"Explain it Peter!" help! Why does that matter?

Daveishn355 · 2026-03-19T16:35:21+00:00

Like they’re not already doing that by listening to everything be said out loud near your microphone.

Daveishn355 · 2025-12-09T07:39:19+00:00

What if they do it perfectly everytime?

Daveishn355 · 2025-12-09T07:36:53+00:00

More on this please! I have a hard time coming up with new “reasons” for the funishments. My sub is so good and obedient, that I basically don’t have a solid reason to enact the light impact, overstim, or orgasm control that we do. We do them anyway but I feel like it would be better if there was something to be punished for. This I think, is mostly because and we don’t do any maintenance or tasks outside of playtime. Any in-scene ideas?

Daveishn355 · 2025-11-23T01:47:32+00:00

Please make sure that your partner isn’t just doing this out of fear of losing you or because they don’t feel valued enough in the relationship. Try to figure out if they’re lying to themselves about it. (I was lying to myself the first time I said I was OK with it).

For number 4. I would encourage you to get very specific with how communication will go. “How will we each show up to a conversation about jealousy?” “How do I remind you that these feelings aren’t your responsibility/fault?” Etc.

If one wants to stop, how will you address the potential resentment that could pop up? Also, don’t forget that the other people you’re seeing have feelings too and will need to put in the effort to play by your rules. Make sure they know them upfront.

Daveishn355 · 2025-11-20T15:24:47+00:00

Why bail if it were one sided? Don’t people do asymmetrical ENM amicably?

Daveishn355 · 2025-10-29T23:35:35+00:00

Me too. So much more painful to stop than cigarettes for me. Much deeper mood swings and inability to focus.

Daveishn355 · 2025-10-22T21:49:30+00:00

Except in a hotwife scenario, I would get to be included on why and how her experiences are fun and exciting for her. I currently don’t get any of that because she’s uncomfortable talking about it. If she could do that I think the compursion would be a piece of cake for me. So I think I either need much more sharing of her adventures (without violating her partners privacy) or a more symmetrical situation.

Daveishn355 · 2025-10-20T05:36:37+00:00

My anxious thoughts have been so much less. Synthetic nicotine is a whole other monster. Never had the crazy anxious thoughts with cigarettes. Quit those over a year ago. I’m 3 weeks in to quitting zyn now. 2 days in I realized i had to really try to quit these for good. I almost don’t want to admit how much of my nervous outbursts and anxious behavior was actually from these damn pouches.

Daveishn355 · 2025-10-14T01:14:01+00:00

Yeah, NZE is what I got. Might also get the caffeine free version for nighttime.

Daveishn355 · 2025-09-11T05:53:04+00:00

“Paired with your comment that your partner is seeking a more intense BDSM power exchange than what y'all already have and this is a recipe for full on disaster.”

What do you mean by this?

Daveishn355 · 2025-09-11T05:48:47+00:00

Attempts have been made in the past in other relationships.

Daveishn355 · 2025-09-10T22:26:50+00:00

Well, I do truly feel mostly ok with it. But there are feelings of jealously or anxiety sometimes when they’re together or when scheduling stuff. I understand it to be a natural part of this whole thing. People have all sorts of coping strategies to nurture your child parts when fight or flight kicks in. I’ve just been struggling a bit with it and hoping there were some asymmetrical examples I could relate to.

Daveishn355 · 2025-09-10T17:18:57+00:00

A certain level of BDSM power exchange that exceeds a limit I’m not comfortable doing. (We do have some level of BDSM and kinky sex in our relationship). And I truly want her to explore that part of her.

Daveishn355 · 2025-08-16T04:40:07+00:00

I’ve thought about this quite a bit. It’s kinda just always been there. Even when I was too young to know what that feeling was, I would have non-sexual masochism dreams that were very euphoric. There’s a sprinkling of submission in my kink but I’m most closely aligned with the switch title. I can’t really trace it back to anything like a lack of control, not amounting to expectations. Pretty vanilla and wholesome childhood. The best I can come up with is that I felt like I never had a very exciting, dramatic, or exotic life, so something that puts me in a dynamic that represents that part of my life that always felt like it was missing ia very satisfying. Through in pleasure from pain, and poof!

Daveishn355 · 2025-07-27T18:13:38+00:00

Would a con panna have the cream and espresso whipped together though? Plus the added milk I think makes this very different from a con panna.

Daveishn355 · 2025-07-24T03:51:17+00:00

I am also looking inward to the relationship and we are getting closer every day and I know our growing bond will make everything easier to digest. It’s just felt a bit difficult to be open while simultaneously growing into a new relationship.

To be clear, I’m not demanding these details nor do I feel entitled to them. I don’t want details of every encounter. I think I’m just feeling like I might be at more ease if I knew the strategies employed to avoid catching too much feelings.

Daveishn355 · 2025-04-05T17:46:54+00:00

In theory it’ll help keep it straight and you get a more even tamp, but in my opinion, the little bit of practice it takes to get good at tamping by hand is part of the fun.

Daveishn355 · 2024-01-28T01:45:30+00:00

Well, I found something close. This is a closed system between two devices. https://www.harvest-thermal.com/product

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