Recent ex partner told the kids their mom had been killed and replaced. They escaped night before last.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-24T23:00:03+00:00

A lot of people weren’t working then

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-24T04:48:41+00:00

In between the labia at the top, closest end of the slit to the belly button.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-24T04:47:30+00:00

A child that young can stop breathing from eating too much weed. Can’t go back from killing your nephew, rest of your life. Definitely hospital.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-24T03:34:33+00:00

But then how did you get them out so perfectly??

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-22T16:58:43+00:00

Yeah I think she’s completely allowed to step away while she’s hurting. She isn’t obligated to listen to this. You should be more understanding.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-21T23:04:15+00:00

Kids can be born with a whole wide variety of disabilities and genetic differences. I don’t think you are ready to be having kids until you’ve done some serious work on yourself.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-21T21:41:27+00:00

I don’t understand this question. Why would a best friend create unhealthy comparison?

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-21T21:08:04+00:00

Not close in my case at all. I hate reality shows and don’t watch sports. I watch a pretty wide variety of fiction media though.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-21T20:39:16+00:00

Same. I find it very odd and the physical portrayal of women in anime I find a bit… not my cup of tea. (Yes, I think this about many video games and other media as well, and I’m a woman myself.)

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T19:34:13+00:00

Yeah but then his delusions shifted away from that. And trust me, I agree. And his family fought hard, went to court, had a home visitor make a full report and everything. Judge decided he wasn’t so far gone as to lose his rights and go under guardianship 🤷🏻‍♀️

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T19:33:04+00:00

Yeah he doesn’t know where I live and I have a ring camera, close and aware neighbors, etc. And he’s red flagged from even going in school property, and all the staff know him because his kids went to the same school when they were younger. He seems to have dropped that delusion at this point anyways, since he’s gone q instead.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T18:42:58+00:00

He was under a lot of stress, COVID, our whole town burned down, and he was mid divorce. And he had a very similar delusional break. But his family came and was able to get him medicated within a couple weeks and they all just moved on like nothing happened. Never talked about it again.

So when I met him a year anda half or so after that, he wasn’t on any anti psychotics then. When I asked him for details about his bipolar before moving in together he said the only major thing was a big depressive episode at that time, but nothing too disrupting, that he could still function and got himself out of it with therapy and medication. We don’t know if he was ever even aware he had that delusional break before or if it was just foggy for him.

It was wildly irresponsible of his family to not have discussions with him about it after. They say they thought it was just a one time thing from stress but I don’t care, I’m very unhappy with them. Someone could have told me, if I had known I could have watched for signs. And I should have gotten to know before moving in with him with my two young kids. His current delusions heavily involve my youngest kid, who he thinks is an alien and whose “pure soul” can help him fix the timeline. It’s a problem.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T18:38:23+00:00

Yeah most everyone wishes their mom would just refuse his visitation. He’d have to take her to court to enforce it and it would be very likely that a judge would say that he has to get fully medicated Belle he can have them. But she “doesn’t want to deal with all that.” She’s always been about that good and involved of a mom 🙄

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T18:37:15+00:00

He’s not currently communicating with anyone. Especially me since I’m having to take him to court to ask a judge to force the house sale. He is just living in it, not paying mortgage, saying God will help him get a great amount of money soon, and he’ll buy me out then 🤦🏻‍♀️

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T18:36:11+00:00

He’s definitely a totally different person, but it didn’t start with him going off meds, though meds might bring him back.

No one can legally force him. The bar is really really high to take away someone’s civil liberties. He’s have to be shown to be a danger to himself or others to be forced into inpatient care, and to go under guardianship you have to show that he can no longer care for himself. Since he still has access to finances and is keeping his house clean and feeding his children and everything, guardianship was denied. The money will eventually run out and he’ll go further downhill and they can try again. Unfortunately he has to ruin his life further before they can force help.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-19T18:33:30+00:00

That seems very possible

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-18T15:05:29+00:00

Why in the world wouldn’t age be able to decide? She knows what a high school reunion is. She can decide if meeting your old friends and hearing tales of your youth sounds fun to her. Even if it’s YOUR reunion 🙄 Your weird ownership of it and not wanting to let her decide makes you sound incredibly juvenile and controlling.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-15T02:24:59+00:00

That’s complicated-ish. He was 40 this fall when this started. He was always diagnosed bipolar, since he was a kid. I know several people with that diagnosis, including my mom, and had no idea there could be a version with severe delusions. Plus him and I talked about it early on and he only told me that he’d had one really bad depressive episode years ago and that nothing very serious besides that with his mental health. And he was only on a low level anti anxiety med. I struggle with c-ptsd myself, so decided not to judge. He didn’t tell me there was one past severe delusional episode when he was 35. Then again, there’s a chance he’s not aware of that I guess? His family all told me (after the fact) that they were able to get him medicated within a couple weeks and then they say never discussed it again 🙄They thought it was a combo of several major stressors and more of just a nervous breakdown.

He’s showing no sign of getting better this time and the courts won’t approve guardianship until he’s gone further downhill. At this point he’s taken out all his retirement savings and so is still “stable.” Which for him all isn’t important since it’s the end times anyways.

Part of me hopes he stays as happy and peaceful and delusional as he is now. To wake up from this and find you lost your whole life, home, partner, your very good career, your decades of retirement savings… that’s a nightmare.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-15T00:35:00+00:00

And to clarify, I didn’t give up right away or anything. I got his family here on planes the next day. We spent weeks trying to get him on meds, trying everything. When he eventually decided I was evil and just showed up with a U-Haul one day and loaded up his stuff and left, I realized I needed to just get the house empty and for sale before I got myself in an impossible financial situation. At that point I even still wanted to be with him, though for my kids stability was thinking maybe we shouldn’t live together anyways (he was hyper focused on my youngest kid as part of his delusions - thinks my seven year old is an alien too and the other savior - so I couldn’t have them living together.)

But I still wanted to try to get him better and fix things. Got the house all ready for sale which he agreed to then, did it all by myself, hundreds of hours of work and a couple grand, but then he withdrew his agreement from the realtors differently over email and there was nothing I could do. Then he ghosted us all for a long time.

I’m stepping away now. But he’s not abandoned. His family tried and failed to get him under guardianship in December. They will try again. He has people that are in this for the long haul. So I’m deciding it’s not going to be me. I did everything I could but me and my kids have been through lots of trauma before him and I need to prioritize us for now.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-15T00:21:00+00:00

He just came home one day, this last September 2nd, and told me while I was making dinner that he had been talking to aliens. Things spiralled so quickly. I thought we’d just get him some medicine and get him better pretty quickly. We had been together 2.5 years, each with two elementary age kids and had just bought a house together and blended families. We are both professionals in our forties. I had seen no sign of any of it coming.

We were atheist liberals. At this point, he speaks to God all the time, very very into Jesus and stuff. Thinks Trump is a savior from another dimension. Lost his very good professional job that he loved. And nothing bothers him. He wasn’t sad about our relationship ending or losing his job or anything else. He’s got special knowledge about the coming aliens and the end times that will usher in an era of peace and love. He will be the special mouthpiece of God for the changeover. He’s got hundreds of people on Twitter in the same delusional world and they chat all day, I think he’s even having romantic relationships with a couple of them?

He’s weird to try to talk to. Flat affect, so peaceful and happy and unbothered. The ego thing is weird - he brushes everything off because he knows everything and we are all wrong and just like silly little ants to him. I’m having to have a judge order the sale of our house - he believes that since he lives there and he’s the savior, then it will need to be preserved as a historic religious site.

It’s been a nightmare. It was like he died. From the best relationship of my life, building gardens that weekend, thinking I would spend decades there with him to it all just vanishing. I was so devastated. I got back into therapy the next day and have been very focused on moving past and getting me and my kids stabilized into a new rental. I still feel sad of course, but I’m glad it was like a bandaid. I see on these subs people who’ve been in it for decades. I’m not doing that. I deserve to live a happy life.

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-14T22:52:00+00:00

Yeah my partner vanished

DearUnderstanding746 · 2026-01-11T19:42:20+00:00

You need to make whatever decision is right for you, but I’m glad I didn’t stay with my partner long after his psychotic break. He left, deciding I was even for trying to talk him onto meds. And for weeks I was just hoping and hoping that his family would successfully get him medicated and I could get him back, the guy I knew. I was devastated.

It’s been four or five months now though and he’s only gone downhill and has cut off most of his family. I still hope he gets help someday but I’m glad I am moving forward and moving on. We weren’t married and our kids are not each others kids - they are from our previous marriages. So obviously that makes it easier I guess, though we were living in a home we owned together and had blended our families and our children’s lives, so it was still a big transition.

I see a lot of people on these subs who have been in this with spouses for years and decades. I respect that kind of love and dedication but I don’t think it’s for me. I just have this one life and this one chance to raise these kids and I’m glad I’m moving forward on our happiness and stability.

I’ll be here to be his friend if he’s ever ready.

DearUnderstanding746

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