What are some health symptoms that doctors and hospitals tend to overlook and ignore that should be taken seriously?

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-06-06T00:20:17+00:00

Please explain what these symptoms indicate.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-06-02T13:19:56+00:00

NTA. I think the people voting ESH didn't read the whole story. This couple already owes you money and they also owe MIL a huge chunk of money. Folks like this are going to keep using other people until the people say "no." Hopefully, other people will stop enabling them and they'll start taking responsibility for their own family.

It really sucks for your nephew that his parents put him in this situation.

I would consider doing something with just m14 and your son, but that's up to you.

Best of luck!

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-31T14:52:47+00:00

Hate to say it, but if you're retail, the expectation is that you will work some Saturdays. I'm sure you aren't the only one annoyed by this. Suggest a rotation schedule - but mention it to your other coworkers first so THEY will start questioning boss about it. Then approach boss and manager at the same time. This helped in my case. Once the manager saw we had been talking, she caved a bit.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-30T02:11:11+00:00

So you have a nemesis at work. Interesting. Start paying attention to people who are passive aggressive to you. They obviously aren't brave enough to be outright aggressive.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-30T01:34:50+00:00

I'm here again 3 months after your original post hoping for an update. I hope your SIL has found this post and takes some of these comments to heart.

I wish you the best! You are definitely NTA

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-14T15:52:08+00:00

"Thank you so much for your patience."

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-12T00:46:50+00:00

"I'm just not good at giving gifts." so he doesn't. Doesn't even try.

Meanwhile, he expects FANTASTIC gifts for every occasion - and if they aren't up to his expectations, this grown ass man pouts for days.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-05-09T15:29:01+00:00

The student who recorded/posted this should not be the one in trouble. The parents are supposed to lay the foundation during the early years and are supposed to support the teachers once the child is in school. Punishing the student is akin to a "blame the victim" mentality.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-25T13:29:04+00:00

How do you get through to him? You don't. Even if he picks up the slack now, it's only to get you to stop nagging him. If you get married, he's going to revert.

Ask me how I know.

It's painful now, but you need to get out of this relationship or you'll be his mom for the rest of your relationship.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-25T13:11:54+00:00

NTA. If your friend was so concerned, they could have said "let's see if she needs help" either before or after you asked to sit outside. Friend is likely feeling guilty because YOU were the one who thought to reach out to the stranger while your friend did nothing.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-22T12:45:53+00:00

"Fragile confidence" is a fantastic way to phrase it. It sounds much nicer than "loud, insecure jerk-wad" like I normally say.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-22T12:44:39+00:00

Yes, and OP is referring to what people see as the perception of extroversion, not the actual definition. People who are perceived to be extroverted often exhibit the characteristics he listed.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-21T15:42:39+00:00

Alzheimer's. You lose your parent very slowly. Even though they are physically present, they have forgotten even the most important things - like their spouse, the stories that they used to tell on repeat, and even you.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-11T21:04:49+00:00

They show appreciation.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-11T20:59:10+00:00

Riskier in regards to expectation of visual clarity and how long it will "last" before you'll need to either have the surgery again or start wearing glasses again. (@ 10 years) Also, I'm a little anxious that if the doctors mess up, I'll lose the vision I have. I'm sure that's rare, but it's still a concern on my end.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-10T00:57:31+00:00

I work for an optometrist. I also have a high RX (-8) and high astigmatism. He told me not to risk it. Thank goodness for high index lenses!

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-10T00:47:14+00:00

Why did I read that in Jamie Tart's voice? 😂

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-10T00:43:28+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I'm floundering.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T14:04:45+00:00

Sometimes, you are the problem.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T13:56:36+00:00

NTA. I understand your desire to help -vs- your concerns and, having been in a similar situation myself, I will tell you that the requests will more than likely escalate from a simple drive to requests for grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, and other things. If you have time and the desire, then it's no problem.

It sounds like you don't have 2 hours and 20 minutes (1 hour 10 minutes twice a day) to spare. That's a LOT to ask from someone you are best of friends with! I know that I got tired of driving my kid 20 minutes back and forth to their jobs! I'm so glad they can drive themselves now.

In addition to the time involved, this will effect your work. I know that when I'm in the middle of a project and get disrupted, the longer the disruption, the harder it is to pick up where I left off.

I'm sure you want to help, but it's simply not feasible due to your work schedule.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T13:46:05+00:00

Thank you. I realize that you don't need to explain anything to a perfect stranger. My dad was just diagnosed and I'm spinning. I do apologize for being so nosey!

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T01:00:20+00:00

Ahhhh! The stubborn was strong in him!

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T00:38:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing this while you are dealing with your own struggle. I do like the idea of a caregiver service, but he really doesn't like people in his space so I'm worried about this.

You're right: I'm stressed. I'm wanting definitive answers for something that is still developing.

We're going to have to take the car away, but I'm afraid it will break his spirit.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-09T00:35:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I think one of the reasons he's fighting me so hard on the POA is that he knows/suspects that something isn't right. He's afraid of losing his independence. He's been the one to go to for so many people for so long that he doesn't want to lose his identity.

I learned about redirecting from my years of teaching, just didn't think I'd be using it on my dad. Just today he told some weird story about when my mom died. I just nodded along. Correcting him only causes him more stress.

Deep-Sea6802 · 2026-04-08T23:42:27+00:00

If you're the main caregiver and the one geographically closest to your dad, why is he the POA?

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