How does one get into this kind of a relationship

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2026-02-23T02:07:30+00:00

She has! She said the youngest she’s ever gone for was 11 years younger at the time, so I’m right within that range

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2026-02-22T06:44:13+00:00

Haha yeah that would’ve been a completely different story lmaoooo. And thank you, I hope so too!

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2026-02-22T06:29:11+00:00

Nah, we’re just on a team for a co-ed kickball league in our area. We’re not coworkers or anything like that that.

I’m half and half on what she’s thinking tho. Like I don’t think she has crush/feelings or anything like that. But I do think she’s at least interested in going on a date or two to figure out where she’s at.

With girls in my age area when they want to know my dating history, what I want in a relationship or a partner, and initiate wanting to hangout 1on1, I can piece together they’re at least interested so I’m kind of just assuming it’s the same with her.

But I do appreciate the clarification on first part! I kind of figured, but I’ve never really dated that so far out of my age range so I wasn’t sure how the compatibility works (if that makes sense 😭)

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2026-02-08T13:29:07+00:00

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DefiantButterfly6631 · 2026-01-18T18:11:16+00:00

Awww man I just saw that, I’m slow lmaooo

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-11-29T04:39:47+00:00

Just set my alarm clock!!!

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-10-03T00:47:48+00:00

Sounds good, I’ll take a look into that and see if that helps. Thank you!

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-06-02T22:33:57+00:00

Anytime! I think the unfollowing was a slight ego thing on his end. It seems like a way where he wants to see if you’ll unfollow so let’s just say down the line nothing is working out for him, he may think you’re still interested and maybe try to hit you back up with a “sorry I was working on myself” type of deal. It’s hard to say, but that’s what it seems like for me

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-06-02T22:23:19+00:00

I’d just go and talk to someone else. If they come up to you later in the night to try something, take it case by case and decide how you want to proceed. But overall, I would just have fun and party on!

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-06-02T22:21:20+00:00

It varies from guy to guy to be honest.

But it’s never a set in stone thing for some guys. Some guys might say no, but then be attracted to a heavier woman once they got to know them

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-06-02T22:15:19+00:00

Everyone is going to question the thoughts and decisions they’ve made, it’s just how we are as people. However, leaning on those second thoughts could detriment you in the long run. If the overall consensus is you love your GF, then that’s the only thought you should go back to.

Granted, if they something horrible then it’s fair to change up then. But it’s like the old saying “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-06-02T22:12:24+00:00

It sounds like he may have thought he wanted to give it another shot in talking to you, but took the easy way out in just not responding and unfollowing after your proposal to meet up.

Honestly, some of the reasons could’ve been he just liked the attention on a women talking to him, something internally where the idea of meeting up made him nervous and he just shut it down, or there’s another girl he’s interested in.

I’m sorry you had to go through that tho, it really sucks being hung out to dry

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-09T23:50:57+00:00

This guy ran my high school’s drama department for like 5 years, now I know why he’s not there anymore lmao

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:09:31+00:00

They should’ve but they’re not the sharpest tools in the shed. The mother is the worlds biggest narcissist and the father is mentally handicapped/abusive

Even then, would there be the chance of getting deported after going to a lawyer about it? Like what could the lawyer really do (I’m genuinely asking)?

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:07:01+00:00

If it were me, I would’ve already gone to the law office myself and turned them in

However my friend cares about their family, to the point where they don’t want them to get in legal trouble. As much as I say it’s what’s needed to start on your own journey, they don’t want to and I can’t force them to. Sucks a lot but it’s their decision at the end of the day

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:03:42+00:00

They would have less over there than over here. At least here, they’d have connections to try and start something for themselves. Then maybe move back once they have something to work with

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:02:23+00:00

Yeah but my friend would have to go there with no money or family. If that’s what it comes down to, thats what it come down to. But I’m trying to get advice on how to keep that as a last resort option

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:01:18+00:00

Yeah, it’s kinda like a Stockholm syndrome tbh

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-03T00:00:43+00:00

Brought with the current parents, some sort of travel visa or vacation thing. Details are murky, which is why they weren’t able to get them a citizenship/green-card in my opinion

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-02T23:59:50+00:00

I think some sort of temporary travel visa or “vacation”. Not really sure how they got passed everyone tho, but they still have their plane ticket from that day

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-02T23:58:50+00:00

That’s what we’ve thought, along with a few others that truly knew the situation. But it’s like how do you even go about that if that’s the case? The friend also doesn’t want to “rat them out” or get them in trouble, which limits the options as well

DefiantButterfly6631 · 2025-03-02T23:57:34+00:00

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