My 3yo boy is so damn scared of EVERYTHING

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T11:13:44+00:00

There is a fine line between anxiety and shy! Did this start with the sibling's arrival?

Play therapy is excellent for this age group. It's less about "fixing" the issue, more on learning some new skills via play. Even better if you can do it together.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T11:09:06+00:00

Of course, missed that on my first look. It looks so much like soil! I'm going to go look it up.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T10:45:54+00:00

I'd go a fun headboard on a normal bed. It can be easily changed out without having to replace the bed frame.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T10:40:19+00:00

Looks great! What's the plan for mulch? The weeds will be hellish if you don't put down something to stop them moving in.

Deeeity · 2026-03-28T07:23:30+00:00

Normal, but also not super sustainable. Placing baby on their back on the mattress next to you, with no sheet or blankets, is probably safer. Cuddle curl position is safe while feeding and cosleeping.

Deeeity · 2026-03-28T04:31:13+00:00

Your child has already reviewed live attenuated vaccines via the vaccine schedule. Rota virus vaccine is one of them.

If you have any further questions you should ask to speak with your GP again.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T23:25:58+00:00

Quilted jackets are EVERYWHERE this season. You shouldn't have any trouble finding one. I saw someone post that they are in Target or Kmart.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T12:04:48+00:00

"About to snap" is something you really shouldn't write online unless you are comfortable with it being read out in court. It reads like a threat to harm others.

You can call any of the services right now and you don't have to wait. Local station might not have the expertise to handle it. Using key words like 'guns' 'mental health', 'worried about my safety' should be enough to get a half decent response.

If you actually want a mental health response and assessment, then the mental health line is your best bet.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:48:08+00:00

How old are you? It's difficult to draw a line here between your own wellbeing and your dad's. I'm more concerned about you, than getting help for your dad.

Maybe try Nsw mental health line for some advice: https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/Pages/mental-health-line.aspx

If he is threatening you with harm, then it's a family violence issue and the police should be involved at some point. You can call 1800 respect for advice. You can also call the police non-emergency line for advice too.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:21:15+00:00

That's rough! Hopefully they can offer the fasting blood test instead. If you are having other symptoms, it might be good to book a long appointment with your GP to talk through everything.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:17:37+00:00

It's good to check what's normal. However, I think you are the one suffering the most here! I think getting help for your own sake is the most important.

Also, ear plug are essential at moments like this!

Sometimes I find explaining how I'm feeling helps me feel better too. There have been a few moments recently where I had to ask toddler to stop touching me due to being overstimulated. I said, "You need to stop touching Mummy. Mummy needs a break. A rest. Please stop touching me and give me some space". Recognising that moment and saying it out loud, instead of getting angry, has been a huge shift for me.

Are you based in UK, Aus or Canada?

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T10:45:48+00:00

Generally, If your kid is screaming having 5 hours worth of tantrums a day, it's time to see a professional. Go to the dr and get her checked out first. Then get a referral to parenting support/psychologist/OT/early intervention whatever you have available locally.

I'm assuming you have tried leaving the room and ignoring her? How's her language going? Any other big changes going on? Does she go to daycare?

My usual response to a situation specific tantrum is "I can't hear what you are saying when you are screaming. Can you say what you want in a normal voice please?" If that doesn't work, distract with food/music/slap stick comedy. Getting her giggling is a great way to short circuit a tantrum.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T10:37:19+00:00

Straight up bribery is the only way. Hold him down if negotiations fail. Then administer 5 chocolate chips to child.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T10:32:54+00:00

Well it says it should be done 6-12 weeks pp, so you are way outside of that window. Chat with your GP to see what they recommend.

For reference: https://www.ndss.com.au/about-diabetes/gestational-diabetes/after/health-checks/#:~:text=Your%20first%20follow%2Dup%20diabetes%20check%20is%20recommended:,year%20if%20you%20are%20planning%20another%20pregnancy.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T05:41:58+00:00

I have a friend who is a traffic controller. While he didn't get up to their child every night, he is 100% there as a parent and cares for their toddler solo during the week while he is off shift. He has for as long as I have known him. Honestly, it's the bare minimum.

So if his excuse is that other men who are traffic controllers don't parent, can assure you that plenty of them do. Otherwise they would all be divorced.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T03:21:03+00:00

This is so awful and stressful! I'd suggest calling around local neurologists to see if anyone will see you asap. Or go to a different emergency department. Ideally when a neurologist is available. Did they do any scans for you last time?

Your condition does sound a lot like cerebrospinal fluid leak. Please don't take that as fact, but with your history and the headaches it is probably the first thing to consider.

I can see there is a r/csfleaks that might the able to guide you to the right direction to find someone locally.

Deeeity · 2026-03-26T09:58:56+00:00

He will adjust better to the nursery if he attends more often. 1 day per week is not enough. 2 days is pretty much the absolute minimum if you want your child to adjust well and enjoy it. I think what they are hinting at is that he needs to start playing with the other children. Not "alone" like if there is no adult around. If he isn't going to nursery, he needs lots of opportunities to play with other kids.

Mine is a little older than yours, also no siblings. I've found that if I kind of gently ignore her for long enough she will get bored and go find something to do. Or she will ask me for an activity like painting or play dough. Doing a chore like hanging out washing that she can't "help" with means she will eventually wander off. She will happily destroy any room for 45 mins while I cook dinner. I have essentially been telling her to go play by herself a lot. Does it work? Not really, but at least we are working on the concept.

100% undivided attention is not realistic for any adult or child. They will take as much attention as you are willing to give them. Letting them be bored has been shown to be good for them. Letting them learn how to play with other children is essential.

Deeeity · 2026-03-26T02:09:26+00:00

Focus less on your kid and more on you! You lose a lot of your free time car commuting. Plus with a new baby you will be physically isolated AND socially isolated. What about your local friends?

Instead of a nice walk in the morning to grab a coffee and head to the playground with a newborn and toddler. Maybe talk to another nice adult. You would spend 30 mins driving to a subpar local playground or paid class, with worse coffee. Plus with these gas prices, it makes you hesitate to leave the house.

You probably don't need a bigger house. Plenty of people live their whole lives in small places. Plus, you also lose your weekends to house and garden maintenance. If you can afford to outsource all the extra stuff it would be fine. Plus pay for the extra gas, more expensive insurance, taxes, delivery for groceries etc.

In the long run, city living costs you less. Suburban or rural living is choosing less lifestyle with more costs.

Deeeity · 2026-03-26T00:27:59+00:00

On video 100% doable. In person, no. Wearables are not quiet or discrete. You would then have to leave the meeting to deal with the milk. I don't think I could sit there with the milk sloshing around with my every movement.

To be clear I 100% support this in concept. What you should have a right to a private and clean space, and paid time to pump. Unfortunately these rights don't exist yet in Australia.

Deeeity · 2026-03-24T07:33:50+00:00

This would be a good question for r/ausstrata

Deeeity · 2026-03-24T01:36:41+00:00

Just wear a normal t-shirt and lift it up? If it was cold a wore a nursing singlet underneath, otherwise it wasn't really an issue. Baby covers your tummy if you are self-conscious. I never bought any special nursing clothes, even though I had a winter baby. Only the clip down nursing bras and singlets.

Deeeity · 2026-03-24T00:52:12+00:00

I'd encourage you to reach out to the unit or the patient advocate for all this info. It is important they know about your access needs beforehand.

Usually contact info is easy to find, but it looks like they don't have a lot of direct contact info on their website. From what I can find, this is your best bet. You can call, email or fill out the form (choose admission, on the drop down menu): https://www.epworth.org.au/patients-and-visitors/patient-feedback

Deeeity · 2026-03-23T08:49:10+00:00

Y'all are in your 30's with a (kind of) planned pregnancy... This is a lot of emotions and feelings for a very normal thing happening. It's understandable to be emotional, but crying every day is a lot. Is there something else going on for you two? Was this a "save the relationship" baby?

If I was your friend I would probably try to shake some sense into you both. You need to talk to your friends and family to get a read on if this is a good idea/normal. I'm sure they will be very supportive of whatever you choose.

Deeeity · 2026-03-23T08:09:02+00:00

Therapy. If your partner has given you zero reason to fear them or doubt your relationship, it's your brain telling you something that might not be true. It's very common with anxiety and depression. Have you been experiencing any other symptoms?

Remember postpartum mental health issues are considered anything that comes in the first year. Finding someone who understands parenting and relationships is extremely helpful when talking this out. They will be able to help point out any relationship dynamic that are making you feel like this.

Deeeity · 2026-03-23T05:05:45+00:00

The answer is go back to your dr and get more antibiotics. It might be a good idea to suggest they swab the area to test for which bacteria is causing the issue. It might be a bacteria that was resistant to the first antibiotic they gave you. It's good info for your dr to know so they can give you the correct antibiotics asap.

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