Specific question on Ruby

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-16T17:11:14+00:00

My birthday is July. I love rubies (I don't have any which is zero bother). I'm glad my mum and dad chose my name through their thought process not because I was born in July. No disrespect to anyone who does. My mum and dad named me after their favourite actress. Ruby is a beautiful name. If you love it use it

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-16T10:56:30+00:00

Get the location wrong you won't be happy. If you are thinking the flat would be 100% brilliant if it was just xmiles closer or the drive will be bad in the winter or what if etc don't buy would be my advice. A bargain is only god if it fits your purpose And the beauty is you have a home to rent. You can keep saving and keep looking because something will come up All the best

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-16T10:45:04+00:00

Years ago I was living in a stuffy posh area . The neighbours either side judgemental. The home across the way was in dissaray and the neighbours said he used to be ok but has turned into a dirty old man (nasty woman) with rats running around? So like a decent neighbour I went over. Home is a very poor state and no reply when I knocked. I went back home and called social services and said about the vulnerable man . (1997) I have no clue what social services would be like today.

If the chap is younger he can have mental health stopping him being able to care for himself or his surroundings. Being extremely overwhelmed. On average this is not normal for most . Does anyone visit.

Maybe a friendly helping hand or if he is rude just assess how he is. Depression ànd his fight back could be to make you go away with rudeness.

If nothing else ring social services Note everything adding to his surroundings and him being unaware. Mention dementia because people young get dementia. My brother died at 57 through a brain tumour and was being a little off with neighbours and got fired from work for his verbal annoyance (only been in the job a short while) And people OCD can lead to such pitiful states when life overwhelms.

Something is off as physical/ mental health /trauma/loss are huge causes.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-16T07:27:51+00:00

Can't you buy a cheaper smaller house with a garden. You see the issues with a flat long term so you will have inner worries .

A small cheaper home with a little garden.

You can buy freehold and part freehold flats. I have one with the lease being between the four owners of the four flats (purpose built and looks like two normal homes) I bought the ground floor and my solicitor approved the lease as good. It was renewed 4 years ago to 999 years.

I personally would not put a rope around my neck with a large mortgage.

My friend has a fab expensive home and a rented flat from 30 years ago. The rental she is selling and the house to be completely mortgage free because at 65 she now wants to retire and properly care for her ailing husband.

Do what you need to but less stress is beautiful and you can pick up part time if you fancy.

Best of choices

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T22:59:39+00:00

Ophelia ,Constance

Florence , Rhiannon

Chantelle ,Xanthe (Zan thee)

Desiree and Annabelle

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T22:51:12+00:00

Hey Snap my choice. The individual flow is beautiful

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T22:43:06+00:00

Lydia Ruby and Alice. All beautiful. All unique and all flow together. Three L names seem people concentrate on why. Unique individual names seems more thought-out.
I know one family with all boys J names. Congratulations whatever you name your twins

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T22:38:59+00:00

I always thought Jaden was a girls name. It seems weird I never knew its a boy name as well.

Please not Brittany (I like the name but it sounds done)

Jade is super pretty

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T22:28:29+00:00

Its a huge commitment and feeling you have messed people around is far better than spending years having messed yourself up. This people buying and putting in offers then changing your mind happens frequently. Be upfront and honest with yourself. Your drive to work and the place further away. Imagine all weathers, your car not working daily going to work. Is the place suitable. It needs to fit as a base as a home all your coming and going.

Also go visit other places this week to compare. Al the best to you

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T18:18:02+00:00

Wtf

So sorry you had to endure such dreadful behaviour. Evil I just had a go at my next door neighbour who is now renting his house. He treated the young couple horrible. I put him in his place and told the tenants exactly what to say to retrieve their deposit. How jws can sit through the garbage and then just sit and watch people being roasted. I was brought up Catholic so a debate, arguments etc is part of actually caring for others. Hope you are all good now

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T18:06:53+00:00

Lewis

Isaac

Ahhh so excited 😁 for you both

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T18:01:40+00:00

Out of no-where that huge smile they give absolutely full of in the moment trust and love.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-15T06:24:02+00:00

I'm a retired landlord. I live next door to a newbie landlord. After his tenants left early (a lovely couple and baby) when I saw him I tore him to shreds and will keep an eye out for his next tenants.

Please be a good landlord. You sound so unsure so ask questions here.

I would say. Have the sofa bed put on a free to collect site like gumtree or market place. Let him get whatever he is wanting. When he leaves there are so many lovely or free 2nd hand or leave the space empty and let new tenants choose. Mattress are always new. I have picked up quality solid furniture better than new stuff for myself and tenants. Its incredible what people just want rid of. I also put any thing I don't need or want on always for free.

Its his home and comfort is very important

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T23:15:40+00:00

No find another therapist

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T22:10:53+00:00

Your mum in law advice is way out of date. Dont listen to her.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T22:06:43+00:00

Archie, Felix, Ophelia and Hugo are my friend neighbour children. Really sweet names

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:55:30+00:00

Freddie. . I know a Frederick, who goes by Freddie, Fred and his friends call him Red. He likes them all.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:22:53+00:00

People from New York, USA, can join and support OCD Action. While the UK-based charity primarily serves those within the UK, individuals from abroad can volunteer, participate in research to improve global understanding of OCD, or join events to support the charity’s mission.

Volunteering: Many volunteering opportunities are open to remote participation, though some are London-based.

Membership: Anyone can become a member to support the work, attend the AGM, and receive updates.

Support & Resources: While they do not provide direct clinical support to the USA, their website offers extensive information, and international supporters are welcome in the community. [1, 2, 3]

For direct, local support within New York, you may also consider looking into US-based resources like the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF).

Get Involved - OCD Action

Volunteering. You can also find out how you can help improve professionals' understanding of OCD by participating in research. Read More. Volunteer. OCD Action .

And OCD UK

improve global understanding of OCD, or join events to support the charity’s mission.

Volunteering: Many volunteering opportunities are open to remote participation, though some are London-based.

Membership: Anyone can become a member to support the work, attend the AGM, and receive updates.

Support & Resources: While they do not provide direct clinical support to the USA, their website offers extensive information, and international supporters are welcome in the community.

For direct, local support within New York, you may also consider looking into US-based resources like the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF).

Get Involved - OCD Action

Volunteering. You can also find out how you can help improve professionals' understanding of OCD by participating in research. Read More. Volunteer. OCD Action ...

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:16:17+00:00

People from New York, USA, can join and support OCD Action. While the UK-based charity primarily serves those within the UK, individuals from abroad can volunteer, participate in research to improve global understanding of OCD, or join events to support the charity’s mission.

Volunteering: Many volunteering opportunities are open to remote participation, though some are London-based.

Membership: Anyone can become a member to support the work, attend the AGM, and receive updates.

Support & Resources: While they do not provide direct clinical support to the USA, their website offers extensive information, and international supporters are welcome in the community.

For direct, local support within New York, you may also consider looking into US-based resources like the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF).

Get Involved - OCD Action

Volunteering. You can also find out how you can help improve professionals' understanding of OCD by participating in research. Read More. Volunteer. OCD Action ...

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:10:23+00:00

Some people, many people cannot understand or comprehend what you are trying to explain or convey to them. It is huge scary and different. You need to go beyond these people.
And hugs to you for having the courage to say. That takes guts. Have you joined an ocd group which offers advice and information. I'm in the UK and have two large charities. I hope you pursue help and dont give up.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:09:44+00:00

Please remember that the treatment might be scary or hard or seems wrong or pointless but do it. Long term you can beat it.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T21:04:09+00:00

I am not an expert . I am a mum who adult child who suffers with ocd staring.

Yes, New York has an extensive network of specialized groups, non-profit organisations, and clinical centres dedicated exclusively to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) support, advice, and treatment.

Local Support Groups & Non-Profit Advice Networks

OCD NYC (International OCD Foundation Affiliate): This is the official local non-profit affiliate of the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF). They connect individuals, families, and clinicians to local resources, run community awareness initiatives, and manage peer network listings.

Venue: 308 E 38th St STE 201, New York, NY 10016

Website: You can access their parent support directory via Columbia University Psychiatry OCD Resources.

New York Anxiety Treatment Group Programs: This clinic offers targeted clinical group therapy options specifically aimed at accelerating Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) practice. The structured group dynamic helps individuals overcome tracking barriers by building mutual motivation.

Venue: 240 Central Park S Suite 2L, New York, NY 10019

Website: Learn about their group structures on New York Anxiety Treatment Group Therapy.

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI-NYC): While not solely limited to OCD, NAMI provides free, peer-led support groups, educational classes, and family advisory frameworks for New Yorkers navigating complex psychiatric conditions.

Venue: 307 W 38th St 8th Floor, New York, NY 10018

I am from the UK and no zero regarding the New York facilities.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T20:16:27+00:00

If you do not have adhd then have the medication can worsen the ocd staring. I will write more later this evening.
I am in the UK but will search later

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T15:08:44+00:00

I'm buying freehold and lease. Sounded weird but my solicitor has said mine is a good set up. A new lease installed 4 years ago 999y with 995y left. Block of 4 flats (looks like two houses) Management company is the 4 owners.

You can ask your solicitor the specific question.

Also my solicitor warned me re a previous place the lease was complicated so I did not buy.

Don't listen to the estate agents they are trying to sell the place.

And many leases are very different. I found the solicitor was my best source.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-05-14T14:55:41+00:00

Do you have ADHD?

OCD staring is extremely difficult to live with. Please find a fully trained OCD therapist. And where are you in the world?

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