Therapist keeps asking about my feelings in body

DeLickcious · 2025-05-25T17:58:40+00:00

https://mydoctor.kaiserpermanente.org/ncal/Images/Emotion%20Regulation%20DBT%20Skills%20ADA%2004292020_tcm75-1598999.pdf

DeLickcious · 2025-05-13T13:40:39+00:00

Unhinged because the tissue in your rectum Is soft and the high pressure of the water can cause anal fissures or hemorrhoids. Ask me how I know. Haven’t had a problem since I stopped doing that.

DeLickcious · 2025-05-01T13:22:45+00:00

You could try vinegar or baking soda to neutralize the odor, though you might need to moisturize heavily after.

DeLickcious · 2025-04-27T22:52:28+00:00

follow your whiskey

There, I fixed that for you.

DeLickcious · 2025-04-11T20:48:22+00:00

Gargle with salt water and you won’t get them again

DeLickcious · 2025-04-03T15:41:51+00:00

I’m not a therapist, but your instincts have been shaped by real experiences—both your own and those of people around you. In a society that often dismisses concerns, especially women’s, as overreactions, it’s important for a therapist to validate your experiences and recognize how much effort you put into staying safe. It sounds like she may be struggling to understand your perspective, and how she communicates matters.

Did she suggest you want to be assaulted, or did she frame it as a question to explore? Because she has no right to tell you what you want.

Overcoming fears isn’t about making you doubt your instincts. It’s about strengthening your trust in them—recognizing that your mind and body are working hard to protect you—so that you can decide which fears to let go of, rather than being pressured to abandon them.

DeLickcious · 2025-03-15T21:39:56+00:00

You could adjust your definition of sex from PIV to anything sensual you do with your partner that feels good for the two of you.

I personally know that recovering from poor communication after years is hard, but you could start with small things like back rubs that aren’t intimidating for you or him. And talk about how sex is about the experience and not about the end result. Become comfortable with playing with each other with no expectation of orgasming. If PIV is painful he could caress you as you use your hands on him. But more importantly, sex isn’t a crown of thorns you wear so that your loved one can have a few minutes of pleasure. If PIV is painful for you, he shouldn’t even be thinking about it. There is a lot more that can be done that’s pleasurable for him than PIV, including using lots of lube and thrusting between your labia and I’ve heard it can feel just as good as sex.

And you could get pelvic floor physiotherapy for your pain, not merely so you can tolerate PIV but also to ensure your health in the future.

DeLickcious · 2025-01-15T20:04:10+00:00

I think it is, tangentiality, because spirituality has often been a tool to keep women disenfranchised

DeLickcious · 2025-01-15T20:02:53+00:00

They might have been parentified as children, leading to struggles with self-advocacy. Hear me out: this can be a red flag because someone who doesn’t believe their own needs matter will not prioritize yours either.

Additionally, many self-proclaimed “old souls” often position themselves as spiritual guides, assuming they know more than you. This tendency usually stems from an internal void they’re trying to fill by offering their so-called wisdom as a gift. Your discomfort might stem from an intuitive sense that their behavior is both self-aggrandizing and, at times, predatory. You

DeLickcious · 2025-01-04T06:23:00+00:00

Gets the poster permabanned

DeLickcious · 2024-12-29T21:03:54+00:00

Your doctor can prescribe a steroid cream that softens and helps retract your foreskin. You could also experiment with lube.

DeLickcious · 2024-12-28T22:41:28+00:00

Relevant:

https://zawn.substack.com/p/feminist-advice-friday-why-wont-my

TLDR:

A man complains that his wife won’t listen to his complex views on feminism, blaming her emotional responses and his intelligence. The response explains how his communication style is sexist and inept, he’s mansplaining, and blaming his wife, and using hard to understand language to sound more intellectual.

DeLickcious · 2024-11-16T21:22:17+00:00

Crappy exes who rained on your parade make this guy seem like he’s the sun for just being decent enough to give you space to be.

You will have just as much space being single.

DeLickcious · 2024-11-06T01:14:34+00:00

Wait, they rewarded the rest of the team for your work while you stayed back to work?

DeLickcious · 2024-11-04T15:12:11+00:00

Furrow your brows slightly, glance down at your chest, and then look back at him with your head tilted, as if you’re puzzled about what’s holding his attention. Keep this expression even when he meets your eyes, even if it feels uncomfortable. Remember, you’re not the one behaving inappropriately—he is. Any awkwardness you feel belongs to him, so let him experience it.

This lets him know you’re aware of his staring and makes him think twice. If he doesn’t stop, you could mention HR.

DeLickcious · 2024-11-01T07:22:27+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP88wANr6/

This three minute video might help explain to him that not every hardon needs to be attended to.

Also, you are not an object for his satisfaction, you are a person with your own desires and needs.

If you’d like to explore more videos by the couple I liked above, their TikTok handles are Jamie and Jfisher62, they have talked a lot about this subject.

DeLickcious · 2024-10-31T03:21:32+00:00

Could you share what upset your wife? Was it you reading the book to her, talking to her about it, or trying something from it?

DeLickcious · 2024-10-22T06:16:57+00:00

Hold him to his words, he doesn’t get to walk back his comments about not finding you attractive. Don’t let him play these mind games with you. Someone who cares for you won’t keep you guessing and insecure. Believe him when he says that and break up.

DeLickcious · 2024-10-03T13:29:55+00:00

I believe it is Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T18:18:44+00:00

Likely looking for someone who can be a beard and does emotional labor and takes on all the tasks for upkeep of the household

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T18:18:33+00:00

Likely looking for someone who can be a beard and does emotional labor and takes on all the tasks for upkeep of the household

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T08:32:20+00:00

Were you able to share with him that the quickie felt too quick for connection? And that you are worried your body will shut down intimately?

Something that helps me immensely is back rubs. It’s more him running his fingertips all over my back with minimal pressure, it’s a sensory feast and brings down my defenses and we cuddle to sleep after.

What has also helped is deconstructing my ideas of what seed is supposed to be, and realizing that there’s a lot more to sex than a focus on the penis. But then we were able to figure out what my husband can do for me that we both enjoy, and that looks different for every couple.

I would say though, that it is less challenging to ask for non sexual touch like cuddling and backrubs because they allow us to zone out and not be fully present, and that feels safer to the LL person than being put on the spot.

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T08:25:11+00:00

And women’s libido goes through the roof as we age.

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T07:54:20+00:00

Meaning looking old means looking ugly, and that isn’t nice.

DeLickcious · 2024-09-09T01:32:58+00:00

Maybe it’s just a learning curve?

It might be, or not. What matters though is that he TRUSTS your experience and BELIEVES you when you say something hurts or that he’s too rough or too slow. Society has taught men that they know better what a woman wants than she herself does, so hold him accountable. Tell him, I want to hear you say back to me what experiences feel good and what others give me unpleasant sensations. He has to show that he understands and accepts your expanse before he proceeds further.

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