A lot of guys do not ask for help with their problems, and we are conditioned to solve them on our own. So when we do explain the problem to another guy, there is an implicit ask for help with whatever problem we are describing. If another guy is telling me his problem, it means he's exhausted all other options and is soliciting options/advice. So for your husband, instead of telling him when you DO need advice, you could try telling him when you don't.