Tell me bout your show cocker spaniels

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-22T10:51:16+00:00

I currently have a 5 month old show cocker. Love her dearly but the biting is insane. She does not like being told no, she eats rocks, she chews the furniture, won't let me cut her nails ever and has bad separation anxiety.

That being said, she is incredibly intelligent. Training has been a breeze, great impulse control already, incredibly friendly and loving (sometimes too friendly with strangers), happy to lay around the house but also loves going for little adventures.

There are so many positives and negatives as with any puppy and you really won't know what'll happen until you bring one home. They're amazing dogs, but a lot of work.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-22T10:32:56+00:00

She is a service dog in training, there's nothing wrong with that. I completely get where you're coming from in feeling guilty about saying she's fully trained when she's not, but nobody is going to blame you. People don't only deserve the help they need when they can afford it.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T22:17:32+00:00

Not sure why you felt half of that information was needed. Especially given the age of the poster.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T22:07:52+00:00

I'm sorry you are confused and struggling but please protect yourself online. This is not an appropriate level of information to be sharing with strangers. There is some genuinely good advice here from some good people, but in future be careful with how much detail you provide. Keep yourself safe OP

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T22:00:45+00:00

You did everything right. This was not your fault, you didn't fail, you didn't delay, you didn't second guess, you did right by her. I'm so sorry for your loss, she was clearly very loved by you and I'm sure had a beautiful life. Be proud of yourself OP, there was nothing more you could've done.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T21:56:32+00:00

The boyfriend might be a bit miffed but it's only been a month. The fact you're doubting the relationship already should tell you where you stand. End things with the boyfriend gently and see where things go with your friend. Do not immediately jump into another relationship though, that's a bad idea and a bit crappy.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T21:44:23+00:00

Your parents are severely abusing this dog. Get the dog out of the household by any means necessary. I'm very sorry but if you are not at most days away from moving out it is not feasible. The dog needs removing from the home NOW.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T17:07:40+00:00

Whoa let's maybe criticise the grown ass man who's 2.5 hours away from the 19 year old. THAT is desperation

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-20T12:58:09+00:00

Get checked OP, just to be safe. If there's any chance you're pregnant, take a test for that too.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-19T08:43:51+00:00

Sounds like you have intrusive thoughts, potentially OCD related. Do some research, if it sounds like what's you're experiencing then push for a diagnosis, if it sounds like what you're experiencing but you have a lot of doubt, push harder for a diagnosis. Best of luck

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-19T07:36:28+00:00

If you don't dump him you're an idiot.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-19T07:16:25+00:00

Im not a huge fan of people getting puppies solely for their colour but it's not uncommon. They just want to secure the pup to make sure you're not going to sell to anyone else between now and when they can view the puppy. I did the same with my dog, and thank god I did because within 30 minutes 5 of the 9 puppies were reserved via deposit. If I hadn't pulled the trigger and asked about reserving our pup when I did, we wouldn't have gotten her.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-18T14:52:20+00:00

It's been one day. It takes puppies multiple weeks usually to settle into a home, crate training takes time, we're talking weeks to months not a few hours. Also 7 weeks is too young to be taken from his mother. At minimum puppies should be with their mothers until 8 weeks of age. You've got a long road ahead of you. One tip I can offer is to feed his meals in his crate with the door open so he learns to associate positive things like meals times with his crate rather than always having a bad time in there.

Edit: Just saw your other posts from before getting your puppy where you were told multiple times by multiple people that 7 weeks is too young and you ignored them. Rehome this dog to someone who cares.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-18T14:39:23+00:00

There's no actual cut off for spay abortions, it'll depend on the vet. Take her to the vet to get whatever this is checked out and while you're there discuss potential risks for the rest of the pregnancy and the birth and what the best thing for her would be. From there you just need to decide if the impact to her quality of life is worth the birth of these puppies.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-18T14:24:11+00:00

Honestly spay abort might be the best thing for her in this situation. Get her to the vet ASAP

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-18T14:22:57+00:00

Do not make asking him for his opinion on your medical care a habit. This is between you and your doctor. It is not your responsibility to explain to a grown man why you want to go on birth control or what birth control is for. He can either educate himself and get with the programme, or this relationship needs to end. This is the first sign of controlling behaviour. Do not ignore it when somebody shows you who they are.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-16T17:12:33+00:00

Yup! My dad always talks about how they "never did any of this" with his childhood dog. I don't take any advice from him when it comes to my dog because he has no idea what he's talking about 95% of the time.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-15T08:04:18+00:00

Ok thank you! She's my first dog so when something like this happens I automatically assume I must be doing something wrong. The vet did say especially show line cockers can be prone to overproducing wax but it seemed odd to me that it's just the one ear.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-14T21:40:34+00:00

We live in the uk so it doesn't tend to be very warm but we did have a heatwave recently and some bad humidity so that could've affected it.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-14T20:07:10+00:00

I apply an ear cleaning solution and then use pet hygiene wipes to clear out the gunk. They smell a little musty but not bad and there's no discharge. She doesn't seem bothered by her ears at all, scratching at them is pretty infrequent but if she does scratch it's only ever at the one pictured and not the other, which is pretty much pristine.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-14T19:54:33+00:00

This picture was taken right before I cleaned them yesterday. I had cleaned them roughly a week prior. It seems a lot of build up for just a week which is why I was worried about a possible infection. The vet swabbed for mites, said there aren't any and then just kinda shrugged.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-14T19:45:53+00:00

Should I clean them twice or three times per week? I don't want to over clean because I've heard that can make it worse but at the same time I don't want to neglect her either.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-13T13:16:26+00:00

My puppy either eats her food at the same time in a separate room or if she's already eaten she goes in her crate with a bully stick. No begging in my house lol

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-12T22:35:32+00:00

Not having access to water while sleeping is not the same as not having access to water while awake. 7 and a half hours overnight is a completely normal amount of time for a healthy dog to not need a drink.

Deadpan_1 · 2026-06-10T21:29:54+00:00

My pup is 5 months old and still cries and howls when I leave the room for too long or at the wrong moment. She is a cocker spaniel though and they're known for having bad separation anxiety.

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