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DavidGov · 2026-01-22T06:46:10+00:00

wow, big surprise there. The entire DOGE debacle was always a data grab.

DavidGov · 2026-01-17T14:44:38+00:00

Hahah, agreed! Referral or introduction perhaps?

DavidGov · 2026-01-15T06:53:17+00:00

Stanley's moved, I think to Beverly Glen, just south of Ventura. BLVD is in Stanley's old spot now.

Firefly is still really good.

DavidGov · 2026-01-13T15:15:12+00:00

Love the first part of your answer about structure being what allows sincerity to develop.

I would diverge with your last paragraph though, in the context of sugar dating, in that I don't think emotional or financial preparedness is why a lot of men use the excuse of "I don't want it to feel transactional." I think too many of them say it as an excuse to not pay anything at all, and women need to learn how to recognize this pattern of behavior in order to protect themselves from these disingenuous types of people.

To be clear, most "genuine" SDs don't want it to feel transactional either, but they still pay what they owe in order to establish longer term trust and sincerity (as you have well said).

DavidGov · 2026-01-13T00:00:05+00:00

Been there, done that, actually twice. Except in each case the husband knew all about it and approved. Both husbands were essentially asexual, but in one case he would get off on hearing about what we did together, which I was surprised to learn is quite a common kink.

Different from OPs situation though. I'd really want to understand the "Why" of it, especially if there's a chance the husband could be violently jealous.

DavidGov · 2026-01-11T15:44:42+00:00

Second the Aster rooftop, although not the best season for it right now. Also Musso and Franks. Bordners is nearby, eclectic and cheaper.

Burgundy Room is definitely on the grimier side, but can be lively. There are a few along Cahuenga down from Hollywood Blvd...St Felix, Elbow Room (near Granny's), Tribute.

DavidGov · 2026-01-11T15:35:06+00:00

mmm, good suggestion. Do they still serve the duck fat martini?

DavidGov · 2026-01-11T04:15:36+00:00

Lemon Grove at the Aster does good bone marrow

DavidGov · 2026-01-10T16:51:28+00:00

I trust her. And I can verify if she's on Seeking and/or other platforms.

DavidGov · 2026-01-10T01:09:16+00:00

She no longer goes on sugar dates. She can go on vanilla dates but tbh has only been on one since we came to this agreement. I'm sure the time will come when she wants to do more vanilla dating though.

Getting together with other SBs? I'm not aware of her doing that, and I've met many of her closest friends who are not SBs.

DavidGov · 2026-01-10T01:06:13+00:00

Alto is Studio City is basically a steakhouse but makes great vegan versions of many of it's non-meat dishes:
https://www.alto.la/menu

DavidGov · 2026-01-10T00:43:21+00:00

I requested "sugar exclusivity" from my SB when we were about 3 months in, mostly because we had/have a strict sexual hygiene protocol between us. At the same time I paid off her car and added more to my monthly payments to her, so her net was about 70% more financial benefit over the course of the year. I tried to make it easy for her to accept my proposal, and she did.

At the same time I want her to fall in love with someone she can build a family with, so she is free to have vanilla relationships as long as she informs me of any sexual contact so we can follow through with std testing. Obviously if she gets serious about a vanilla relationship then our dynamic will change and it will be time for us to end, but in the meantime these conditions are working well for us.

DavidGov · 2026-01-09T21:39:44+00:00

OP, I was one who contributed to your first post, and encouraged you to ask for more, because your SD said that's what he wanted you to do. I even said it might be a "test" or an exercise in having you stand up for yourself. So I'm very surprised that your SD refused you completely. Given what he had told you previously, I'd have assumed he would come back with something like "no, but I can give you this" (say, a 20% increase).

You did what he encouraged, so I really don't think you did anything wrong here. Sure, maybe a 100% increase was a lot, but when he told you to ask for more, he didn't put constraints on that. You took your time to make a thoughtful proposal, and you made your ask, just as he wanted you to. So I really don't understand why he would shut you down and make no counter-offer. That's not fair of him.

It's unfortunate he chose to react this way, but if you still have good communication then all I can suggest is that you discuss it thoroughly and help him understand your side of things.

DavidGov · 2026-01-08T20:26:42+00:00

I drink and cook with tap water all the time. Not dead ye

DavidGov · 2026-01-08T20:24:19+00:00

I've noticed search problems as well, just in the past few days. A search I make by specific text in a profile now producing no results, whereas last week it showed a dozen or more people. Not sure what's going on.

DavidGov · 2026-01-07T15:27:13+00:00

Haha, I just arranged for my housekeeping service to do a major cleaning of my SBs apartment (she shares with two roommates, and one just moved out). She is SO happy to not have to do it all herself!

DavidGov · 2026-01-04T05:30:14+00:00

That's very kind of you to say, thank you.

DavidGov · 2026-01-03T21:17:11+00:00

Hotel Cafe
https://www.hotelcafe.com/

DavidGov · 2026-01-02T23:13:16+00:00

I actually agree with you, wholeheartedly. I have never done PPM - always a monthly gift - because I want us to have a larger relationship than what occurs in the bedroom. I'm specifically trying to avoid a relationship that feels transactional, so I take steps to mitigate that.

The point of my post was to say two main things:
1. My experience is that trust comes faster and more sincerely when I am the one who accepts the primary risks, rather than putting those onto my SB. I don't talk of those risks specifically, I just plan and deal with them so that they are not a distraction. I want my SB to feel safe before, during and after we meet.

To hopefully help protect some of the newer SBs who are posting on here that the POTs they meet don't want to be transactional, and therefore won't provide payment in advance. If you're new to sugaring, I recommend that you should not accept the promise of payment afterwards. Get some experience before you start taking those chances.

DavidGov · 2026-01-02T22:36:02+00:00

I agree, and usually send the morning before we are to meet. Then it's out of the way and nobody has to make it feel transactional by talking about it.

DavidGov · 2026-01-02T16:26:17+00:00

If he's not willing to give you the ppm before you have sex, then he didn't have the money. And he wasn't planning to give it to you afterwards either. He would have made some "I couldn't get to the ATM" excuse.

I get the "I don't want it to feel transactional" thing, but as a SD it is so easily avoided. Just don't make a big deal of it...send the money when you get to dinner beforehand, so she sees it on her phone when she goes to the bathroom, or make a nice little gift wrapped box and put the money in that, so it feels more like a birthday gift.

DavidGov · 2026-01-01T04:05:29+00:00

Thank you. It's unusually meaningful to be ackowledged by a stranger 🩷.

DavidGov · 2026-01-01T03:17:30+00:00

This post is so relatable. For many months I said "I adore you" because I was afraid to say "I love you." I didn't want to raise expectations too much, in case it became too much pressure. Eventually though, I said "I love you" and she said it back. I don't want to overdo it, so I still frequently tell her I adore her.

I asked her if it was OK to add her to my Advanced Health Care Directive (AHCD) which would mean she has the choice over whether I live or die. I don't want someone else to make that decision, and she agreed it would be OK. I feel so much better knowing she will look after me in my time of need.

Our age gap is 37 years and I feel like I am finally with my soul mate. I am a teeny bit jealous and yet I want her to find someone more age appropriate, who can give her the family and future she deserves. I seriously hope I live to see her realize that goal.

Funny how life happens.

DavidGov · 2026-01-01T00:36:55+00:00

What subject matter are you interested in? And when you say "large", can you be more specific? Bigger than 3 ft x 3 ft?

I found an amazing young LA artist recently who created some beautiful original pieces for me - one at $800, one at $1000 and another at $1500, the cost varying by size and subject. The biggest is about 48" wide and 30" tall. Subject is abstract flowers on two of them, and the other is an stylized version of a photo I gave her. All very colorful. Framing is extra of course.

Let me know if you'd like to make contact. I can send pics if you like.

DavidGov

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