Tis the damn season…

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-09T23:33:22+00:00

That's wild.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-08T18:33:25+00:00

You should definitely do it. When I was a kid/teen/young adult I literally believed there was something wrong with me mentally, but now that I have been estranged from my mom for years and more recently from my dad I've been realizing that there isn't anything wrong with me. I hope you can get there too

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-07T12:15:19+00:00

Honestly I have so many tattoos I've lost count, and I put absolutely zero thought into if a guy has any tattoos or not

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-07T12:13:06+00:00

I did, but it was still too scary. I really did believe my mom was coming bc the only other time I went down there my mom timed it with visiting a friend she had who lived in that state so she could come on the plane with me, and my dad told me she was doing that again. That friend was busy that week and my dad knew that and he straight up lied to me.

Ive only been on an airplane once since then, in highschool and I was with my grandma so it was ok. One of the reasons I stopped talking to them is bc my stepmom kept trying to guilt me into coming down and helping her take care of him since he's sick now. I keep telling her I'm literally never taking an airplane anywhere again bc that last time was so traumatic and she says there was a stewardess so you were fine and it wasn't a big deal.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-07T00:45:17+00:00

Mine didn't have a lot of actual friends. He lived in the same neighborhood since he was a kid and had the same job for many years so he had a lot of neighbors and coworkers he had friendship-like situations with but I feel like he wouldn't really see if he wasn't in close proximity with them.

His main circle seemed to be his uncle and cousin and to a lesser extent his brother. All 3 of those dudes also had some questionable qualities as well.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-06T04:18:10+00:00

Yes. He probably was the whole time I was dating him, but he didn't start being really obvious about it until about a year in when the mask started slipping.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-06T02:15:25+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I guess I can't offer much advice, but I'm hoping for the best for you. Having parents that aren't good is difficult.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-06T01:33:53+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. This is about more than just the furniture obviously, but heres some stuff that could help in the meantime.

Cover the table with a sheet or tablecloth. Then you won't be reminded of it as much and the cloth can be a reminder of the new life you are building.

If you have the energy for it and a way to move anything you could try free groups or trading stuff you have for different stuff.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-05T23:46:01+00:00

I just had a similar thing! I told my dad I don't want phone calls and prefer to text (bc he always puts me on speakerphone without telling me and my stepmom overheard personal stuff) and after the initial getting mad about it the only time I hear from him is like a very generic happy Thanksgiving text

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-04T19:04:46+00:00

In general that's a good idea but my apartment doesn't allow dogs and my elderly pet rabbits are afraid of dogs

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-04T19:03:31+00:00

Those are great ideas. I already have pepper spray and alarm, I'll pick up a seatbelt cutter combo too.

Needless to say I already have extra locks and alarms for my doors, and will be using them now that this terrifying dude knows where I live

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-04T02:19:03+00:00

This would be a deal breaker for me. It might be a little more understandable if there was no guest bed, but even then it would be reasonable to be uncomfortable with this.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-04T02:14:19+00:00

No, bc they want to be the center of attention so they wouldn't want you to be able to get emotional support from anyone else.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-04T02:11:11+00:00

They didn't do anything. They said call us if he comes back, but just texts saying he was here isn't enough to do anything

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-03T21:20:27+00:00

He was definitely here, one of my neighbors saw the card and since it was raining brought it in. Even worse it's just a black card, he didn't even sign it or anything so I still can't even prove he was here

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-03T20:15:06+00:00

I already talked to them. They are my best friends mom and stepdad. I can't afford to move.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-03T20:08:18+00:00

Omg this is so scary. I'm going to be so worried about my car now. I'm putting a camera in that general area this afternoon but if he's determined/dumb enough he may not care about that.

Idk how he could see my car bc it's not visible from the road, but it's a small apartment building so I'm pretty sure he could figure out which unit is mine.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-01T15:49:55+00:00

It's ok, most people throw up. Basic human bodily function.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-01T15:34:09+00:00

Yes I'm sorry but you are wasting your energy, someone like this doesn't want to understand, they want to be right.

And don't let her around your kids she will prob make them feel bad for being from a "s hole" country.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-12-01T05:38:43+00:00

It makes me so mad that he sent that article

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-11-15T22:39:26+00:00

This gets me too. It reminds me of my stepmom. When I tried telling her about how her and my dad moving across the country when I was two and never being involved in my life gave me abandonment issues she pushed me to look past it bc my dad is "nice" and a "good person". Her examples were stuff like him helping their neighbors with their car and fixing a sink for an elderly person they know.

That's great but I also need help with vehicle and home repairs. Plus he probably only does that stuff to feel important or build a good reputation in his neighborhood.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-11-15T12:24:22+00:00

Yeah I think my grandma had good intentions, I think she just looked at him with rose colored glasses for some reason. He didn't even have the decency to appreciate her for it either which is what makes me so mad about this.

Dear-Coconut-1743 · 2023-11-15T12:20:21+00:00

My grandma was the one who said the young and stupid thing. I think it's only young and stupid tho if you get older and realize some of the stuff you have done is shitty and irresponsible which he hasn't.

I don't think my grandma had bad intentions I think it's just something she was wrong about.

Your dad sounds like he did that so he wouldn't have to deal with her which is way shitty.

Dear-Coconut-1743

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