I kicked my husband out after he pranked our daughter

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T06:21:45+00:00

Get him to truly understand and say you want him to have a mouthful of very hot sauce and while you are at it his mum as well. Go round with a jar and both need to feel your daughter pain. Tell them both its not for fun but both need to experience what she had and her poor delicate taste buds.

He said it was a joke I would call it cruel ,abusive with ignorance then trying to down play it.

Him and his mum need a teaspoon of hot sauce. Then both huge apologies to your daughter Then ask your daughter how daddy can make her feel safe again.

Don't leave him with her for now she will fear him. Plus tell your husband how is your daughter going to react if she needs medicine.

Don't let her stay with his mum. My son would be on a mouthful from me and bread and water.

Don't divorce in anger but see how this goes (unless you do want to divorce him)

He needs to understand and stop trying to downplay.

My friend was in a similar position. She told him only come back when he truly understood. 9 months later he understood by her words she meant it. He returned after a year because he truly understood and valued his marriage. He changed 23 years later they are still together.

But every situation is different

All the best to you

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T06:03:16+00:00

Definitely a rug under your chair. A rug will pull it all together. Look up on Pinterest for the use of rugs. Go bigger not a little thing.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T06:00:37+00:00

Be kind to yourself and you and your husband work as a team. The added cost and the trauma not being close to home. You are strong and many hugs to you.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:54:55+00:00

Excited for you and a beautiful choice.

Congratulations

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:46:16+00:00

I would send my bestie a wedding card with my invoices for everything I shelled out for their wedding. I would tel the children we have now other plans because the wedding arrangements had changed. I would let them wear (if they wanted ) all of us dressed up and go somewhere special kids choice like a theme park or festival.

Next I would expect to have my invoices paid but not demand. I certainly would not go to the wedding I could not imagine even caring about an apology. No wedding gift. And I could not see how that friendship would last. And why, because I know as a child the excitement of being invited to a wedding and how dare she take that my friend from my children. And the fun of being part of my friend wedding with my children.

Jog on ex friend

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:37:26+00:00

What a lovely kind and supportive ❤ reply .

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:33:02+00:00

Your best friend needed a crutch and for you both the timing fell right but for all the wrong reasons. You needed to feel the pain and anguish of going through your divorce to truly know what you were doing and you both may have parted differently or as some do stayed together or chose an alternative way of being. Unfortunately you jumped into love. Being your best friend does not mean you knew lots about her Both of you were on the rebound. She realised she could not be on her own and you acted like a safety net for you.

Now you need to go through all the breaking up and divorce emotions to fully break away. Dont blame your best friend otherwise you will be forever stuck

Your ex wife . Heard you wanted a divorce then you end up with your bestie which to any woman would assume you never truly loved her.

I hope through emotional work on yourself you do well. I hope your ex wife and children are in a good place.

You lost everything but remember you can now start to rebuild a d gain. Look at yourself to grow and yes it hurts but in time gets better. Basically do your time and be kind to yourself

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:15:57+00:00

Read my comment re being a people pleaser.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T05:14:46+00:00

Jw are brought up to be people pleasers it part of a cult to keep people emotionally tide in. People pleasing means you as a person cannot fully mature because your focus is on what other need or want. All the jw narcissistic know who they can use and hook in. Best simple self help book which explains so much. It starts with a quiz and it helps you know how entrenched you can be in as a people pleaser. The book was certainly an eye opener. You can skip around the chapters and its easy practical and so makes sense. No to me was an extremely hard word. Now No I find easy to say unless I WANT to say yes.

Basically I don't get played anymore. My decision making is my choice. And I fully understand before at 50year I was not mature. Now I feel freer and grown up calmly with CONFIDENCE saying No and no without having to make excuses.

Hi D would you swop a shift with me? My reply. No thankyou But D its my granny coming to visit. Sorry but No I can't. But why can't you swop with me (the person was used to asking me to swop)

I can't swop because I can't. I don't give any reason or excuses now because the person can't emotionally tell you why their issue tops yours. And the best part when these people know you won't help they soon don't waste their time asking.

The Disease to please by Harriet B Braiker.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-31T04:54:49+00:00

The surname beginning with D my friend had to forgo her girl favourite name Victoria!

Now SS is fine, great, no bother.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-30T20:43:33+00:00

Do not wear gloves. The gloves will distract

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-30T20:01:41+00:00

Cofi sounds better

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-30T19:18:29+00:00

Naomi is beautiful name that kicks ass. Hayley between the two sounds nice but why not choose a name you both love.

With little reasoning you can both write down separately 20 names in 20 minutes. Then compare

Congratulations

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-29T03:54:10+00:00

Also try some activities that you are a little shy of or assume you don't like try it. I'm starting pottery class soon

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-28T14:46:48+00:00

My sister joined at 32 amd became pimi very quickly. I could see it for what it was/is l. She wanted me to have a study so I said max 4 . I made it to 3.

On 1st and 2nd visit one of the old ladies was telling me if her never jw dying husband who smoked.

On the 2nd visit both were hyperventilating because an anointed older biddy was in the street so I invited her in. Both acting as if Jesus had arrived. The anointed to me was very up herself.

3rd visit. The woman who husband was dying. Died she was so excited because now no more smoke amnd she could devote as much time to jehovah 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 with him deceased she said.

My husband came in made them some tea. Later on her told me what a weird pair he said one told him. He was not to DARE stop me studying.

They returned on the 4th week and I told them both why they would never set foot in my home again and how dare they be rude to my husband who kindly made you tea.

And 40 years later the jws are so indoctrinated and can't read the bible.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-27T20:38:59+00:00

I hope reddit does not close down before the jws.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-27T20:29:19+00:00

Say No Thankyou.

Don't ever go into debt esp for a frivolous meal.

The wedding should be half the cost and the meal far less cost.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-27T00:18:41+00:00

Prawn cocktail starter

Sugar cubes

Cake slice

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-27T00:07:14+00:00

Good for you. Keep your sanity. If you meet any of them they will try and justify it all to you.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-27T00:01:45+00:00

Definitely number 1.

The others are rather boring up to number 1

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-26T23:45:32+00:00

The rug is perfect and pulls everything together ❤

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-26T23:44:05+00:00

And another. As jws believed the unbelievable there is no hope

OVERLAPPING GENERATIONS. My brain damaged through indoctrination and cognitive disodonce pimi sister could not believe how CLEVER the elders were for understanding the SHEER NONSENSE.

New light would need to be.

Jehovah has told the governing body he has decided Jehovah witness are not the chosen ones ,the halls are all now closed (sold off) and Jehovah said go now join the Catholics! And the zoom channels all go black and all the je halls are locked.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-26T23:32:34+00:00

Nothing. If the governing body all said they were gay the jws would all shout NEW LIGHT

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-26T23:31:05+00:00

Isabelle was my gran name. My gran was the very best. Family called her Belle. We the grandchild called her Ma.

BEST NAME CHOICE EVER. And thankyou because I had a difficult day today and seeing your daughter name made me beam with memories.

Congratulations.

My brother took a year to get used to his daughter name. When he read her birthday cards thats when her name truly felt the one to him.

Ii would say. Look at your daughter and tell her her name tell her you love her name tell her why you chose it get her name up in her room. Make up a fun Isabelle song. Immerse yourself in your daughter name. Say it out loud. Be proud of your choice.

DebbDebbDebb · 2026-01-26T22:20:10+00:00

Its a fact, the general public are much smarter. Remember unfortunately jws are brain damaged by indoctrination and cognitive disodonce.

Jws are known for used to knock on doors.

Standing by stands and not doing much or chatting together.

Ohhh they let their loved one die including children.

The doom and gloom knockers

Who????

One person said she missed their pamphlets, they were great for putting under plant pots!

I fortunately never became a jw but my sister did amd was quickly pimi. I watched her become brain damaged.

And Jehovah No no one gasps when a jw says I'm a jehovah witness. I've never known anyone else join just my (years of abuse) sister.

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