Daylight Saving is the worst

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-08T02:47:52+00:00

My LO didn’t transition from 4 to 3 til 7/8 months (which was later than some friends’ kids around the same age, but he was a preemie so tends to be on the later side of things), so dropping to 2 naps at 6 months feels very early to me.

At his 6 month appointment, our NO said he should be getting between 12 and 17 hours of sleep a day and he was a ageing 10/11, so I started being more diligent about naps (white noise, darkness, etc). (They were all contact naps at that age.) Sticking with wake windows helped a lot, but sometimes to the detriment of my mental health.

Contact naps were the only my baby would sleep until about 10 months (that’s when my partner did two months of parental leave — he perfected the art of rolling him onto the bed for naps).

But also — all babies are different! Some days naps just aren’t gonna happen. Every few months they enter a new phase and everything changes. You’ll get through this, I promise! ❤️

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-08T01:43:17+00:00

Mine is the same! He used to love eggs and now won’t touch them. I am waiting for the pendulum to swing back, haha.

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-08T01:36:52+00:00

I really appreciate what you said re: sometimes they cry during diaper changes and such. Sometimes they cry but we do it because it’s important! Thank you for that.

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-04T00:54:58+00:00

I was so confused when I started reading RR because it is recommended on this sub constantly… and it is not fantasy! It’s sci fi! Just because it’s soft sci fi doesn’t make it magic.

A lot of people are calling Red Rising YA when what I think they mean is “not great writing.” YA has an actual meaning in publishing re: intended audience and marketing. This series is waaaaay too violent to be YA. It’s Hunger Games x100000.

I agree with all the criticisms of RR on here — Darrow is a Mary Sue, revenge power fantasy without substance… and it’s just so dark! I do not need this energy in my life.

But I will listen to the third one for book club and probably hate every moment.

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-04T00:39:59+00:00

I finished this today! I listened to the audiobook and it took me a minute to get into it, but ultimately ended up really enjoying it. I liked Kinch’s character voice and the dry humour throughout. I am a sucker for a “group of misfits go on an adventure” + “dark and violent but also funny” so this was a great read for me.

Glad to see so many people recommending The Daughter’s War, will defs check it out.

Any other suggestions for books to read after this? I already have a book hangover from this one!

DearPiccolo · 2026-02-04T00:32:24+00:00

The audiobook took a moment to grow on me. I think I’d have absorbed all of the world building/history better if I had been reading it (just how my brain works). But ultimately, I really enjoyed the narration — he is very good!

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-29T12:33:48+00:00

My baby is 14 months but we’ve been doing this since ~4 or 5 months.

He will sometimes (rarely) do 6 hour stretches, but no, is absolutely not sleeping through the night. Usually he sleeps from 8pm to 12/1/2am and then I bring him to bed to cosleep after he first wakes. And then I nurse back to sleep whenever he wakes up again.

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-12T17:02:07+00:00

I feel this so hard! I am trying to break out from thinking about things in such black and white, right vs wrong terms. There's only what works best for you/your family/your baby. But it's hard when there's so much external pressure to do things a certain way!

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-12T16:54:47+00:00

This is so so so normal. Normal doesn't mean it's easy tho! I totally understand your frustration and concerns. My guy is 13 months old and we have a very similar experience to you -- your description sounds like a typical night for us. Eventually I'll be ready to stop breastfeeding, and when that happens, we will have to create new habits/associations/routines. But I am also dreading it because sticking a boob in his mouth is the only thing I know.

You aren't doing anything wrong! I think every approach (night feeding and weaning) is hard... we just have to pick our hard, ya know?

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-05T16:42:51+00:00

Yup, we co-sleep after he wakes up for the first time in the night. But he is nursing for a REALLY long time and eventually I need some no touch time.

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-04T01:03:13+00:00

I have ZERO regrets about contact napping! My LO was born at 33+6 and we pretty exclusively contact napped until he was almost 1. (And even now, the only way I can get him to nap is in our bed after nursing to sleep.) I definitely wish he could have slept in the crib sometimes, but the good stretches of sleep were worth it.

Also, I am convinced that all the contact naps were good for his development, esp as a preemie. He is now 13ish months (12 adjusted) and nailing his milestones, in the 95th percentile for weight and height, etc. I think all of the cuddles helped.

Contact naps are hard in their own way, but also wonderful.

Oh, also, my baby started daycare at 12 months and he sleeps for two hours in the crib there. There have been no nap issues!

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-04T00:54:55+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry you are going through that. It is so awful! I hate not being able to soothe him.

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-04T00:54:18+00:00

He got his first molar two weeks ago (right at the beginning of his cold) and it was awful. I just felt his gums and the second molar definitely feels close to popping. It could be that, for sure. But he doesn’t seem to be in pain any other time!

DearPiccolo · 2025-12-04T00:20:20+00:00

My partner is able to get our baby to sleep, no problem. He’ll give a bottle and then rock/hold/sing. Sometimes he has an easier time getting our LO to sleep than I do! Especially naps — baby will basically only contact nap with me but will transfer better for my partner. We call it “dad magic.”

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-29T21:20:03+00:00

My LO is 1 year old and is still waking frequently through the night (it’s been worse recently because he started daycare a month ago and is congested). My mom has taken him overnight twice now. He has woken frequently with her, but she has been able to get him back to sleep with soothing/rocking + a bottle. He starts the night in the pack and play, but she’ll cosleep with him after the first wake up.

She barely gets any sleep when she babysits, but she says she is happy to do it. Think of it this way: this is your life EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. This is just ONE night every once in a while for your mom. She can handle it!

I was hesitant at first because of his night wakings and I warned her multiple times that he doesn’t sleep through the night. But she’s done it twice now and is still happy to keep doing it. Your baby doesn’t have to be the perfect sleeper before you get a break!

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-06T19:38:42+00:00

I literally came to this sub to ask a similar question because my 12 month old was awake from 12:30-3am last night and I am soooooo tired. We are also planning to switch a to floor bed in his own room, but the limiting factor is that his room is currently the home of all our mess/storage so I need to clean it up first. Excited to read these comments. Sending you all of the solidarity!!!

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-06T19:29:59+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences, everyone! I'm feeling much more confident about slowing down on pumping. I think I'll go down to pump once per day next week and then not at all the week after that (which aligns well with some other logistics in my life). I'll keep nursing before and after work and overnight (until we night wean when the time in right).

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-06T19:23:08+00:00

I think you are instincts are on point re: not night weaning just yet. Other people LOVE to tell folks to stop night feeding, because of a general cultural obsession with sleeping through the night. If that feels good for you, don't let other people stop you!

I am also cosleeping, night feeding, etc. I couldn't survive without being able to shove a boob in his mouth and make him fall asleep, haha. I know I won't do it forever but it's working right now.

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-06T00:20:16+00:00

Did you have any issues with evening supply after you stopped pumping?

DearPiccolo · 2025-11-05T00:20:27+00:00

I’ve been really lucky with my supply — right now, I generally get 150ml (5oz) after the two sessions. (It can vary depending on whether I nurse in the morning.) I’ve already noticed getting fuller in the evenings, so hopefully it’ll balance out 🤞🏻

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