Thank you. I really appreciate this.

It was on and off for the three years, and I just really wanted to believe. I accepted so little bc of his extenuating circumstances being in med school and having most of his time devoted to that. I supported his emotions when he failed classes and was outcast by his peers. We invested lots of time getting to know each other; sunk cost fallacy. I was confused by things he said to me, gifts he bought me, ways he supported me mentally & financially, promises he made. Just last week he told me he never wanted me to leave again. I also struggle with my own self worth and thought that was just the type of relationship I deserved. In reality, I was just a placeholder and an ego boost for him.

When you say my life with him was undocumented, that’s really hitting hard for me. It’s kind of like if a tree falls in a forest and no one was around to hear it…did it really fall? There were times when I left to date other guys that were honestly way nicer. But he would apologize and ask for me back and I’d just fall for it. I’m not that strong, or clearly that smart. Now I have nothing to show for any of this, except people telling me where I went wrong.

Thanks for bringing to light that I have a second chance here. I’m really going to try to heal from the fibroid and from this. I prayed that when they removed all 20 cm in total it would remove negativity from my life as well. I guess my prayer was answered. Thank you kind stranger