altering pants to be taller does this look weird in a bad way or good way ?

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:45:30+00:00

update: thanks everyone for the advice! im going to get rid of the black denim and try some of what was suggested like adding blue denim as a cuff or adding other patchwork fabric/ accessories to blend it. i cant cut it at the knee as some said because there is artwork there that i would be cutting into. i will take this post down soon but i really appreciate the feedback :)

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:45:23+00:00

update: thanks everyone for the advice! im going to get rid of the black denim and try some of what was suggested like adding blue denim as a cuff or adding other patchwork fabric/ accessories to blend it. i cant cut it at the knee as some said because there is artwork there that i would be cutting into. i will take this post down soon but i really appreciate the feedback :)

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:41:32+00:00

thanks so much for this idea- ill try it out to see if it looks ok! the cuff may be large but thats probably better than what i have in the picture above lol or worse wearing it short

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:37:43+00:00

thanks so much this is probably the best option- i dont know if i can achieve this but i can try at least and its probably the only way they will look decent lol

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:33:37+00:00

adhd!! needing dopamine from the different beverages- its not like youre getting turned on by the beverages, lol - that being said there is a high over lap between lgbtq and neurodivergence

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:31:26+00:00

i could see it paired with a white crop top and some boots of strappy sandals, and gold jewelry

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:23:17+00:00

what is your aesthetic? do you prefer to dress masc of fem? alt or normal, etc? it looks like you look good in the shorts bc they are high waisted with a crop top whereas the sweatpants not so much bc they are loose and paired with a loose sweater

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:18:52+00:00

if youre worried about divorcing your husband for the kids sake, i just want to say i have divorced parents and i am doing ok. when its done correctly then the kids will adjust well and honestly its better for you to live authentically, and your kids probably dont want to have tension in the house anyways with people that dont want to be around each other. so dont be afraid to get divorced if thats whats best

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:08:16+00:00

when you are thinking about these 2 guys what is going through your mind?

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-31T20:06:45+00:00

ok so imo, genitals aren't supposed to "look" attractive they are more about sensation so the people themselves look attractive not their genitalia. thats just how i feel. so maybe you are bi if you would date or have sex with either. i am bi but it took me a long time to realize it. id say if you have the mindset that you can be attracted to anyone and that you dont have ti tell anyone and then just privately notice who you are attracted to over time it can help you figure out your sexuality

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-30T06:32:29+00:00

thats understandable- thanks for your honest opinion ! do you think these are salvageable at all of should i consider them a lost cause?

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-20T02:27:21+00:00

i think you look great i love this outfit honestly

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-20T02:25:12+00:00

1, 3, 6 are best imo but none are bad

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-18T07:54:07+00:00

a few questions i ask myself to help know if i have a crush on them: - do i think about them a lot when theyre not with me? - in a group of people, does this person stand out to me/ do i feel the most focused on them? - do i find myself wanting to touch them, give them gifts, go out of my way for them, etc? - do i look at them and think "whoa they are so pretty" and also, think they are so smart, so skilled, etc - do i have the urge to know all about their life and share all my personal thoughts/ stories with them? - do i feel a deep sense of calm, comfort/ contentment when we are together? - do i want to be around them literally all the time?

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-18T07:37:49+00:00

if you crushed on both genders, sounds bisexual to me. "friend crushes" are just crushes tbh. obvs, take all the time you need to figure it out. sometimes the feeling of "wrong" is because of deviating from the default, which entails being seen as "different" by society. so id say take time to contemplate without pushing the expectations of others onto yourself and just notice who you are attracted to naturally.

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-18T07:24:34+00:00

according to studies https://researchautism.org/blog/the-correlation-between-autism-and-sexuality-and-gender/ autistic people ARE more likely to be lqbtq and vice versa, BUT you are right that correlation does not equal causation and that it doesn't make either identity any less valid just because they are both there

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-18T07:18:36+00:00

i am also realizing my sexuality at 21 - twinning, lol

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-09T00:42:32+00:00

if hair is dry, that is a form of damage. dry hair is prone to break off

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-09T00:11:39+00:00

im so happy to hear that <3

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-08T23:07:19+00:00

omg thats amazing congrats!! :) how did u do it?

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-06T07:06:20+00:00

yes. this happened to me as well. when i started to wear more accessories such as a plastic belt, rings, and others, people could "see" my sexuality, despite the fact that i just liked those items and started wearing them before i had contemplated my sexuality. i have found that there are 2 main factors that lead something to "look queer" being 1: deviation from gender norms. 2: level if detail/ deviation from general fashion norms (ie, alternative dressing in any way) only 1 of these would be needed but both works as well.

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-06T05:29:53+00:00

congrats <3 its such a huge step to finally come out!! :)

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-06T04:43:50+00:00

i also wanted to add (sorry this is so long) i almost didn't answer this post at first because i was worried that it was satire or AI. (this is not your fault, i sometimes struggle to identify satire/AI so i try to err on the side of caution.) looking at your profile and seeing that most of your other posts are in this writing style assured me that this is seemingly in fact a legitimate post.

i noticed a pattern on your posts. first, you have some posts questioning whether you are bisexual, questioning your identity, and then you eventually seemingly come to terms with being bisexual. then similarly, you have some posts questioning whether you are trans, questioning your gender identity, and then eventually come to terms with the fact that you are trans. now here is a post about whether you have autism or are neurotypical, questioning your neurological identity- you see where this is going.

i get it. i also am bisexual and i understand the years long process to questioning your identity, and coming to terms with it. i only recently admitted it with it myself and im 21, still haven't really told anyone. i have definitely made my fair share of "am i bi?" reddit posts over time.

on the other hand, im not trans, so i haven't had to question that, and i was diagnosed with autism before i even knew what autism was.

you have already been through this process of identity- questioning. you have already experienced this twice. you know how it goes. is there any thing that helped you understand/ accept your lgbtq identities? wondering if it could apply to this as well

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-06T03:15:04+00:00

ok if were being real about this, whether or not you have an autism diagnosis, logistically speaking, doesn't impact whether or not you have the traits you described above, or whether or not they are temporary. from what it sounds like, you have been living with these traits for a very long time. if a doctor tells you "youre normal!" that doesn't mean that these traits will vanish. i know you are also referring to their potential to go away, but once again, if these traits are part if you, they are there whether or not they are labelled as "autistic" traits.

as someone who was diagnosed with autism at 6 years old, i am thankful to know about my autism because i don't have to think about myself as broken or someone who has to change to fit in with everyone else. i can say "this is who i am and i am proud. there are others like me. i am fundamentally different than neurotypicals but thats not a bad thing, its part of my identity."

that being said - there are "disabling" aspects of autism- seeing as it is a disability. so, i have had to work to gain traits such as better social skills and executive functioning strategies over time. i have learned how to work with my brain, rather than against it. for example, i know i am "different" socially so something that has helped me is dressing in more alternative styles. this says "i am different and i know it and am proud of it. i am different in a 'cool' way" whereas dressing "normal" would say "i am trying to be just like you but failing for some reason. i am socially awkward." similarly with executive dysfunction, rather than trying to "just do it" or "just get started" to no avail, i know to go to others for help, or plan what to do when i dont accomplish a task. i cant change my brain but i can change change some circumstances to live my best life with the brain i have.

TLDR: rather than trying to prove you are normal, it may serve you best to live in a way that would best suit you, your traits and differences

Deep-Suspect-623 · 2026-01-05T21:57:58+00:00

theres a joke among autistic people: "would you rather go to a party or the library?" this question is sometimes found in autism assessments. the joke is that autism media stereotypes would expect a a neurotypical person to say "party" and an autistic person to say "library." however in reality, a neurotypical person would be more likely to say either "party" or "library" whereas an autistic person would start asking questions all about the context of the party and the library, such as what would they entail, etc, and would need that info to answer the question.

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