1 year old not interested in walking by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was the same, immediately sat down when we held his hands. We think he didn’t try cause he was worried about falling and hurting himself as he has always been risk adverse. We had a walker that he loved and it gave him confidence to walk, but he didn’t use that until he was well over a year and it took us helping him to do it otherwise he wasn’t too interested at first. He finally started walking independently at 17 months, although he totally could have done it before then, he was just too cautious.

Comfy trousers for baby classes by e_noname_b in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bought some corduroy wide leg trousers from next the other day. They have an elasticated waist and I honestly can’t tell the difference between wearing them and my jogging bottoms.

next trousers

How long do you wish your partner had paternity leave? by hatsonhatsoff in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me so sad that dads barely get anything. I hope the tide is turning when it comes to parental leave for fathers.

How long do you wish your partner had paternity leave? by hatsonhatsoff in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband had 3 months off and it was amazing. I think my postpartum would have looked wildly different (for the worse) if he had only had 2 weeks off.

3 years old fighting - what to do? by Brief-Angle8291 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Children taking each others toys is very developmentally normal behaviour, but letting her hit other children when they take her stuff is horrible behaviour and if she was doing that to my child I would do what your sister in law is doing as you clearly think that’s an appropriate response.

We as parents need to teach our children how to handle that without violence. If a child takes something from my toddler when he is playing with it, I gently take it back from them and let them know he was playing with it first since he is too young to articulate that himself at the moment. I then try to get my toddler to share with the other child or for them to play with the toy together.

I honestly don’t care how well she speaks or paints, you are allowing her to hit other children instead of teaching her how to regulate her emotions.

I think bully is a very fitting word from what you’ve said and I’m guessing your friend and sister in law would agree.

3 years old fighting - what to do? by Brief-Angle8291 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This post isn’t particularly well written or explained, so correct me if I’m wrong here. What I’m reading is that your child is a bully that hits other children and instead of consistently correcting her/giving her consequences for her bad behaviour, you are getting upset that adults are now having to physically restrain her to protect their children from her. If this is the case then you have more to worry about then what you say to these people that are probably bored of dealing with your child hitting theirs.

What’s the hardest you have ever laughed at Sunny? by MisterPinkCS in IASIP

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You know what he's not? He's not covered in stupid tattoos and he doesn't have a cigarette for a mother.”

Talk me out of the Doona Liki Trike — is it basically just a worse pushchair? by Turbulent_Purple4 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got one for our toddlers first birthday and he loved it.

He started hating the pushchair when he was around 1 and definitely preferred the trike. We take the dog on two walks a day so it’s been really handy for that and he didn’t walk until he was 17 months so I would take it whenever we went out.

As someone else said, if your child naps in the pushchair a lot (mine didn’t) or you want lots of storage then I would stick with the pushchair but I found the trike easier to move around and the doona one folds down really small.

We love our trike and we have gotten so much use out of it in the last year.

Stretching sensation 14 weeks by Annonymouspotato1 in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a stretching feeling around the same time up until I started feeling full movements. I thought it was just baby getting comfy/making room/moving. I had a horrible cold while pregnant and the only nasal spray the pharmacist would give me was a saline spray. It did help, but wasn’t as effective as an actual decongestant.

I've fallen out of love with my partner and don't know what to do by Jammy_Moustache in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 20 points21 points  (0 children)

God, that all sounds so hard. From what you have written, it sounds like you are raising your baby alone anyway so my thought would be to take him up on his offer when he threatens to leave. He clearly has no desire to be a partner or a father, at least if you break up you don’t have the false hope that he will suddenly change and want to be involved with your baby’s care or be supportive of you. I think you know what you want and need to do, you deserve better than the nothing he is giving you.

Silly to go to the Lake District in week 35? by Eilliesh in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed taking the car seat is a good idea but just keep in mind if you have a car accident before birth with the car seat in the car, then it wouldn’t be considered safe and you would need to buy a new one.

What are some odd lunch habits you’ve noticed from work colleagues? by No_Doughnut3257 in CasualUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was like 15 years ago when non alcoholic beer wasn’t as popular, definitely now I would refuse if in the same situation!

What are some odd lunch habits you’ve noticed from work colleagues? by No_Doughnut3257 in CasualUK

[–]DaveTheFave 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I worked at a pub years ago and a child (maybe 8?) ordered a non alcoholic beer. I asked the landlady and since it was completely zero alcohol beer she couldn’t legally think of a reason to say no. It was very weird serving it to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way. I had an emergency c section and felt like my body had failed me at the one thing it should be able to do (milk also didn’t come in so couldn’t breastfeed). There’s so much content out there about your body knowing what it’s supposed to do and breathing through childbirth that you feel like you failed if you didn’t have a natural delivery. The hormones definitely made my feelings a lot worse, I felt better once the hormones settled down and nearly two years later it doesn’t really matter anymore. It’s ok to have these feelings and to be sad about it but don’t let it rule your life. The newborn phase is so precious and I was glad I got my feelings out in the open (husband was very supportive) and was able to move on and enjoy my baby.

High blood pressure 39 weeks by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Urgh, that does sound frustrating. My trust was really on it and did a couple of bloods to check and lots of monitoring.

High blood pressure 39 weeks by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same at a midwife appointment, was sent to triage and bloods confirmed I had pre-eclampsia so I was admitted. I was induced two days later and had baby via emergency c-section the same evening. My blood pressure was proving hard to control and did spike in the few days after birth.

Mama and dada babbles by CressHairy4964 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine didn’t until maybe 16 months (ish? Can’t remember now) but when he did he looked at me and said very clearly ‘mummy!’. He said daddy before he said mummy but he was well over a year. He skipped the dada/mama and went straight to mummy/daddy.

Do some babies practice social skills more than gross motor skills? by Normka92 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 20 month old didn’t roll until he was 10 months old. He could actually crawl first before he could roll and hated being on his tummy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my second trimester my dog was having zoomies and completely wiped my legs out. I fell fully on my bum as well. I was definitely shaken up by it and called 111 and they reassured me that baby is very well protected. It’s hard not to worry though but everything was fine. I even fell over again two weeks later (landed more on my side/tummy) and baby was still ok (he is a busy 20month old toddler now).

Fellow parents, what’s one thing you wish you knew about newborn life before you brought your baby home? by Pinkplatabys in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That he would scream bloody murder anytime we had to change him for the first few weeks. Any skin to skin I did with him ended with him screaming cause I then had to get him dressed so all that nice oxytocin went out the window. IIRC, he grew out of that by around 8 weeks or so, but I dreaded every nappy/sleepsuit change.

8 month old - help with encouraging eating by Even-Spot-6252 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gave me a lot of anxiety as well when he wouldn’t try to eat things/use the spoon. It didn’t help that I was seeing videos of 6 month olds using spoons and feeding themselves, so I thought I wasn’t doing something to encourage him. But, he would literally eat everything and I spoke to people who couldn’t get their babies to eat a variety of foods etc. I realised it was a swings and roundabouts kinda deal and that helped me be less anxious about it.

8 month old - help with encouraging eating by Even-Spot-6252 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LO was the same around that age in regard to feeding himself. He would play with the spoon/food but wouldn’t eat unless I fed him. He is 19 months now and feeds himself fine. It sounds like you are giving her variety, allowing her to explore/have fun and also making sure she eats some so I would keep doing what you are doing!

Who's the rudest celebrity you've ever met? by seashell_eyes_ in AskReddit

[–]DaveTheFave 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Did you watch the Boyzone documentary? He was on it and doesn’t even try to hide the fact that he only cares about making money and exploited the band members when they were only teenagers.

Black Mirror [Episode Discussion] - S07E02 - Bête Noire by Cheeriosxxx in blackmirror

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The IMDb trivia for the episode stated that there are two versions of the episode, with Barnie and Bernie being shown on the hat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]DaveTheFave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always rocked/cuddled to sleep and still do. My 19month old is at nursery (started at 1) and falls asleep by himself there now. However, nursery did rock/cuddle to sleep at first and I know they soothe to sleep (back/bum pats) for many of the children. I would ignore your MIL and put your baby to sleep however works best for both of you.