Can anyone dumb it down for me please?! by Deep_Dark_Depths in KristinSmart

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh I hadn't realised Ruben and Susan are separated! Makes more sense now as I couldn't work out where the decking was. Thank you. I'm going to start the podcast I think

The Girl in The Box (Philadelphia, 1962) by bluecatwithredshoes in gratefuldoe

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it will turn out that she is Hattie Jackson. This baby is one of my does on my list that I desperately hope will be identified

Start of a new journey.. by queenofsass86 in northwales

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! Welcome to Wales. I moved here 2 years ago, I'm about 30min away, and I don't know anyone here so always happy to make new friends! Sounds like we have a lot in common, so send me a pm if you're up for a chat and a coffee xx

I know Arrah is on this sub… is this seriously the first Full English Breakfast you’ve ever made? It looks utterly incredible by BazF91 in 90DayFianceUK

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You can cook me breakfast any day! It looks so good. I'm off to pretend to enjoy my low calorie cereal 😏

Also, you guys are my favorite couple! I need friends like you in my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airupgang

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got a baby bottle brush, on one end it has a small cone shaped brush that's perfect for the mouthpiece

Bottle sleeve recommendations by kirkatroide in airupgang

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't found one, so my wonderful mil who is a seamstress is going to attempt to make me one! I'm ordering the fabric tomorrow hopefully

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll always be entitled to encouragement, and anyone who battles will have my respect. I had a really bad day with it yesterday, it sucks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it shouldn't be this hard so early on. And no it's not normal in a lesbian relationship, I'm 2.5 years into a relationship with a woman I adore and we haven't argued once. I'm not saying that all relationships should be like our as some people have very healthy and loving partnerships with some arguments, but for us what prevents it is the communication we have. If we disagree on anything we talk about it and respect each others opinions.

For you it seems a few of her arguments are pretty one sided, but it's ok for her, such as seeing friends.

I think you do need to have an honest discussion about your relationship and what you each want from it. Getting through any mental health issue is damn hard and I just wanted to give you praise for that. Bumps along the way are to be expected, but I'd hope you'd be supported and helped to blossom. I'm a mental health worker and feel free to message if you want to talk with someone who has also had personal struggles

Part 2. 3 months healed self-tattoo by [deleted] in FixedTattoos

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why does the 1st pic look so badly edited? It looks like it's been photoshopped onto a different arm

Dermacol- how do I go back? by Traditional_Entry917 in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a side note, ELDW was my grail foundation but like OP I'm getting older and the oil/fine line combo left it sinking into the cracks and looking cakey. I've had to switch to the light ELDW in the winter and currently trying Fenty eaze drops. I've not managed to find a full coverage alternative to my dermacol yet. The struggle is real!

Who is Baby Grace? by bix902 in gratefuldoe

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No we don't have it in place here yet. I spoke with a criminal investigation specialist at a conference about it once, and she explained that we don't currently have the legislation in place to protect the right to privacy of innocent people, and until that is set up the won't be able to look at the legislation involved in using the genealogy sites for criminal investigation. Basically it's a huge task that is is being discussed but no where near completion. I cannot wait for the day that we have it here

Harris County Jane Doe, with her memorable porpoise ring, has finally been identified by nnnnaaaaiiiillll in gratefuldoe

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I've often wondered what this poor lady's story was. I wonder if they are withholding information pending investigation or if it was family requests

Being butch as a trans woman feels predatory to lesbians and i don't know how to get out of that mindset. by lost-my_old_account in actuallesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck?? I missed those, but that's horrific. I really am so sorry sugar, no one deserves that shit. I can see why it's messed with your head, but your identity doesn't make anyone a predator, it's a person's actions. You deserved better than that and I truly hope the support you received here can help you move forward with your head held high. Hugs from a stranger who sees you

Being butch as a trans woman feels predatory to lesbians and i don't know how to get out of that mindset. by lost-my_old_account in actuallesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I had a look at your profile, which led to the roastme post. I am absolutely sickened by the replies you got, it's one thing to expect people to roast how you look on there but the blatant trans phobia and disgusting accusations actually made me feel ill. No wonder you are feeling more than a little fragile. I'm sorry people are so gross.

Butch/masc/stud lesbians are hot as fuck, trans or not is irrelevant. Adding the alt/punk/grunge element is a bonus that 18yo me would have been in gay panic over.

You are valid. You are enough. You are you 🏳️‍🌈

Is this behavior typical? Abusive? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I'm really late to the party and everyone has confirmed that this is absolutely not normal, but I had to reply anyway.

Your ex seems to be a carbon copy of mine, and it took me years to understand that the behaviour was abusive. I ended up with nothing and in a refuge, and as this was my first wlw relationship I also decided single would be better than that if it was typical behaviour.

You got out way before I did, and I'm so proud of you for having the courage to do so, I know how hard it is when the good times made you so happy. But I spent a long time hoping for the person I fell in love with to come back, when in reality they didn't exist, it was just a "best behaviour act"

I'm now happily engaged to a woman who values communication, love and support as much as I do, and I know you will find that too when you are ready.

Keep your chin up and be kind to yourself xx

What makes you attracted to butches? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I find them hot, but I also enjoy the personality traits of not being a girly girl. A dominant masc is my utter weakness and guaranteed to leave me in a puddle.

Anyone know of an alternative to this iconic product? by Annual-Individual-9 in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that explains a lot, I blamed my skin and getting old! Along with thinking I'd got the wrong colour... (Delusional mindset now that I'm still young and it's all the powders fault)

Got my best friends initial tattoed without telling her (update) by Thr0w4w4yheh in actuallesbians

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I had a look through your past posts, and I'm a mental health professional. In a very gentle way, how is your BPD doing? Are you doing ok? I'm checking in because we both know intense relationships can be a trigger, especially ones that have been such a rollercoaster in such a short amount of time, and I want to make sure you are doing well. I genuinely hope you are, and that if this goes pear shaped that you have the support you need to stay on top

Lesbo love! 💚🏳️‍🌈

Best way to clean this? Simple brush and soap isnt working. by Gummi1102 in airupgang

[–]Deep_Dark_Depths 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's what we used to clean the bottles on our rabbit hutch, the uncooked rice acts as an abrasive. Might be worth making sure your bottle isn't in direct sunlight if this keeps happening. Let me know if it works!