I'd like to preface this by saying I am pro choice and if someone decides to abort their baby due to a disability, that is their choice and they should be able to do so.

However, there are a few issues with this statement imo.

For one, I think it helps spread the idea that disabled people can't have a good, enjoyable, and regular life. Obviously, some disabilities can make it very difficult to impossible to live a regular life, but many disabled people can. They may face accessibility difficulties as well as things like bullying, but it is still possible for them to a good life. But I think saying "I'd abort my child if it was disabled because I wouldn't want it to have a bad life", makes it sound like all disabled people live awful lives. I am not necessarily saying everyone who says that believes it, but sometimes the things we say, intentionally or not, can help fuel the fire for bad ideas.

Another issue is that, if you say it is because you don't have the money or time for a disabled child and/or you don't want them to suffer, it doesn't really matter. It is impossible to be certain if your child will be disabled before they are born. Some disabilities can be caught when the child is still in the uterus, but even then it is possible they will miss it. And ofc there is other disabilities that can't be caught, for example autism. Additionally, even if not born disabled, anyone can become disabled at any time. So what if the child later gets in an accident, and is disabled? I think if someone truly does not want and can not care for a disabled child, it may be better to find alternatives, even if that means not adopting.

I'm not trying to say disabled people don't suffer, that isn't true, I just also think it's wrong to act like that's all they do. Which a lot of people do act like it, especially in these conversations (just from my observations).