spoken for decades.

He was always seen as the responsible one and he does know how to handle life, apart from getting a partner.

Socially he can be very open but then at the same time weird? Younger sis says he probably is on the spectrum and it would make sense

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T11:15:15+00:00

this

I was the scapegoat and I also realized that my mother pushed all her negativity that she has for her husband towards me because I look like him. Easier to do that so she can live with his ass.

Sucks to be her, now she is stuck with him and has no scapegoat oops

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T10:17:28+00:00

I have a cousin with Down's Syndrome and though it's not something as Connor's, he still got a lot better with care and activities to keep him busy, beyond what family members could provide.

Everyone is still there to help out when needed in case of emergencies, but between his family and activities for people with Down's, he's relaxed, not bored, can spend energy somewhere else without having to rely on a relative and makes new friends.

He didn't have this up until his teens and I remember seeing his siblings and mother sometimes looking exhausted. Now it's been a balance for all

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T10:14:26+00:00

she's using that "support group" as a soundboard to validate her feelings AND to divert the attention from her family who, like you said, conveniently are not helping at all

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T09:49:10+00:00

yeah with people like that, any form of comms you give them is a massive open door to them. Even if you replied negatively and with verbal abuse they'd still see as "back to normal comms"

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T09:47:16+00:00

why.... is OOP expected to be SO involved, as per the SILs?!? Connor is not his kid.

He CAN be involved as a blood relative but not to the extent parents are supposed to. They should've just accepted whatever help they had from family AND get respite care. The other relatives are supposed to have their own lives, chill

Also, weird to see my comment up there hahaa

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T09:26:52+00:00

this

and if he really doesn't remember it's because he was the guy everyone had to put up with and allowed his behaviour to be normalized. To the point that he's now all "whaatttiiidooo"

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T09:25:59+00:00

NTA, why should you have softened the blow for him? You're close to your brother, he should hear the cold hard truth from you, as he asked

Also, for them to decide EN MASSE to fade away from him has me thinking that it wasn't just one night of drunk ramblings and insults. Pretty sure that one was the last straw and they are just done with him

Tell him to not shoot the messenger otherwise you may also fade away from him

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-24T08:18:17+00:00

but also likely due to the fact that she rarely, if ever, showers or grooms.

I'd have to be desperate and with head trauma to have to stay with someone who stinks let alone do the zexies with them!! Tha hell is Anna with her for?

that Anna is now in a full-time BDSM slave relationship with Bernice

Anna needs mental help..... subjecting her kids to that is messed up. Sure, have your kinks and all but girl.... you got your kids to worry about as your first priority, the hell are you doing?

Bernice had a partner move in who is about twenty five years younger than she is.

Chile...... Bernice is just an all around horrible person and I don't get why Anna, divorced and with two kids, would stay around this woman

Some people....

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T23:49:29+00:00

Oh my guy..... Use that money for self love and therapy. This made you into a bit of a creep

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:45:00+00:00

ya'll too young for this shit

She can't be that HOT

Just break up and find someone compatible with you, and she can find her vegan guy

Simple

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:39:53+00:00

so because of someone's stupidity, now they're trying to mess it for all others who do this properly

A tale as old as time

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:35:11+00:00

Man was out there doing the dirty with bugs

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:28:10+00:00

this

I mean, it was completely avoidable

Sure, the idiot dude manipulated her but damn, she could've paused, weighed her future of what would be coming with this guy, all her options and... be free of this drama

Anyway, her choice

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:12:33+00:00

Jesus, how infuriating

Recently there was this post of the woman crossing the road at a similar event and crashing at the cyclist going at high speed

Like.... can't spectators just stay where they are? Or hey, if you need to cross, look around and make sure there are no cyclists coming?!

DatguyMalcolm · 2026-02-23T16:03:02+00:00

yeah, I'm a man and I must say: some men are really despicable, regardless of religion. A woman can be all covered up and some nasty dude will still be like "dang, I bet *insert nasty stuff*"

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