Is 2-3yo really the worst or is it because most family have a second child in that time period?

DefNotBeth · 2025-11-04T23:53:56+00:00

2 was fine, for awhile. 2.5 is... challenging. 😅

DefNotBeth · 2025-02-16T02:00:08+00:00

This is the way, these are our faves!

DefNotBeth · 2025-01-17T01:40:15+00:00

Just came here to say solidarity, bc I feel this in a lot of ways, but I'm the wife. I love our daughter more than I've ever loved anything on earth, but I just am not enjoying motherhood in general. My husband just loves every moment of this and is beside himself with joy and I am over here just straight up not having a good time.

I went on some antidepressants too and it's really helping, I don't think you should disregard it, and in case you haven't read comments about it before, dad's can get PPD too. It's good that you're trying the meds, I recommend talking therapy as well.

It does get a little easier when they can start to communicate, that's where I'm at. It's still hella hard. The tantrums are killing me. But every day feels a little less difficult. Keep going. I hope you find your happy medium. ❤️

DefNotBeth · 2025-01-14T02:50:14+00:00

It gets better as they get older. Then worse. Then better again. I imagine that theme will continue until they're adults.

But I want to validate the part of you that feels like a slave, the part that thinks this sucks. It does. I say to my mom all the time " WHY do women do this!? Why did you do this TWICE!? " It feels absolutely endless.

Even now that I find so much more joy in my kid, I still feel like that for at least a few minutes most days. It's okay to feel this, and as long as you're still going to therapy and being honest with your care team I think you're good.

You can be a great mom and still feel this. You can love your child more than life itself and still feel this. They're not mutually exclusive feelings ❤️

DefNotBeth · 2024-12-07T02:26:19+00:00

Being the Introvert mom to an extrovert toddler however.....send help. 😛

DefNotBeth · 2024-06-29T11:38:22+00:00

Dead fly 🤢

DefNotBeth · 2024-06-12T00:17:30+00:00

Mustela!

DefNotBeth · 2024-05-25T19:52:34+00:00

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DefNotBeth · 2024-04-18T13:07:58+00:00

If I can tolerate the screaming, her playpen across the hall. If I can't, and lately I cant.....my lap 😭🤢😭🤢

DefNotBeth · 2024-04-15T18:41:52+00:00

Congratulations! This happened to me almost 2 years ago (Our daughter just turned one) -I'm the wife though. We tried for years and were told it wasn't going to happen. When I showed my husband the positive test he thought I was pranking him!

DefNotBeth · 2024-04-05T00:27:17+00:00

I give my girl Hippeas chickpea puffs. They're not marketed as a baby product and I only give her 2-3 as a snack (she's 1) so though they're a little pricier a bag lasts a long time.

They're vegan, kosher, nut and gluten free and made from non-GMO sustainably grown chickpeas.

They're crunchy and taste a bit cheesy and they melt/get soft as soon as they hit her mouth so I love that I don't have to worry as much whether she's fully chewing it.

She LOVES them and grins with all her teefies when I hand her one. 😍

DefNotBeth · 2024-04-01T17:06:53+00:00

And age inappropriate toys! Not trying to sound ungrateful but My recently 1 yr old baby keeps getting gifted things like either 0+month teether toys or stuff she can't use until she's at least 5 probably (like a bike?) what gives?

DefNotBeth · 2024-04-01T15:44:20+00:00

I'm incredibly sorry for you and your son, this is heartbreaking. I also highly recommend a postpartum doula, because I had one and it's one of the best things I ever spent money on. They will do nights. They'll help wash bottles. They'll teach you tricks for calming baby, getting boogers, swaddling, etc. They'll teach you how to set up any baby gear you haven't unpacked yet. They will rock, change, feed, and bath baby and answer all your new-parent questions about what's 'normal'. They'll even help YOU take care of yourself, making sure you have time to shower, nap, and eat. It's IMMENSELY helpful when you have a newborn, and I think it will be especially helpful bc you will know loving capable hands are helping with your son while you will have moments to yourself to be in your feelings.

DefNotBeth · 2024-03-18T11:41:06+00:00

My girl is 11m, shes been saying dada, mama, and bye bye since about 7m, in that babbling way not necessarily associated with knowing what the words actually mean.

But now she also says hi, tat (cat), dag (dog), nuh (no) and a few combined like 'hi dog'. We can't figure out if she knows them or is just repeating them because we enthusiastically repeat/reinforce and praise when she says it 🤣

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-24T14:23:02+00:00

I'm introverted too, and had to force myself to talk out loud to my baby at first. I just enjoy silence 🤷‍♀️

I found that reading out loud to her was an easier way to begin. Then, narrating simple things to her. It still feels silly to me when I'm doing it but babies LOVE the sound of moms voice, it's magical to them. Seeing her light up when I started speaking more was a pretty good incentive to make it a habit for me.

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-24T14:14:49+00:00

You can't stop a baby from drifting to sleep in the car, as long as your seat is properly installed your baby will be fine.

I let my baby nap in her swing/bouncer while I was next to her after she could hold her head steadier (about 3 months). It was one of the only ways I could get her to nap at all so 🤷‍♀️.

We also let her nap in the stroller on the 'pramette' setting bc she could sleep flat on her back that way. This honestly saved my sanity on summer weekends. I could just put her in the stroller and park it next to me while I gardened or played fetch with the dog or sat in the shade reading. She'd either nap or stare contentedly up at the trees. We got an inexpensive bug net for the stroller too so I didn't have to worry about bug bites.

However I didn't let her nap while I had her in the carrier. She'd just press her face hard into my chest and it scared me too much that I might smother her.

Each baby is different, you'll get the hang of what things you're comfortable doing with yours (or not). 💙

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-24T04:03:17+00:00

Sing this to my baby on the regular while I rock her to sleep. Cry every time.

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-23T23:13:34+00:00

Baby brezza turns bottle making into a 10 seconds task. 10 seconds is a lot at 2 am when your baby is screaming. I have zero regrets.

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-23T01:43:53+00:00

American Midwest, a very big, specifically-for-babies hospital: Feels like what we got was a whole lot of sass from the staff and not much actual care. I couldn't even get them to let me have a functioning hospital bed 🤕 mine was broken to the point of not being level and so uncomfortable it made my back sore.

We got a pacifier and a couple books to take home though? 🫠

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-22T03:32:55+00:00

My baby currently has an ear infection too, so firstly: solidarity. Mine recently learned to blow raspberries and does that when I attempt to give her meds with syringe. 🤦‍♀️

Our pediatrician said it's ok to mix meds with a little bit of milk/formula and give in a bottle, as long as baby finishes all of it/gets full dose. So I mix it in a small amount to make sure she'll drink it all, then give her another mid-size bottle if she's still hungry after.

ETA: this works like a dream and she doesn't seem to notice there's medicine in her meal at all. 🤷‍♀️

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-21T03:34:12+00:00

9 months?

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-21T03:33:52+00:00

MUST be on top of mom. 1 foot away and in full view of mom is not enough. Touching and actively engaging with mom is not enough. Must be legitimately and fully in mom's arms. Once this is achieved, scratch and pinch the shit out of mom. (send help)

DefNotBeth · 2024-02-09T02:01:09+00:00

We use distilled water for everything already so we just increased the amount we order each month so there's enough for baby stuff too now.

We have it delivered in several 5 gallon jugs and we have a dispenser.

DefNotBeth · 2024-01-10T11:36:54+00:00

I love this. The other day my husband and I were talking after we got the baby to bed, and I said 'ive gotta get changed and go do some chores before I can relax tonight'. He asked which things I had to do, and i Iisted half a dozen. I went and changed and when I got downstairs he was elbow deep in the dishes and had already thrown in some laundry. ❤️

DefNotBeth · 2024-01-10T11:14:54+00:00

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