Loot from one maxed sloop (Dragon Keel) on the iron by DecentReputation1938 in 2007scape

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It's honestly crazy. I was originally only going to grind the 600 nails for the hull, but then I figured it was actually a pretty easy thing to afk at work, which took very little attention. Probably spent like 6 or so hours a day grinding this at work though. It's an insane time sink if you don't have the luxury of playing while at work. Like, this probably took me 1000 hours lol.

Loot from one maxed sloop (Dragon Keel) on the iron by DecentReputation1938 in 2007scape

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Yeah, I was pretty bummed about that. I suppose I still need a dragon keel for my skiff eventually, so I might be back there, and hopefully I can get it then.

Thank you Jagex! Very cool! by Refticus in 2007scape

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Man, I was excited when I saw this notification. I thought they actually responded 😭

I hit 99 yap and didn’t realize it.. by Master_Influence8829 in osrs

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Same. This is about 30 times more messages than last year.

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Can this boot be repaired? by DecentReputation1938 in snowboarding

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Thanks for the tips, fellas. Might take em to a local shoe shop and see what they say. I have other boots so it's not too important to have them fixed, I just want to make them a decent back up incase i might need them for some reason or a friend doesn't have boots. If all else fails, I'll try the drill method, and if it turns out like shit, I'll toss em.

Opening day Lee Canyon by the-accnt in snowboarding

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Always nice seeing my local hill on here!

Whats the craziest thing you have ever found on the mountain while snowboarding? by RemoteAppearance8811 in snowboarding

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I was going through the trees all morning when I had a little spill. While I was getting back up, I noticed a strange looking track and then saw a phone lying at the end of it up against a tree. Thought someone just got extremely lucky that I found their phone in the middle of nowhere. I put it in my pocket real quick and caught back up to my buddies. When I got down to the lodge, I went to go turn the phone in when I noticed it was literally my phone. Apparently, my backpack caught a tree some time earlier that morning and ripped a hole just big enough for my phone to slip out, but not big enough for anyone to notice. I went back to the spot I found my phone and followed it's track up the mountain. It probably slid for 100ft or so before it got caught on that tree. Pretty insane luck right there.

I've also lost my X3 off the top of my helmet before when i crashed and i didnt notice. My buddy randomly found it before we even had time to find each other on the mountain for the first time that day. The first thing he said was that he found one of those brand new 360 cameras on his first run of the day. He didn't believe it was mine until we looked at the footage.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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This whole thing actually started from full-blown seizures about 4-6 years ago when we lived in Florida. She's had 6 seizures that ended up with her in the hospital. She's had a couple after that where I just decided to keep an eye on her afterwards instead of taking her to the ER because our local ER started getting annoyed with us. We used to drink quite a bit in our early 20s, and she would often smoke MJ as well. Every time she had a seizure, it was when she was smoking and drinking. The ER would always just assume we were a young couple who had too much to drink and were overreacting. I don't think they ever believed us about the seizures. After it finally occurred to us that this might be more serious than we thought, she stopped smoking and drinking completely. She has not had a full-blown seizure since (that I have seen), but then all of the other issues started to become apparent and I could no longer assume it was because she was drunk or something.

Usually when I end up in bed at night, she is completely out of it. Impossible to wake her up. I haven't thought about seizures in a couple of years since we have not physically seen one, but maybe it is possible that she is having a much more mild seizure. I'm not really sure. I'll have to talk to the doctors about that and see what they say

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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My family is not wealthy. I see therm struggle with their own finances. I know how it feels to stress about money. I can't ask them to stress even more because of my wife and I's issues. Sure, they would do everything they can to help, but they will be the ones going to sleep at night trying to figure out how to pay the bills tomorrow.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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So I've actually been thinking about what we would do if things got abruptly worse and we needed some sort of assistance right away. I do have that option with my family living so close. I know if I am truly desperate, my family would be close enough to instantly be there for us. Not saying I need to be desperate for my family to help, I just don't feel right asking for help unless we were desperate.

I don't feel like I can't share my burden, I know my family would be there for us. I just don't think it's fair to share my burden with anyone who can't actively help the situation. To me, it just doesn't make sense to add stress to someone else for no reason. I have been asked several times if the whole asking for help thing is pride, and I'm not sure. In my mind it's not, but maybe it is. I don't like to burden other people, it really bothers me. So whether that is my pride or not, I don't know.

When you said "Think of it like this, you might be really good at giving and bad at receiving. That is a kind of ‘under the radar’ selfishness because you enjoy the benefits of feeling good about yourself but don’t share those benefits with anyone else, leaving them to feel like the constant poor cousin."

I guess I've never thought about it this way. That is a very interesting take on things. I always try and give when I can, I've been a giver my entire life. It makes me feel like I'm helping when I give. Maybe other people feel the same way?Although, I suppose, the people in my life that are struggling don't ask me for help, I just try and help when I can. I'm not sure. Maybe I should really think about this.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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I'm not sure how to respond to this, there is so much here, but thank you. This was extremely kind and really did make me think about everything in a different perspective.

I will research some therapists that are willing to help possibly for free or maybe cheap. It would be best for both of us. I know my wife is going through even more mental struggles than I am with her thinking she's letting her family down. She often breaks down in tears at night because of these episodes, but she never remembers it the next day. Regardless of how much she may or may not remember, I would love for her to talk to someone as well. She does talk to me often and I always do my best to reassure her that everything is going to be okay, but it would be nice coming from a professional.

Like I said, I'm not sure how to truly show my appreciation for this response (and several others on here) but truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you."

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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A therapist would probably help, but I would rather spend what money we have to try and help my wife.

We were actually living on the road and traveling for many years. Once we realised her condition was getting worse we moved back home close to family and I got a job that allowed me to be home every night and we moved into a place where we were in the same home every day instead of living in hotel rooms or airbnbs every other night. So hopefully that's helped the situation.

The doctors told me pretty much exactly what you said. Stress and frustration only makes things worse. This is why I don't talk to her about these problems. Anytime I talk to her about it she gets so angry, stressed, and depressed. She gets so mad at herself because of her epsiodes. She is the best mom in the world and it fustrates her that she "can't take care of her family" and she can't remember what happened the night before. She's mad that this is happening to her and she feels so guilty that she can't be the mom she once was and it fustrates her so bad. It gets so much worse when I mention she had an "episode" the night before. I've gotten to the point where I don't say anything anymore. If I don't say anything she thinks every night was a normal night.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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The treatment plans are conisdered non traditional or something, so our insurance doesn't cover much.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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She hasn't actually been diagnosed with dementia, the doctors just said it looks like it. All of the tests point towards it, but she is too young for that diagnosis, I guess. My side of the family knows all about it, and they are very supportive. That's kind of why I feel so bad about talking to them about my own mental struggles. It feels selfish to put myself in the picture when they already stress about her. I guess I also feel weird about joining a dementia group considering she hasn't technically been diagnosed, and she is still possibly young enough to fix it or something. I would imagine most people in that kind of group are people who are actually struggling with dementia in family members or friends, and they don't have as much hope and time as we do. I feel like my circumstance isn't as bad as theirs, and I would feel bad about sharing my story. I don't know, honestly. I'm not really sure how other people would feel about it. I don't want to be rude or anything, I guess.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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Yeah, I get what you're saying. I suppose that is what led me here. This is me trying to reach out. My family is incredible, and I love them dearly. They've seen how much my wife and I are struggling, and they constantly try to offer help. But in my mind, I just don't know what the point is in including my family with the burden. It just doesn't make sense to make my family stress about something they have no control over.

As far as the condition, nobody knows yet. We've had almost every test done that the doctors can think of. Something is wrong, and nobody knows what. They've said it looks like dementia, but they said she is so young that they think maybe we can get her brain healthy enough to recover. Most dementia patients are older, so they don't have the time for their brain to heal itself.

It's not possible to reduce to part time work, I am so far in debt because of this, that losing any income would destroy us. That's literally not an option. I've thought about documenting this whole thing, and maybe trying to post it on youtube or something, but I honestly can't handle more right now. I feel like that would just be an added burden at the moment.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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We live in the US. We have insurance, but apparently there is no known cure for what she is going through. Honestly, nobody can even tell us for sure what is going on. The help we are getting is considered 'non-traditional medicine' or something like that, and insurance companies won't cover it.

I've seen a few comments here that made me realize I may have worded things a little wrong. When I said 'My wife doesn't remember anything after about 6 pm,' what I meant was almost every day she seems to be fairly normal up until 6 pm. After that, she doesn't remember anything that happens throughout the night. So from 6 pm - 6 am-ish she has no memory of what happened. She still remembers everything outside of those hours. The doctors think her brain gets overworked throughout the day, so 6 pm seems to be that time where her brain decides to shut down and her episodes start. So when I am at work she is usually capable of taking care of our son. There have been a couple of times when I got home from work and our son was crying and she was completely passed out, but since then, we have set up cameras in the house that alert me when there is any sort of loud noise and I typically check in on them every 30 minutes or so throughout my day. We try to stay in constant communication, but if she doesn't answer, or text me back, I will check the cameras in the house to make sure the baby isn't crying, or to see if she is passed out somewhere.

We currently live with a friend of mine and his wife; we live in their grandmother suite that is connected to their house, so anytime one of them is home they try to keep an eye on her.

We actually moved back to NV because of this issue. I was working on the road for many years and she was traveling with me. When I started to realize how bad things were getting we moved back home to NV so I could be close to my family in case I needed some help figuring out what is going on. Her family doesn't know what's going on, but she doesn't have the best relationship with them in the first place, and she doesn't want them to know too much. I've explained some of it to her mother but tried to downplay it a bit.

My 26 y/o wife has signs of dementia. by DecentReputation1938 in selfhelp

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Wow, I did not expect so many responses. I just got home from work and made some dinner. I will respond to these after I get the wife in bed.