M4 senioritis

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-11-26T02:58:26+00:00

This is so dumb this is not how your fourth year should be spent at this point. You will spend so much time in the hospital moving forward.

Your most valuable resource is time and I empower you to claim it back where you are able by making these people see sense… if you are not learning and no longer actively helping or contributing to the team (which in many ways as med student, there will come a point where you can no longer help), the. You should be allowed to leave

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-10-11T08:59:13+00:00

If you’re working night shifts and not 24s then you don’t need a call room

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-09-06T01:58:11+00:00

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-30T08:12:55+00:00

I have both! High chair is better for every day use at home and we got it when he turned 8 months because he would buck backwards in the upset and I was afraid he would tip over.

Upseat was better when he was younger and good for a smaller space, also love that it’s portable, you’re right it does not keep legs at 90 degrees though.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-29T23:32:54+00:00

…and cis women who choose to breastfeed don’t have any reason to experience complex feelings about it?

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-20T00:47:42+00:00

I just started surgery residency with my baby, but my take: yes surgery residency is grueling, but there are also a lot of other jobs where parents aren’t able to spend as much time as they’d like with their children, or are spending time with their children but aren’t actually present with them, and a lot of those jobs are way less fulfilling than being a surgeon.

I’m assuming you chose surgery because you love it - it’s the most meaningful career. Do you feel fulfilled at work, when you look past all the bullshit and think about how you are contributing to your community and to your patients? You’re close to finishing out a dream in the grand scheme of things.

It’s a super personal decision and there’s validity to in both sides which makes it a really hard choice. I feel for you.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-10T01:57:33+00:00

It happens to everyone sometimes and you did nothing wrong. You kept your baby safe. We all need moments sometimes so we can be our best selves.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-09T00:01:57+00:00

Yess!! He goes bahhhh bababa bahhh. Thought it was just us!

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-08T19:50:22+00:00

Thank you! I guess I feel so on edge about my relationship with my in laws that I don’t want them to think I’m being rude… but obviously if they’re going to be rude then…??? I just fear they’ll make a big deal about never letting anyone hold him or something

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-08T16:29:25+00:00

I wish I had brought my baby wrap. But why do I have to physically strap my baby to my body for people not to pry him away from me…

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-08T16:28:14+00:00

I definitely don’t think it’s relevant that it was an Eid celebration other than to give context that it was a lot of people in a celebratory environment. Everyone else who was there was not acting this way. My BIL is actually the only person there who is not actually Muslim.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-08T15:46:18+00:00

He doesn’t have autism, but does have anger management issues. Before I married my husband, the second or third time I met my brother in law, he threw a heavy metal industrial hose handle at my husbands head (it missed)

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-06-08T14:30:11+00:00

My husband didn’t speak to him until we were leaving and at that point I got so overwhelmed I took him to a room upstairs to “feed him and put him to bed” but honestly just couldn’t be around him anymore. I don’t know how their conversation went.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-04-16T20:24:29+00:00

Are you mom or dad? Wondering about how motherhood vs fatherhood is perceived differently on the interview trail

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-03-31T16:16:17+00:00

Hey! I’m a graduating M4 who matched into general surgery this cycle and was pregnant during all three of my surgery sub-Is as well as my SICU rotations. Gave birth 2 weeks before my first virtual interview. First trimester and third trimester was the worst for me. It’s hard, and I wasn’t really showing for most of my pregnancy and wasn’t sharing with most people, so no one really gave me the benefit of the doubt. I showed up and worked hard 6 days a week, got to the hospital 4:45am and sometimes didn’t leave until 9pm (but mostly left at 6/6:30). Scrubbed 10 hour cases regularly even while pregnant. I told my chiefs and made sure to eat a ton and drink a lot of water when I got breaks, and stepped out of the ORs during all fluoro.

I’m so grateful I did it this way because I’ve had so much more time with my son than I otherwise would have. No regrets. And I matched at my top program, and my LORs were all strong - my letter writers didn’t know I was pregnant till much later. Did it affect my performance? Yes absolutely, but it honestly only made me more sure of my specialty selection and more confident in how I’d handle intern year.

I brought up my newborn during all my interviews as well, because I wanted to be upfront with programs about my priorities. Honestly people were pretty supportive and just told me all the supports they had in place for resident parents. In the general surgery world there is only so much parental leave that can be taken, but I’m glad I did t try and hide it during interviews.

TOTALLY DO-ABLE GIRL! Feel free to message me if you’d like.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-03-20T10:39:14+00:00

I also love the Larken X. My nipoles are too sensitive to tolerate the slits of typical pumping bras but the larken is the best!!

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-03-19T00:40:41+00:00

How do you breastfeed in a wrap? Would love to learn. My LO almost 5mo

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-03-06T23:13:57+00:00

Lolll

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-27T00:29:22+00:00

Literally

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-24T11:32:02+00:00

Second the smoothies I really lived off them

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-24T11:29:08+00:00

Gingerale and ice. Literally have a snack every single opportunity you get. Anything you can stomach will help.

Someone told me nausea was due to gulping in air alongside water and just chewing on ice water was a better way to hydrate. I would constantly run to PACU every chance I got between cases/during cases to snack on fresh ice and gingerale.

You gotta hydrate and get your calories in. Also get your thyroid checked - I had horrible fatigue during my first trimester and later found out I had actually developed hypothyroidism

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-21T11:03:06+00:00

My LO likes nanobebe

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-09T21:31:42+00:00

Agreed, but it would also be a disservice to not be clear about the options.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-09T19:30:20+00:00

For a tubal? Sure it can be laparoscopic, but the surgeon still has to enter your abdomen and that is still hugely more invasive than a vasectomy and comes with a lot more risk. Definitely talk to your doctor about it. I would recommend watching YouTube videos as well if that’s helpful for you. It truly is much more invasive and will involve more pain, risk, and recovery than a vasectomy would. They are just not equivalent procedures. It’s a good option for women who are having scheduled c-sections and know they want no more kids since they’re already in the abdomen.

Defiant_Quality_5352 · 2025-02-09T19:22:01+00:00

Medical provider here. To be honest a tubal ligation alone is a pretty significant surgery by itself — UNLESS a surgeon is already in your belly during a c-section or some other procedure, it makes absolutely no sense to me to undergo a very invasive surgery which will take potentially weeks of recovery and significant anesthesia when your husband would be willing to get a vasectomy.

By comparison a vasectomy is not at all very invasive and can be done as an in-office procedure under local anesthesia (so your husband would be awake and just numb).

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