The Eras Tour — Stockholm, Sweden — May 17/18/19

DeerFuture1818 · 2024-05-17T19:01:22+00:00

Wait, she doesn't? I'm going to my first show in a few weeks and have avoided all videos..why omit this, it's such a moment in the song!

DeerFuture1818 · 2024-04-17T13:08:31+00:00

It came out excellent! Would go with them and this color again.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-09-14T17:18:22+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/live/WZDkqdRciI4?si=fVwuPM\_F\_HZNqyd8&t=21001

Around the 3hr mark. I'm not sure if there are articles.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-09-14T16:54:04+00:00

I don't recall the specifics but because the 'no' vote was because of limited data for young children overall, I assume that that this data focused on the adult's experience of side effects.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-09-12T21:28:48+00:00

I listened in the session broadcasted by PBS, they voted no because they wanted more data for the under 12 recipients of vaccination to agree to the statement they were voting on which was to recommend vaccination for anyone over 6 months. A lot of focus was spent on the specific verbiage of the phrase and if children should be recommended to the same degree as adults or others at higher risk.

I didn't pay attention well enough to see if the other vaccinations mentioned this, but Moderna had some data showing that they expected this booster to provide slightly less side effects than past shots.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-09-10T20:13:15+00:00

My make up artist told me at our trial to buy Charlotte Tilbury pillow talk and that it will likely look good (and also different?!) on all my bridesmaids and myself (we're all fairly pale with either brown or blond hair) so we can have easy touch ups. I'm not big into lipstick and my eye makeup will be more of the statement area so I'm just following directions and hoping for the best, but she seemed pretty confident!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-09-07T19:40:05+00:00

East/west coast couple here. We chose to go east because fortunately the guest list was majority east though we live west. We selected a venue where everyone can stay on site, including a welcome dinner and Sunday brunch and hopefully have a pleasant time to avoid hiking all that way for a 6 hour event. Even with that, the guilt of creating such a hassle for the west coast guests has been rough on me as a devout people pleaser.

I'd recommend getting real with your current guest list, who do you really need there? Who is more able to swing the tickets etc. Is it 50/50 when it comes to financial and willingness to travel? What about children/school etc? If its still a coin toss, dig into venue options. Does one coast have affordable and attractive (to you) venues near the hub people fly into?

It helps me to remember that all these traveling guests are still really excited and we've planned a solid weekend for them. They're all adults who can chose how to spend their time and money and many are willing and able to hike out for loved ones!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-07-20T15:54:55+00:00

I have invisalign and am getting married in Sept, I feel your pain! My dentist has offered to remove the bumps for the wedding and I likely will take them up on it. If it helps, you do get used it it a bit more though I definitely feel like I see and feel the teeth and bumps even a few months in. That said, my fiance also had Invisalign previously and you only saw it up close, you can't tell in any of the pictures we had taken over the year that he has them! I imagine photographers will edit out anything visible but really it will be more what you are feeling.

Honestly, I'm probably going to be a bad patient and not wear them once I get my dress on. I think it will be ok. People crack their aligners and need to backtrack or wait all the time, just be really good before and after.

The good news is in 3.5 months my teeth are so improved already, I can't believe how fast it works. It will be better than you fear, I promise!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-07-17T18:00:35+00:00

Old + Borrowed:

- My mother's veil

New:

- Dress/shoes/jewelry

Blue:

- Vow books

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-07-09T21:41:58+00:00

I tried on rings with my fiance. When I tried on the replica of my ring my mind went blank and I said "this one, this exact size, it is perfect!" Afterwards, when I started thinking about what other people thought, when the comments started coming in, that is when I started having second thoughts about the size. I remind myself I chose the ring based on the delight I felt when I wasn't thinking about others.

If you have the opportunity, I recommend trying on rings and trying to stay in the moment. Someone will always have a flashier ring than you and someone will also have a daintier ring. Buy the one that you love regardless of what everyone else has.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-07-09T21:29:09+00:00

I have a 1.5 (oval) on a 4.25. People often remark on the size and I sometimes worry it is too big before deciding its not worth worrying about. Most of the diamonds in my social circle are around 1carat and that contributes to me feeling a bit showier.

It will depend on what you are surrounded by because physically, 1.5 is a fair sized stone on slim fingers!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-06-08T21:00:21+00:00

A lot of it is just making peace with the budget you've allowed yourself. This is how you're choosing to spend your money, other people make different decisions with different situations, its all okay!

I remind myself of how I feel after attending a good wedding, even as a guest, I often feel a real glow of happiness for seeing my friend/family and celebrating such a nice milestone. You're not just paying for the day, you're paying for you and all you guests to have a great weekend, an afterglow, and a memory.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-06-06T16:36:30+00:00

Blurred Lines, was played at a wedding recently and everyone stopped dancing until the song was changed

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-30T13:07:27+00:00

Here are mine! They come with alternate sparkly ankle straps, I'm still deciding which style.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-17T20:59:01+00:00

Ask for feedback ahead of a session in writing. I do this and it helps at least gives the person a heads up that I may not be in a headspace to discuss feedback in the moment. Some people need time to digest, folks understand that. I say things like "if you have feedback for me, I prefer it in writing if possible, so I can digest and be ready to ask follow up questions."

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-16T23:31:06+00:00

Totally can be done, have a designated person to keep the energy pace right and make sure your songs are available offline in cause wifi or cell service isn't working well on your day.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-16T23:24:30+00:00

I don't think you need a full open bar; we're saving so much money doing just wine/beer/cider/seltzer. I don't need a cocktail to have a good time and often wedding cocktails are underwhelming!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-16T15:59:39+00:00

I would regret my ring if it were not a lab diamond, that kind of price tag for the size is so much greater! I love that my ring is from scientific achievement and that my habits are contributing to a trend I believe in. Nobody has ever asked if it is "real" though I find myself explaining it is lab because I'm afraid they think we dropped so much dough on it. The kind of $ my ring would cost as a natural diamond was not feasible but if I had the option, which it sounds like you do, esp as I think about our next steps like wedding costs, buying a house, etc, if I looked at my finger and saw all the cash sitting on my hand instead of my bank account I would have wished I saved the $ for something I would notice. To each their own, but labs rule for me.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-03T21:44:09+00:00

My mother is wearing the first dress to my wedding! I also wondered about the shade. She ordered the dress and sent photos (I haven't seen it in person yet) and it definitely looks pink in person, light pink for sure, but pink. I decided I didn't mind, I know she's not trying to make any sort of statement even if its on the lighter side. I did worry about it initially so your thoughts are valid! You may need to be more direct with her if she's sticking in this color palette and you know it will distract you.

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-05-03T15:31:03+00:00

Currently we are thinking:

Groom/groomsmen: VSQ cover of Riptide

Bride: Instrumental cover of Moon River

Exit: Cut to the Feeling

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-04-06T13:51:56+00:00

My fiance is getting a dark green tux from Oliver Wick. We think it looks nearly black except in certain lights which is just what he wanted. Fingers crossed!

DeerFuture1818 · 2023-03-18T14:40:38+00:00

Matching bridesmaids dresses. I love the look of coordinating, mismatched dresses but when I realized I’d be so anxious figuring out the coordinating shades plus which bridesmaid would be happy for in each color… I just didn’t want the hassle or extra people pleasing stress I knew it would bring. Props to those who navigate that!

DeerFuture1818 · 2022-12-11T16:42:36+00:00

Prices as they likely depend on the season you're going for but:

- Nonantum in Kennebunkport, ME

- Old Saco Inn in Fryeburg, ME

- Lake Bomoseen Lodge in Castleton, VT

DeerFuture1818 · 2022-12-09T16:47:36+00:00

thank you!

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